Problem/Dependent Drinkers and Alcoholics (recovering or active) Support III

[ornamentalhaggis]

Time for a new thread already!

Welcome to the thread, the purpose of this is to give anyone who is having any trouble with their drinking, a safe place to come and post about it honestly and without judgement.

There are many of us that use the thread for support and encouragement: some in recovery, others just needing a place to share about their worries. It's been going on in one form of another for a while now and has helped many people.

Thank you to all of those who have kept it going thus far, and welcome to anyone who has decided the time has come to ask for help.

Everybody's welcome, no matter what stage your drinking is at.

Jump right in, the water's fine

kokeshi

How's everyone doing? I've just been to a meditation course and I feel all serene!

Hi Kokeshi,
You probably aren't around any more. This has been the week from hell work-wise and am just finishing up for the day...same plans for tomorrow...who'd be self-employed?
Also as predicted, am sitting here with a glass of wine and (sadly) loving every minute!
Teasle - thanks for the no-nonsense advice...I know you're right but you summed it up - it's f***g hard!!!
Have had Pride and Prejudice on in the background. A scene was actually filmed on some downs near where I used to live...on the day they were there, there was a group of us up there getting in their way when they were filming, very funny! Kept one eye on it the whole way through but it seems they cut the scene, too many irritating locals in the way perhaps? They planted the whole place (acres and acres) with fake fabric poppies, amazing!
Hope everyone's well...happy easter to all...
Gebrax

I'm here!

About to go prepare the roast to put in the slow cooker for tomorrow.

I have had some bleeding today and things don't feel right down below, so I'm not very hopeful this one will stick.

Will just wait for nature to take its course and ring the GP surgery on Tuesday - they are closed Monday - unless it all gets really heavy.

An MN who had many miscarriages said it's not so bad after the first one. And she is right.

Although, we have decided after this not to try anymore.

At 37, I feel 'done' and my body needs a break, so I'll be looking at tubal ligation after this whole episode is over.

But I feel pleased in that I have come a long way.

Before, when any sort of stress occurred, I turned to drink first and foremost.

But it just made everything worse.

So now I don't want to go there anymore and be a wreck.

And I feel very blessed to have two beautiful girls - although one still has the trots.

Hope you ladies are doing well tonight!

Oh god expat - I'll keep everything crossed for you. As you said, you have two beautiful girls though, although I'm sure it still can't be easy when you don't know what exactly is going on. Having never experienced that situation, I can't imagine how it must feel...
Everyone is gearing up for easter and i'll be alone and working tomorrow [poor me!] as DP has gone to see family. I do have my trusty hound with me though, which is something.
hope everyone's tucking into choccies and enjoying the break with family and friends...
gerbrax

It's not as bad as first time round, gerbra, it really isn't.

I feel strangely like 'Que sera, sera'.

DH made rice crispie treats with white chocolate and stuffed them into plastic eggs, and I need to go and hide these things before the girls wake up, stuff some other ones and hide some around the house before bed.

Egg hunt!

Also want to nibble a bit of chicken before bed.

Anyhow know how long frozen wine lasts?

I'm using some cheap plonk on the slow cooker roast, but need to freeze the rest for later cooking.

Not a clue - no wine in my house has ever got to the freezing stage!
WHITE choc rise crispies - now there's something I haven't tried, and I like to think of myself as a choc conosseur [spelling?] Tried 100% dark choc the other day, it was like eating a piece of leather...strangely moreish though...

it's an annabel karmel recipe

who? annabel caramel? This probably gives away the extent of my culinary expertise... !

theyaretasty

wow they do look good! Bought a pack of mini choc bunnies in anticipation of easter, before I knew mine was cancelled, so think I will eat them all tomorrow - you've got to celebrate no?
Am off to bed now, good night Expat and anyone else on the thread...
Gerbra x

p.s. have been watching the other thread with real interest Expat and Kokeshi..I'm totally with you, take from it what want...as you said, the help is free and the number of meetings must bear testiment to the fact the whole philosophy is helpful...I'm not religious but if/when I get to the stage of looking for outside help, I won't think twice about approaching AA...
Goodnight x

expat
any advice you need on tubal ligation...am here or email me on carol kenton at @hotmail. com
had mine done in 2002, prob the worst thing i ever did but hey well...drop me a line hun x x x

Expat I'm sure you must have mixed emotions and really admire your attitude. xx

Hope you are ok expat.

