Problem/Dependent Drinkers and Alcoholics (recovering or active) Support III

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Time for a new thread already!

Welcome to the thread, the purpose of this is to give anyone who is having any trouble with their drinking, a safe place to come and post about it honestly and without judgement.

There are many of us that use the thread for support and encouragement: some in recovery, others just needing a place to share about their worries. It's been going on in one form of another for a while now and has helped many people.

Thank you to all of those who have kept it going thus far, and welcome to anyone who has decided the time has come to ask for help.

Everybody's welcome, no matter what stage your drinking is at.

Jump right in, the water's fine

kokeshi

It's Sat evening and I'm still sober. Think I might manage two weekends in a row.

Had the kids unexpectedly this weekend so it was a relief to be striving to be sober.

House is not exactly a stress free haven of calm. Currently faced with wall to wall ironing etc but fortunately am to tired to do any. Sleep seems pretty attractive at the moment.

Hope everyone is having a good weekend. x

Glowwormish - it was fan-tastic! As recently as a year ago, we used to walk any and every weekend we could but because of work and other commitments recently, we've really struggled to find the time (and motivation). Today has definitely re-kindled the motivation factor...
Although i've nearly drunk a bottle of wine this evening and wonder just how tired I'll need to be not to want it! Am going for a sober Monday and Tuesday anyway...trying to extend it a day at a time...
Jellibabe - that is brilliant...weekends for me are definitely the 'high risk' times. I drink most nights but weekends I really go for it..well done you!
Gebra x

Dinny, have been mulling over your question...

I reckon the question is do you want to drink socially in the future or do you want to quit full stop? If you want to quit, there's your answer...but if you do want to drink socially, then maybe this is the time to try it out?

I may be giving you totally crap advice(!) but this is what I'd do if I was aiming for sensible drinking in the future, and not 100 abstension (is that a word?)...only considering how well you've done up to now. Didn't you have that rogue glass of champagne and that didn't turn everything upside down? That's a good sign?

Good luck with it anyway, you've done so well up til now...

Gerbra x

aw, bless ya, Gerbrajess

Yes, tbh I do want to be the following sort of person:

have some good wine if I go out for a meal
never drink at home
have an occasional glass of Pimm's/bubbly etc

Maybe if I made the rule that we don't have any alcohol at home (ie.holiday home) when away but can have a glass when/if we eat out. and also think I will make sure I don't drink on two consecutive days.

dh thinks I am making far too big a deal of it (though he is supportive and not drinmijg either) - he says "just don't have it in the house, and then have a drink if you go out etc"

hmmmm, I also feel quite nicely detoxed, but suppose less than 14 units over a week isn't going to retox me...?

will report back, we're off tomorrow!! xxxx

You sound like you're totally on top of it Dinny...
That's a good compromise though - agree not to have booze in the house and have a glass of wine or 2 if you go out - I reckon being able (and happy) to stop after 2 or so glasses of wine = a non-problem drinker?

You'll be fine. Have a fantastic time whereever you're off too...
Gerbra x

if I do, think I will have to switch to red wine as I tend to GLUG white...

we're off to Cornwall, going to be cold though!

Make sure you pack your thermals!

dinny I think your point about not drinking 2 evenings in a row is a good one. My cravings for alcohol definately increase if I've drank over more than one evening. Have a great holiday. x

thanks Jelli and Gebrajess!

we are here in a snowstorm trying to decide when to leave, dd and ds have made a huge snowman!

we're stopping off in Wiltshire on route, so not too long a haul today!

will maybe be posting from my scrummy new iPod Touch over the next few days xxxx

Is anyone around for a quick chat? I knwo I ahve been away for a while, but I used to be a reguylar...

hey paperchain. I'm here for a bit

I think we've chatted before (I used to post under calalily)

hello - yes I remmeber you!

I have been naswm and phoenixsoaring plus a couple of others I cant rmmeber

How are things?

are you OK?

I dont really know how I am. I am drunk (of course, I wouldnt ahve come back on mn if I wasnt). I have a lot on my mind at the moment and upset someone by acciednt this evening and I think I wanted some company

How are you

I'm alright really. pregnant, so not drinking (although I've had a glass on occaision with a meal), but struggling a bit with my depression as I stopped taking the ADs when I thought I might be PG. I can get back on them, but would rather wait until later on in my PG (I'm only 10 weeks)

It's good that you feel that you can post on here and that there is support for you when you are having a tough time. Have you been sober for a while and having a relapse? I remember reading some of your posts as naswm, but can't remember the specifics I'm afraid.

congrat DAisy, and well done for stoping drinking. Sorry to hear the depresson is bad. I dont knwo what to suggest. I wno there are some ADS you can take while pregranbt though. Have you told your midwfe how low you feel?

I had a 3 months peroipd of sobriety last year but now I am driunking again. I wish I wasnt an alcoholic but I dont want to stop drinking IYKWIM. I have a lot of crap in my life and find that if I dont drink I dont cope as well. whcih I know is ridiculous. but that is how it feels. I drink to cope. Period. I am too emabrassed to go on about the issues bothering me becuyase I wish I didn get so damn bogged down by the m

paperchain; I have to get off now as my DD needs a feed (still Bfing her through the night). I don't know if anyone else will be around tonight, but please come back again tomorrow. I'll check in again in the morning.

sorry I wasn't much use for a chat

nioght Daisy - it was lvoely to chat. I dont knwo if I will be aroudn this week. I am taking my DM in hopsital for an operation and then staying in her house (she doenst live near me( so I can visit her, and then she needs someone with her for a couple of days when she gets out. I hope I can access the internst somehow tho, or it will be a looong week. night PCx

Hi Paperchain,
I'm around for a while? You sound a bit down tonight - what happened when you said you'd upset someone (you don't have to say if you don't want to...)
Gerbra x

oh, cross posts. DH is trying to settle DD without a feed.

I know how you feel about using alcohol to cope with things. I wish I had some words of wisdom for you, kokeshi and teasle are great for that. I can totally relate to the whole not wanting to stop drinking thing. I feel that this pregnancy has just deferred my alcohol issues for a few months, and that after the baby is born they'll be back again as I know I'll want to drink again as I miss it so much.

I really must go now, as DD isn't for settling with DH, but please come back tomorrow

take care xx

oh good, I'm glad someone is around and I'm not leaving you in the lurch.

hi gerbra, bye gerbra

Bye Daisy

thansk Daisy

Hi Gebra - hgave we met?

I am ok, not really down (well no more than usus al lol!) I dont like upsetting people thats all. Dont want to say mroe abotu ti if you dont mind.

Tell me about you, I dont think we have met, have we??

before I go....New Thread

No Paperchain we haven't met...(I don't think!).
Don't worry if you don't want to say...it may not have been as bad as you think though?

My story if fairly basic - I drink too much! I had eating disorders in the past and think I have passed the problem onto drinking (my eating problems seemed to have eased).

Had a big weekend this weekend and admitted to DP I was drinking far more than he thought I was - he was incredibly supportive but quite surpised to hear the truth. Where to go from here though is the challenge...

Did you post a while back then? I'm a relative newby...
Gerbra x