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No Smoking but lots of Chatting...Successful thread #2

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charliecat · 08/11/2004 19:47

New Home for us Girls!

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charliecat · 21/11/2004 14:43

We will get up a new thread for you with a less obvious title when you take the plunge mamated!
Since im sure youll spend a lot of time ranting on here as we do!
DDs are 4 and 7 today...managed to have them on the same day 3 years apart Had the party yesterday and its just been all the pressies today. House full of wrapping paper and zillions of toys. Have got to drag the poor wee mites out to Tescos or else we will have nothing for lunch boxes this week.
I have reset my counter, it made it final IYKWIM. The last 23 hours have been VERY long and thoughts of the fact ive ballsed it up have been preying on me and setting the timer back to zero felt proactive.
I always knew this, but its clearer than ever that a bad day without fags isnt half as bad as a bad day smoking. Its a double whammy of shittyness.
In fact the first half of today wasnt bad it was only the smoking that was.
Onwards and upwards...

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charliecat · 21/11/2004 14:45

Originally there was just 3 of us by the way...we have managed to hook quite a few others in which is lovely and feel free to read through, we started these threads back in September I think...

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mammya · 21/11/2004 15:28

Oh Prefernot and Charliecat, I'm so sorry! Don't feel too bad about it, it's such an easy thing to do! As long as you don't think " it I'm a smoker" and light another one it will be OK.

Welcome Mamated, if you've managed 11 months without smoking then surely you can do it again! I did the same as you by the way, gave up in May 2003 and started again in Sept 04. ON the plus side I found it much easier to give up this time round, perhaps because I hadn't been smoking that long. Are you going to use nicotine substitutes or go cold turkey? If you're a secret smoker then perhaps you can't get the counter, which would be a shame as it's very helpful (mine says I've been a non-smokder for 1 month, 3 days, 6 hours, 30 min and 30 seconds and that I've saved £164.70 by not smoking 685 cigarettes)

mamated · 21/11/2004 18:46

What is the counter??? Maybe could do with that - this time I around, I will be mostly using an inhalator thing, bought it cheap in boots a couple of weeks ago (in secret though, of course!!!), so will give it a whirl. Thanks mammya, good to know you've got back on the wagon after a lapse.

prefernot · 21/11/2004 20:39

HI mammated, so tell us a bit about yourself? I've got a small potted history somewhere towards the beginning of this thread.

Cc, gosh yes, weird how it can creep u pon you again immediately. This morning after only having had half a fag yesterday I woke up really really wanting one and today's been much more of a struggle than the last few had been. But I haven't succumbed. Nearly but not quite ...

fg, I feel very cheeky because I hardly know you, but I'd LOVE to have a copy of your book if you've got any more copies going ... And if not I'll probably go and buy one on pay day. I've got 2 other friends who publish novels and I love to read things by people I 'know.'

fionagib · 21/11/2004 21:01

sure, prefernot, maybe CAT me and I can get your address... after that tho am very sorry folks but supply is running a bit low, will have tons more when it comes out in American version...

cc glad you're feeling 'onwards and upwards' rather than whacking yourself with that hammer... brilliant that you didn't have one more, then 20 more, pn!!

my dh has stopped for 5 days, using patches, and is now cold turkeying (oh dear, I have seen this pattern before. He's v quiet & gloomy, hey ho).

mamated, you pick the day you're happy with, plenty of time then to rev up to quit day! You CAN do it and life will be a heck of a lot easier & less fraught. We'll all be here for you.

mammya · 21/11/2004 21:06

Mamated, the counter is a little programme you install on your computer, you tell it when you stoped, how much you used to smoke and how much you used to spend, and it tells you how long you've been not smoking, how many ciggies you haven't smoked, how much money you've saved and how much life you've saved. I think Charliecat posted a link earlier in the thread.

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charliecat · 21/11/2004 22:08

Gutted now seeing my counter so low and seeing your month long tallys
But ive got some links here to spur us on:
Relapse Prevention
Why do people continue to smoke
The whole joel librarys site with hours of reading
and of courseThe quit meters

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charliecat · 21/11/2004 22:59

By the way FG saw the big picture of your book, all 1 and a half inches and small review of it today My mum must have been looking it with her magnifying glass, or Babyface was so good I expected a double page spread.
Actually, I think thats the case!!!!!! It wasnt a bad review or a good review it was just a this is what happens in the book...so is that something else and not a review? DUH dopey me.
Finally passed on BabyFace to my sister who as shes moved house this week will probably lose it for a few months and ill let you know what she thought when she gets back to me!
have sucked this evening and am feeling quite down generally, thing its the fact im having to start from day 1 AGAIN......did briefly consider wiping only a week from my counter for punishment but that wuld have been lying to myself.
I think Minkmamas relatives have kidnapped her for good??? Where are you??

