Problem/Dependent Drinkers and Alcoholics (recovering or active) Support III

[ornamentalhaggis]

Time for a new thread already!

Welcome to the thread, the purpose of this is to give anyone who is having any trouble with their drinking, a safe place to come and post about it honestly and without judgement.

There are many of us that use the thread for support and encouragement: some in recovery, others just needing a place to share about their worries. It's been going on in one form of another for a while now and has helped many people.

Thank you to all of those who have kept it going thus far, and welcome to anyone who has decided the time has come to ask for help.

Everybody's welcome, no matter what stage your drinking is at.

Jump right in, the water's fine

kokeshi

HI Coco- I've met loads of really nice people in AA. People have all sorts of weird perceptions about what its like, but they are quite laughable if you're actually a regular.

Thanks for the replies. I hope I didn't come across as critical or offensive in anyway.

Don't be daft!

LOL teasle

Thank you for your kind words and encouragement, I am really going to try and learn from this.

It does feel like a big blow, emotionally. I don't want this to be a slippery slope back to where I was before, because I can see now just how unhappy I was and the negative impact drinking had on my family life.

So I think bottom line is that I am now scared and want to do better. Perhaps there was a little bit of pride coming before a fall, (I felt I was doing well and had it all under control), and this shows me that drinking is a deal breaker for me at the moment.

No! It's good that you asked! There are laods around if you wanted to see for yourself:

AA meeting finder

In the fields you can put 'glasgow women', or 'manchester tuesday' for example, and it will come up with a list that meet your criteria.

Complacency and a wee bit of arrogance all worked againest me in the beginning jaoi. I still have to be ever vigilant and I try not to take my sobriety for granted. It's easier to forget how bad it once was and start romanticising about the 'good times'...

I know what you're going through, really but please don't beat yourself up too much. It's just a blip, you'll get back, you already are. You're even posting on this thread now, whcih is progress too! See, it served a purpose. Now, don't disappear on us! Glad to have you on the thread.

I'm still here!

Mostly lurking however.

Am sick today - but not from hangover .

Joai it was very similar with me- I had periods of sobriety, and then thought I would be ok...but then the whole cycle started again.

Welcome to the thread x

same here, joai!

Hi expat- good your feeling shite I suppose eh?

i'm on a flat Sprite bender here, teasle .

ooh expat, is that good news then missus? I passed a wee place today on the way down from Aberdeen that was the same name as your surname. I thought of you. Hope you're OK.

Jaoi, I'm still very much an active drinker, but as an active drinker I have to say you've done so well...what you've managed is a serious achievement!
Hope everyone's had a good weekend. Feel a bit glum that both days have been marred by hangovers, but I did that myself so not a huge amount of room for self pity...
gerbrax

I'm ok!

Little bean is 9 weeks old and has a beating heart.

Have a repeat scan in a few weeks.

Expat!!!!

oooh, sending the wee bean some love and light to keep it strong! So pleased for you expat, we're with you all the way in this.

That's totally fab news expat!

Hugs to you and 'little bean'

Expat

I would like to join in tonight too. It's like weightwatchers isn't it?

Gosh the thread is moving so quickly lately is hard to keep up!

Morning Jellibabe - I'll be doing it tonight, will be the first alcohol free night in a long time. Woke up in the middle of the night and was sweating buckets (yuk!) - I thought that was supposed to happen when you stop drinking/cut down?
Thread has been busy hasn't it, but some of that was me talking to myself on saturday
Hope everyone's well - will check in tonight to see how everyone's doing...
Gerbrax

p.s. was reading on another thread (I can't remember if it was old or active) about someone's mum who was apparently having major problems with alcohol.
The poster said she was drinking 2 wine BOXES a day - I can't believe that's even possible? My heart goes out to both mum and daughter, that must be truly awful...

Gerbra, sweating during th night could be a withdrawal symptom. Withdrawal is any period of time that you don't have 'enough' alcohol in your system when you're dependent. If you're drinking on a daily basis then relief drinking is probably something that you do anyway without realising. That's when you start to feel uncomfortable, restless, shaky, irritable and want to crack open the wine ASAP. The more you drink, the higher your tolerance and the earlier you'll start to feel this in the day.

So who's all doing this monday night thing then? Hey, count me in. What I would say is to prepare as much as possible, get yourself in some nice things to eat and drink, pcik a good movie or a book. Have a few different activities available if you get restless. Make it as difficult as possible for you to obtain drink. If you have thoughts about popping down to the offie, try holding off for 10 minutes, then another, then another. Distract yourself as much as you can. Come on here and post anything, doesn't matter if it's drivel, it's just a distraction. I always found that the last half an hour before the off-licence shut was torture. Once you make it over 10pm, the danger is taken away. Make sure your partners/family/friends know what you're trying to do and ask them to support you in this.

It's a nice day today up here, I hope the weather is changing for the better. This has been a loooooooong winter.

Hi all, still catching up every day with the thread and please count me in for tonight. I need to lose some weight and know the only way is to not drink soooooooo much!

Oh dear Kokeshi - that doesn't bode well for tonight! The thing i'm most worried about is not being able to sleep. I have terrible trouble sleeping when I've not been drinking - if I can crack that I reckon that's half the problem for me...glad there's so many people giving it a go tonight...
Gerbra x