Problem/Dependent Drinkers and Alcoholics (recovering or active) Support III

[ornamentalhaggis]

Time for a new thread already!

Welcome to the thread, the purpose of this is to give anyone who is having any trouble with their drinking, a safe place to come and post about it honestly and without judgement.

There are many of us that use the thread for support and encouragement: some in recovery, others just needing a place to share about their worries. It's been going on in one form of another for a while now and has helped many people.

Thank you to all of those who have kept it going thus far, and welcome to anyone who has decided the time has come to ask for help.

Everybody's welcome, no matter what stage your drinking is at.

Jump right in, the water's fine

kokeshi

i hope everyone is having a good easter and not finding things too difficult.

Can you only join this thread if you're not drinking? I'm drinking every night but know I shouldn't be.

Raises elderflower cordial to everyone.

I'm a born pessimist, though, daisy , I assumed it would happen to me again.

Anyone else finding this weather incredibly depressing?

I had to break out my SAD lamp again.

I'm getting so worn down by how wet and cold it is here.

It seems to have completely zapped my mojo.

HI Coco- no its for anyone who thinks they have a problem with drink.
Welcome to the thread how are you?

Hi Expat,

I was worried after reading back our chat last night, I just wanted to apologise if I came across as flippant in any way (reference to having 2 DD so that's good etc.). Reading it back, I think that may have seemed quite ignorant...and indeed it would be as I haven't been in your situation. I honestly didn't mean it to be flippant/insenstive and I hope you didn't take it in that way...

Hope you're doing fine today and have enjoyed the annabel caramel rice cripsie cakes!

Sending positive thoughts...
Gerbra x

and believe you me, people who don't drink still have problems with drink .

well, some of them who don't .

hence, recovering or active!

Expat- wise words my lovely!

hi cocobear . all welcome here, whether drinking or not drinking or thinking about stopping.

how is your DD? you were on the June 07 AN thread with me (I was daisybump then)

teasle, you've changed back; I was just lolling at the name change

Thanks Daisy- yes, can revert back to normal now. God I was beastly for a few days there.

Hi, thanks for the welcomes.

But Daisy I wasn't on that thread, you're mixing me up with someone else. (Although my DD2 was born Xmas 2006, so I would have been briefly pg at the same time as you!)

I'm drinking every night at the moment, I look forward to it all day, though I don't get drunk. I never drink more than a bottle of wine, and mostly significantly less. Every day I think maybe I'll have a night off tonight, and every night I open a bottle!

I'm going to be TTC in a couple of months, so I need some will power from somewhere.

Do you wait to open the bottle? Is it at a set time, like say, after the kids go to bed?
So then there is a build up as the hour of wine time draws closer?

Do you wait to open the bottle? Is it at a set time, like say, after the kids go to bed?
So then there is a build up as the hour of wine time draws closer?

Yes, more or less as soon as the kids have gone to bed. Never before, except at weekends we might open a bottle with lunch. It sort represents my time, being off duty.

I always liked a drink, but I'd have nights off and limit my intake. Since DD2 came along I've been on ADs and seem to have no will-power anymore. I just have a WTF attitude. It's like I can't scare myself into submission, and I'm carrying an extra stone in weight and can't motivate myself to care all that much about that either. I don't feel depressed anymore though.

there was a cocobear on our June thread; I just assumed you were one and the same . I was on the December 06 thread very briefly at the beginning, but an early MC put an end to that.

hope everyone has had a good weekend. We went to Eureka in Halifax today and had to queue for ages to get in; why we chose the bank holiday I just don't know. It was sooo busy you couldn't get near any of the exhibits and we kept losing DS in the crowd. No concessions for kids over the age of three either, which is such a bloody rip off! Only babies under 1 were free

Was there another Coco Bear? grrrr. I wonder if she's still around?

At least you made the effort to get out today, Daisy. We just stayed in going TOTALLY stir crazy and the kids were just spinning around and bouncing off the walls (the chocolate didn't help).

How long have you been on this thread?

Some AD's I found had the exact same side effects on me, CocoBear!

And really, I think you need to talk to your GP about these effects, because it's not usually a good idea to drink on ANY AD (although like you, I have, to excess) and you may need to look at changing meds.

I've just ignored the bit on the medical info that comes with the ADs saying it is not advisable to drink. I've always mixed medication and drink, I've never understood people who say I'm not drinking, I'm on anti-biotics or whatever. I will have a word with the GP, she has no idea I'm drinking, as I've not mentioned it!

It's become a way of switching off, especially because I'm stressed to high buggery over DD2's SN. I even started smoking again for a while, but managed to knock it on the head after a couple of months.

Anyway, enough, how are things today Expat?

I've been her on and off since around Septmeber I think, but I did lurk for ages before I posted. I then felt bad about carrying on drinking and didn't post for ages, again lurking, but I found that when I was posting I wasn't drinking as much so started posting again.

Like expat, I'm on an enforced not drinking thing, although I have had a glass of wine with a meal on a couple of occasions. The temptation is very much still there though. I really miss it (but only red wine though; I could happily leave any other type of alcohol).

I do wonder if it's just a habit with me though as I used to be the same with cigarettes, getting in a panic of there weren't any in the house. I also never smoked in the day; only at night after DS was in bed and then I would chain smoke from getting home until going to bed. I gave up cigs when I got pregnant with my 9mo old DD and have never felt inclined to start again. Maybe this pregnancy will do the same with red wine.

haven't seen the other cocobear around for ages.

Well, tbh, I always drank on meds, too. It think a lot of the literature they give you about that is of the CYA variet (cover your ass) to keep them from getting in trouble.

BUT, when I was on sertraline, I found out I drank a lot. It completely made me lose all mojo/willpower at all, and for some odd reason, it gave me a HUGE tolerance and no hangover.

I went back and talked to the GP about it, though, because it started to bother me.

I'm feeling fine, Coco, thanks for asking. The pregnancy symptoms are diminishing and I still has some spotting this morning, so again, I think it's another missed m/c.

But for once it's been dry, which is a huge mood improver, although it's cold.

I was exactly the same with fags, daisy!

When I smoked, it was before I had kids.

I never smoked at work.

But the second I got behind the wheel of my car for my 1+ hour commute, out came the fags.

oh and I found that when I was at my drinking peak (a bottle a night on average), i might as well not have been taking the ADs. When I cut right back to a couple of bottles a week I felt so much better; Now I'm not drinking and I stopped the ADs I feel OK; good days and bad days, but generally much better than when I was on the ADs and drinking as well.

My psychiatrst told me that the alcohol counters the effect of the ADs so it's better not to drink when on them.

I still have to watch it, because DH is a smoker so it's far to easy to ask him to roll me one.