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mammya · 21/11/2004 23:18

You know charliecat, I really think you need to stop the spliffing if you want to succeed (I speak from experience!). Or at least have tobacco-less spliffs. Otherwise you're just kidding yourself that you're a non-smoker and you'll just end up smoking lots of spliffs and end up addicted to the weed as well as the tobacco! Sorry if this sounds harsh...

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charliecat · 21/11/2004 23:22

I know, I have named my counter NO MORE JOINTS. Thanks though..xxx
Dps hassling me into tidying the bedroom

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mammya · 21/11/2004 23:23

Tidying, at this time of night?????

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charliecat · 21/11/2004 23:30

Oh yes we have been on a storage box frenzy and now nearly everything has its place...theres some crap cluttering down the side of the bed and dp needs to have a fag and instead hes lingering saying is this half tidyed or what etc etc...
We have spent hours packing the kids toys away nisely already.....SIGH
Is you house tidy? We are messy buggers and we are trying to reform

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mammya · 21/11/2004 23:33

Tidy? I don't know the meaning of the word! No seriously I'm forever trying to be tidier but to no avail... The worse room is my bedroon actually, I put things away there by opening the door and throwing stuff in Trying to instill more of a sense of tidyness in my dd too, can't say it's working all that much... probably because I'm not much of a good example!

mammya · 21/11/2004 23:35

By the way why isn't your dh tidying his half himself?

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charliecat · 21/11/2004 23:37

Oh yes, hes cleared the bed so we can get in it
We are that messy, nice to know im not alone.
My house can be tidy but most days it looks like a life of grime, without so much of the grime but tons of mess and things nowhere near where they should be.

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mammya · 21/11/2004 23:46

I find it quite depressing actually all that tidying malarkey. Well not the tidying itself, just the fact that once you've tidied it just doesn't stay that way for long enough. I suppose my mistake is to think of tidying as something you do once, when really it's something you need to do all the time. So depressing...

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charliecat · 21/11/2004 23:50

Yeah I find ill go on a mission and spend half a day doing loads and then expect to do nothing the next day...so all that say breaky, lunchbox, washing, toys etc dinner, playdough glitter that I havent cleared up is right back where it was B4 I missioned on the day before. Very depressing, which is why im trying to give everything a homely box to live in, I said to the kids b4 they went to bed. if you dont want to hear me droning on can you kindly put things in the box you found them....will last 5 mins...

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charliecat · 21/11/2004 23:50

Doesnt help we have more toys than ELC more books than a library more clothes than a clothes shop.....

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mammya · 22/11/2004 00:00

Yes I can relate to that, periodically I try to get organised and it usually lasts, ooooh, about 3 minutes... It doesn't help when there isn't much storage space! I suppose that's why you went for the storage boxes option?

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charliecat · 22/11/2004 00:10

Yep no blooming cupboards or fitted wardrobes, lots of things with nowhere to go

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mammya · 22/11/2004 00:17

Well good luck with the tidying! Am going to go to bed now, so good night, speak soon, and resist the urge!

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charliecat · 22/11/2004 00:21

Sucking slowly on my lozenge night night x And thanks x You too!

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fionagib · 22/11/2004 10:30

hope you're feeling more positive today cc!

mess??? Our house is in CHAOS. A friend came to stay and said, 'Ooh, shabby chic', and I don't think she meant it in a good way.

mm is too busy blending our xmas oils to come on here!

Hope you manage ok without joints cc, any other way of chilling out, getting all relaxed? Do long baths do it for you???

Just a quickie as a friend has dd so I can do a bit of extra work xxxx

prefernot · 22/11/2004 11:03

Cc, I kind of haven't reset my counter. That might mean I'm much more cowardly or a liar to myself than you are. Or it might be because I only had a half. But I'm going to let you others decide for me: shall I reset or not? I haven't got as much to lose on it as cc did (today shows 3 weeks, 210 not smoked, £52.68 saved). I have to say though that just that half a smoke really had made me fancy a whole one again so cc I don't really know how you've managed with still having bits of nicotine in joints, it would have tempted me to smoke more than just giving up completely.

Thanks fg, I'll CAT you. But no sweat, I know it's a very cheeky request.