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The Phobics Support Group - Bring Your Neuroses Here!

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ItllBeLonelymumThisChristmas · 03/12/2004 12:35

Hello phobics everywhere! This thread is a continuation of the thread entitled Does anyone have a debilitating phobia? in case anyone is interested and wants to read up from the beginning.

I have "come out" on Mumsnet and admitted to a phobia of being sick and seeing people being sick and so have quite a few other people! I have been to my GP, thanks to the advice of Mumsnetters and am now awaiting therapy. However, I think a lot of us are getting some light therapy right here, just talking about our fears and knowing we are not alone. Plaes e feel free to join in if you want to, and I hope all the old-timers find their way here.

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AimsmumTheRedNoseReindeer · 22/12/2004 20:53

Well that one would be easy to solve LM, if only they listened eh??
How are you feeling now? Are you still feeling as ill and a bit down??
Do you think it is to do with the stress of christmas?

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ItllBeLonelymumThisChristmas · 22/12/2004 20:56

Not feeling so ill anymore but I am losing weight hand over fist (there is another thread about that under health). The children are driving me mad and I have never felt less like Christmas before in my life but perhaps it will all come right when I go to my mums and dads. How about you? How are you spending Christmas?

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AimsmumTheRedNoseReindeer · 22/12/2004 21:04

Yeah I saw the other thread about all the weight you are losing. Do you just not feel like eating at all?
Hopefully once you get to your parents you will feel a bit better and at least there will be more people about to entertain the kids and you might get a bit of a break and be able to relax and enjoy the day.
I'm going to my mums for xmas day too. But the DDs dad is taking her for boxing day and I'm not really looking forward to that....will have to find something to do that day to take my mind off it.

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ItllBeLonelymumThisChristmas · 22/12/2004 21:10

Oh sorry about that. Don't look at the thread entitled I wish... as I wrote something on there that you would not agree with!
Yes, I am hoping good old mother's cooking will put me right.

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AimsmumTheRedNoseReindeer · 22/12/2004 21:36

Don't be silly Lm (I had a look at the I wish thread) I understand how you could want a break as well as anyone, especially when you are feeling low, and you did paint a rather tempting picture of your ideal christmas . Its not really the issue of not having DD with me, its just that I know there will be a whole lot of hassle that will go with it and I cant be bothered with it at this time of year. Exps parents fill her head with rubbish and she always comes home all upset, but its less bother to let her go than to argue with him not to take her to his parents IYKWIM.
Christmas eh, luckily its only once a year

Lonelymum · 03/01/2005 18:56

Hello Ladies. How are we all this year?

Lonelymum · 08/01/2005 14:28

Has everyone taken a new years resolution not to post on this thread anymore? I can understand if that is the case, but I miss the support.

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Lonelymum · 08/01/2005 15:03

Sorry to hear that Hausfrau but glad that you feel you coped quite well with it. My last experience with ds3 just before Christmas (he had a chest infection and was sick once with it) went well too but I find the younger they are, the easier it is in a way. Anyway, glad someone is speaking to me here. Was feeling a bit lonely. Have to go now as I spend so much time on the internet, dh is looking into changing to Broadband and needs to phone up about it.

bluemoon · 08/01/2005 20:49

Hello everyone! I had a dp 'tummy' incident last weekend and handled it dreadfully! He wasn't sick (he hardly EVER is) but had diarrhea all through the night and I was convinced it would be a tummy bug so subsequently starved myself this week apart from drinking. I react so violently to the possibility that I might be sick. I think I felt kind of 'immune' to that possibility in the way you describe LM but in November 03 dp, dd and I had an awful tummy bug and for the first time since I was about 9 I was really sick (apart from morning sickness which I did have badly but that was different). Since then I've totally lost my faith in the fact that I just won't be actually sick and now I imagine I'll get everything going. As it turns out it probably wasn't a bug that dp had at all so I've spent the week losing a few more pounds for no good reason.

I feel pathetic.

Lonelymum · 09/01/2005 12:13

With all these weight losing threads around right now Bluemoon, I was going to say no it doesn't matter, look upon it as losing a few extra pounds put on at Christmas, but then I realised you probably don't have any extra that needs losing. How was your Christmas? How did the stay with the in-laws go? I thought about you a few times over Christmas. I managed to put on some of the pounds I lost before Christmas (probably lost for the same reason you lost yours because I was convinced we were going to get a bug which we didn't in the end - how stupid is that? at least your dp had some physical symptoms!) Did you manage to eat anything cooked by your in-laws?

bluemoon · 09/01/2005 13:14

Well, it was ok LM because I managed to hide how little I was eating quite well! I do manage to eat a bit more at my mums but at MIL's it's impossible. I tend to try to cram something in when she's out / not around or last thing at night. It's a bloody nightmare to be honest. I'm sick of it and this last week's been horrible.

I'd SO love to be NORMAL.

Newbarnsleygirl · 09/01/2005 13:20

Lonelymum, has seeing a therapist helped you at all or has it helped anyone else? I've been considering seeing one for a year now but I'm a bit bothered that I'll spend all that money and it might not help!