God expat, I missed this last night, my heart goes out to you. Not fair that some people should have to go through so much is it? Sending you lots of positive thoughts and hope you have a lovely easter with the DD's.

We're hopefully going a run in the Bongo today,we had it at the garage for about 2 months so it's fab to get it back.

Gerbrajess, DP and I have our own business too and I know what you're talking about. It's the insecurity, I think of never having a guaranteed amount of money, and also if you don'' work, you don't earn. It's more like having a demanding child, a small business. The autonomy is great but the hours stink!

Take care and hope you feel better. Hi to everyone else.

By the way, just for the benefit of anyone reading this thread, I am an AA member and would recommend AA because it worked for me and a helluva lot of people I know. We're not all god-bothering bores! I actually got sober via doctors, hospital admissions, inpatient rehabs and out-patient detoxes and the all worked to get me where I am now. Whatever you do to stay sober, then that's absolutely the right way for you.

HAve a lovely easter sunday.

Happy Easter all!
Expat I'm not on here for long but just wanted to say hope you're okay today...
Gerbrax

p.s. You're so right Kokeshi - in a bizarre way I think I have less freedom as a freelancer than I did as an employee!

Hoppy Easter everyone!

How's everyone's day going?

Are your kids stuffed with chocolate?

Mine are.

I've got a two-year-old teething from HELL who is still findint a way to eat choccie.

I'm doing okay, still spotting but also still quite nauseated. I'm at peace with whatever happens, because we are blessed to have a terrific family already.

Thanks, PurpleOne! DH would have a vasectomy, but I like the fact taht with a tubal it's instantly effective. I wish they'd allow you to have the Fallopian tubes removed, so there's no risk of ectopic pregnancy, but I don't think anyone does this unless your tubal has failed.

I froze the wine! I poured it but the glassful into small freezer bags, so now when I have a recipe that calls for a glass of wine it's ready to go.

Not that we're likely going to be able to get any tea down these girls.

Kokeshi, that Bongo is fab! Everytime DH sees one, he thinks of you.

Thankfully, it's been pretty dry, for here, but a bit chilly.

There are some brave folks out sea kayaking on the loch, however!

Expat, sorry to hear about this.

Spotting doesn't always mean a MC, I had spotting on two occasions when pg with DD1 after a MC. Thinking of you and hoping for the best anyway.

Thinking of joining this thread but DH needs the computer, so will come back later.

Thanks, coco!

I had it with both girls, but deep down, I knew the pregnancy had stuck.

Whereas these past two times, I feel deep down that it hasn't.

I also feel less pregnant after the spotting, same as last time.

But, I'll just ring the surgery on Tuesday and ask them to book me the scan.

There's nowt anyone can do about it now and, as I said, I feel very blessed to always have a lovely family.

If you're still feeling nauseous that's often a good sign. I hope you don't have to wait long for the scan on Tuesday, it must be tough time for you.

oh, i'm just going ot phone the surgery on tuesday and get them to see when they can get me a scan.

the nausea's decreased and i'm not feeling so pregnant, so i think it's a lost cause.

at least, this time, i'm going to take someone's advice and make sure they don't show me the screen and wait till i'm dressed and out of the corridor before giving me any news.

I hope you don't have to wait ages. Did you have to wait a while last time?

My heart really goes out to you, I know what it's like.

no, i had it the next day.

i'm not bothered by waiting, though.

what's done is done.

there's nothing further that can be done about it one way or another.

expat, I just saw your posts about spotting I hope things are OK and it's just one of those things. I lost all symptoms when I was pregnant with DD at about 9 weeks and was convinced I'd miscarried again. We went for a private scan and I was utterly shocked to see that things were fine.

fingers crossed it's all ok for you.

I'm not sure about 2nd MCs being easier than 1st. Physically not so bad becasue you know what to expect, but emotionally I found it much more difficult; partly because I was sure it wouldn't happen to me again.