ONLYJOKINGS THREAD

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Hey OJ, just sending some love to you all today. I hope the chat with the SW gets results. xxx

Can you get the doctor to ask your MIL, in words of one syllable, whether she would be able to live with herself if he succeeds in committing suicide while in her care?

Sounds hard, but maybe she needs to hear it.

Is Steve still sufficiently aware to be allowed to discharge himself? If not, then surely the hopsital can refuse to discharge him as it would be you are hisnext of kin who would have the "power" to do so.

Flippin 'eck O.J. Your MIL raises my blood pressure, god knows what she does to you

I can't believe after everything she has now decided to play nurse!! Where was she before?!!!!!

The right place for Steve is to be at home with you once the care package is in place. You have been looking forward to some quality time with Steve,make sure you get in O.J. you both deserve it.

Let us know how you get on today.x.

they said that he would be sectioned if he tried to leave the hospice alone, wonder if MIL could be sectioned

Would leaving in the "care" of his mother be considered leaving "alone"?

she hasn't yet told staff. That she wants him at her house, she told one of our mates, she said he would be better off with her. She is clearly not able to look passed her own needs when what she should be doing is saying . Steve wants to go home how can I help him to get what he wants, how can we makeit work.

Hi oj, not been on one of your threads in ages, but I am keeping up with your news and thinking of you, Steve and the children.

I think that the staff at the hospice have got your MIL's number, they're just being very cautious over what they pass back to you. I expect they agree with you, and have a similar opinion about your MIL. They have Steve's welfare to consider first and foremost, and I think it will be obv to them that going home with MIL would be a disaster.

I don't know how, but I think you have to make Steve in some way wary of going to his mum's. It's not kind, or fair, to do that, but you're in a horrid position and needs must an' all that.

Thinking of you.

It must be unbearably frustrating for you OJ, when you're going to all these lengths to get Steve home, that that dang MIL thinks she can just do it all herself. Hopefully the hospice will have the foresight not to let her take him if they're insisting you need so much help to be able to keep him safe?

oj this is awful i really feel for all of you im in beeston now so if you need me shot and i'll do what i can

Lots of love, OJ. Thinking of you but don't know what to post - don't think you need any advice because you do it all so well all by yourself!

xxx

hope you managed to talk to someone helpful rather than your mil today OJ.

spoke to the consultant today she came in to see us she said the scan showed no change in the tumour
i spoke to her on my own later and raised my concerns about the deley in getting steve home not helping his current mental state. she will see what she can do, she also said that if MIL mentions taking steve home herself then she will be graphically clear about why it wouldn't be a wise move.
i am just taking the kids in to see steve we have a picnic planned

about her being graphically clear re :reasons for steve not going home with his mum. you need this kind of support.

happy picnicking!

Have a lovley picnic OJ, and yay for the consultant

Glad the consultant gave you so much lovely news! Enjoy your picnic!

Thats good news OJ, enjoy the picnic

Wonderful news, both that the tumour has not grown and that she is in your gang with ref to the monster in law.

Have a lovely family time. xx

great to read your news and that the consultant was so helpful. Hope you have a lovely evening

Glad the consultant was helpful.

Hope you enjoyed your picnic

So glad the consultant is with you on the MIL... sorry but had to laugh at Monster in Law.

Enjoy your evening with the children and Steve. xx

Your mil is a bloody nightmare, but at least the consultant will tell her exactly why Steve can't go home with her !!
Enjoy your picnic.
Best wishes and love to you xxx

Yes MONSTER in law ...love it!!!

we had a lovely picnic and left steve to spend the evening picking bit of pringles out of his bed!

Oj,

I hope you & Steve had a lovely cuddle .Its so important that you grab some special time for just the two of you. Lovely that you had a good picnic as well.

Glad the cons will not allow Steve to go home with him mum. His rightful place is with you & the children, nowehere else. I would talk to your MP, definitely. It can't hurt. Sounds like MIL is trying to vie for some control over Steve's life and the decisions made around it. She just doesn't seem to get that the decisions you have made have all been for HIS own good and for the good of your family.

Just wanted to say, sorry if my e-mail upset or offended you in any way. That is so not my intention. Sending you lots of love this evening and I hope that tomorrow brings some good news. Oh and great that the tumour hasn't grown . xxx

lol @ pringles!