Lonelymum · 09/01/2005 14:59

I haven't seen a therapist yet Newbarnsleygirl. I was referred to one by my GP before Christmas, but I haven't heard anything since. I have severe doubts that she will be able to do anything for me but, like most other peole on this thread, I am so miserable and desperate about my situation that I felt I had to try something.

What is it that you are thinking of seeing a therapist about? What to talk about it? It hs helped me a bit to talk to like-minded people here.

Poor old you Bluemoon. You sound really down. I meant to say, if it's any consolation, I would have starved myself in just the same way if my dh had had a tummy bug. You may not be leading a normal life, but you are not alone eiher.

Newbarnsleygirl · 09/01/2005 15:05

I feel a bit weird saying so but since I had dd I've had this phobia and/or anxiety of knives. I hate seeing them, using them or hearing about them.
I saw a lady who worked for a team called PLATT (something to do with PND) and she kind of helped me or should I say I always felt really positive after I had seen her.
Like everyone else I just wish I could feel normal and not get so anxious. It's always worse when DH works away.
I hope people don't think I'm a weirdo now or think I'm strange.

Lonelymum · 09/01/2005 15:15

Not at all NBG. Actually a phobia of knives seems quite sensible because they really could cause a lot of damage in the wrong hands (sorry, hope I am not stressing you by saying this). Does it stop you from leading a normal life? I mean, do you not do things to avoid a situation with knives?

Newbarnsleygirl · 09/01/2005 15:29

Not really, it used to though. I could'nt bring myself to look at them and actually wanted to put them away in a cupboard!
It started about 2 weeks after I had DD, it was the first time I had gone out since having her and we had visited some family. When we left I was putting dd in the car and banged her head on the roof of the car as I was putting her in her seat. I was mortified at the time. Later that day dd would'nt drink her milk and was wriggling about and I this image of me hurting her with a knife came into my head from nowhere. I had a similar thing when I was 15/16 and it bothered me then but I eventually forgot about it and that was that.
I don't know wether it was the stress of the day and me banging her head on the car that contributed to it and it's somehow connected but what I do know is that I hate it and wish it would bugger off back where it came from!!!

Lonelymum · 09/01/2005 15:34

So you have an uncontrollable image of hurting your dd with a knife? I used to have something similar in that someone would be talking to me and I would have this urge to kick them in the face or punch them in the stomach or something. Then I would think they could read my mind and knew that was what I was thinking! I don't seem to have those thoughts anymore. Perhaps your knife image will go with time. Do you think there is more to it than that? eg do you find your dd difficult? have you been threatened with a knife yourself? Perhaps I am asking too many questions here. Please feel free to ignore this.

Newbarnsleygirl · 09/01/2005 15:40

No it's ok. I did get quite stressed when dd was younger as dh worked alot and he has this thing about dd going on a bus so don't get to go anywhere and family live 50 miles away. I got quite upset that I would be stuck in the house alot but dd is very good we're very lucky.
Never been threatened although my mum and dad have but I've never thought very much of it IYKWIM.

Newbarnsleygirl · 09/01/2005 17:04

Hope I did'nt scare you off with my weirdness lonelymum!! It's nice to know that I'm not the only that gets strange thoughts.

Lonelymum · 09/01/2005 17:32

No not scared off NBG. I am running to the computer inbetween baking for the family. The baking is coming to a head at the moment.

mumtochloe · 12/01/2005 11:36

I'm Back!!

Sorry - been really busy. hope everyone is ok. I have taken a deep breath and booked a GP appointment for myself on Friday. DD has had the coughing / sick bug and I overheard a mum at the school gates saying her DD had been being very sick and I just went cold. I had to fight myself to take DD to school and spend all day/night full of anxiety. I am going to ask my GP for stemetil and ask to see a therapist. Has anyone else seen a GP about this?

New Barnsley mum - where are you? I have family there and am there quite a lot?

Hope you are all well - please keep posting - this thread makes me realise I am not alone.

xx

Newbarnsleygirl · 12/01/2005 11:59

Hi, I'm in Mapplewell. Near the co-op if that makes any sense to you! Are you nearby?

mummylonglegs · 12/01/2005 15:56

Oh, hello everyone. I'm another emetophobe. It's hell. Similar to others here I'm afraid to cold sweats the minute I hear another mum mention that their child has been sick. I instantly imagine all the things dd will touch that their child might have touched first. Dd's 2.3 by the way and the other day we were at playgroup and she kept putting these bits of plastic 'play' food in her mouth and all I could think was 'bug bug bug'. I'm terrified at the prospect of being sick myself, especially when out and about. I only work 2 days a week and I usually don't eat then as I have to negotiate public transport - I'm terrified of being / feeling sick on a bus.

Sorry this is a blurb. I've been living with this since I was about 7 I think. When do you think you guys first started with the phobia?

mumtochloe · 13/01/2005 10:08

Hello and Welcome Mummylonglegs. Its amazing how common this phobia is, there must be loads more like us out there too.

I think mine started when I was about 14 - I used to get into trouble at home for being sick and I this is when I remember it starting to affect me. Are you worse when it is you who is sick or your family?

NewBarnsley girl. I have fmaily in Wombwell but live in Sussex. Is Mapplewell close?