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No Smoking but lots of Chatting...Successful thread #2

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charliecat · 08/11/2004 19:47

New Home for us Girls!

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mamated · 22/11/2004 14:42

how rude of me to barge in with no details about myself!! I am 27 and a SAHM with 2 DS' - aged 2.5 and 7 months. You know all about my smoking history, and I am v impressed by the amount of support you give each other. I have utmost respect for those of you whoseIt dh/dp is a puffer - I don't think I could cope with that at all, you must feel v virtuous for quitting with them still fagging away!

mamated · 22/11/2004 14:44

FG, you are a writer??? Cant believe it, where do you get time with 3 lil'uns?? I am lucky if i can write shopping list before tesco! Also forgot to say, I am welsh and live in cardiff, and yes I love Tom & Shirl, boyo.

charliecat · 22/11/2004 16:03

Prefernot if thats what you need to do do it...I needed to reset mine or my brain would think it was ok to have one, or half of one of two. There HAD to be that concequence for me. Id had my joints without resetting it, but to smoke a fag with no weed in it was the end of that try IYKWIM. I knew Id failed half way through the fag and would have to retry the next day.
Your very strong not having more than half! The thing is, they arent what your brain trys to kid you that they are, they choke you and make you dizzy...duh.
Had a labourous day at nursery cutting out rectangles and folding cards in half...was doing a lot of huffing and puffing and thinking OMG right now I could do with a fag break( normally surrounded byu little ones the time flys and you dont think about anything else)
But survived. Feel like a non smoker still even with my blip. I hated those hours not really knowing whether id be strong enough...but i am. Cant believe I ballsed it up but never mind.
Got loads to do so not going to browse MN today. Catch up later xx

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charliecat · 22/11/2004 19:48

OMG what an evening! Cooked dinner inbetween a mountain of thank you cards and made a start on the dds Xmas ones....what a waste of an evening Tasha couldnt believe it was time for bed already....
Shes been invited to a sleepover to a friend whos mum I know but I dont know the dad and my first thought was NO (something to do do with the fact my best friends dad was a peadiophile who abused all his daughters )
But I could see she wanted to go and when I said she could she did a lovely cheerful I can come note back. So on Saturday night ill be on tenderhooks...argh!!!
How is everyones urges today?

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mamated · 22/11/2004 20:32

Hey CC, thankyou for the links, v useful, and I will start my clock on Saturday. Am having a bit of a nightmare today, my ds is ill, v high temp, sore throat, swollen eyes etc, so he has some penicillin. we have been up since 4am, changing sheets (vomit strewn) and getting him calpol'd up. It must be really hard letting your kids stay over at houses you don't know too well - I can't imagine the stress, will you be on pins all night? If so - no spliffs, not even to calm u a little bit!

prefernot · 22/11/2004 20:58

Hello everyone. I reset my counter too as it wouldn't actually feel the same to know I hadn't been entirely fag free.

I've been at work today and SO in need of a smoke it's been really hard. Part of it with me is a combination of tiredness and boredom. When my brain's fugged then I always feel that little chimney focuses me somehow. I know it's all illusion and I know that when I gave up before I got to a point relatively quickly where I didn't even think about smoking. Sometimes I think there's something incredibly immature about my attitude towards it and towards giving up. I joked somewhere about thinking 'hey, now I've cracked it, think I'll have a fag to celebrate!' but there is a part of me that almost doesn't take it seriously that I've REALLY stopped, that this is IT.

Poor Ds mamated. Is it one of these horrible stomach bugs going around everywhere? I'm dreading those. Dd's had a small cold and cough over the weekend.

I've been potty training dd in a rather haphazard way last weekend. She's doing ok really I think but I feel weirdly out of control of it, like I don't know how on earth it's going to work! Any tips from you guys? Like, how do I get her to know not to wee in pants even though she knows now not to wee when she's got nothing on her bottom half? And when dare we venture out again after days of being home?

charliecat · 22/11/2004 21:04

LOL PN I had that problem with the trousers thing...used the potty/loo fine until I tried to introduce trousers into the equation...no idea...I just know eventually it clicked after MANY wet trouser episodes.
I know the MUM its just the dad I dont....I will make sure I get a phone call for an update in the evening and let them know there will be NO PROBLEM in us going to collect her if needbe.
PN have you reset it already??? It was only me that commented wasnt it?!!!!!!!

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fionagib · 22/11/2004 22:16

good on your for resetting counter pn, at least you can watch the totals grow and know it's absolutely genuine & feel v chuffed in a 'fresh start' kinda way. Yeah, boredom makes me wanna smoke too - think am having MORE lozenges at the mo, still on 2mg, but whatever it takes.

DH on day five and now cold turkey and having awful awful withdrawals. He went to bed at 9.30 tonight, poor soul Says the patches give him heart palpitations. At least he hasn't gone blind.(about 9 yrs ago, when we tried to give up, he stood at the bus stop shouting, 'Am going blind!)

am sure your dd will be fine, cc, but totally understand your fears seeing as you were so close to someone who was abused... really scary, my boys have stayed over at friends too where I didn't know the dad v well, but then I rarely do cos it's the women who all hang out together, meet for coffee etc. And I wonder if you'd be able to pick up any worrying traits even if you had met someone a few times?

We read so much about horrible cases but it's far far more likely that she'll have a fantastic time, or maybe feel a bit wobbly without you and need to be brought home anyway? That happened recently with Sam (nearly 8 yrs), he had to come home, missed us too much (!) tho his brother stayed.

Yes am a writer mamated, have p/t child care 3 school hrs a week & steal the odd extra day too, plus loads of night working (when I can force myself away from m'net/I'm a celebrity).

PN I made mistake of trying to train my boys far too early at 2.5 yrs, no way where they ready - wee everywhere, poos rolling out of their trouser legs in docs waiting room They were 'dry' (day and night simultaneously) at 3 yrs and 3 months, v late I know and did provoke snippy comments from playgroup leaders ('Did you know those twins aren't toilet trained yet?') but what the f* could I do?

Waited till dd seemed ready (she was 2.5 yrs), interested in potty/loo etc, fairly painless. ds's still ocassionally pee in pants due to chronic laziness.

btw cc I meant to say other day that it's OUTRAGEOUS what happened to you with dd 1's mmr jab and the supposed tonsilitis. We've had all immunisations - dd had her mmr booster 1 month ago and got blimmin impetigo in her arm.

best get on with some work, everyone asleep, even dh - bliss!!!!! (but no wine for me, am trying to cut down, what a bore......)

fionagib · 22/11/2004 22:20

gawd look at the size of that post, sorry to rant on and on there girls

mammya · 22/11/2004 22:24

Prefernot, I had that same problem the first time I tried to potty-train my dd and basically she wasn't ready. So I just gave up, put her back in nappies and the next time we tried, a few months later, she "got" it in a few days.

mammya · 22/11/2004 22:26

By the way Fiona, I'm intrigued, you are a published writer, right? I'm curious as to the titles of your published novels (I assume). I'm an avid reader so might have read you...

fionagib · 23/11/2004 11:03

Hi mammya, First one is called babyface, was out last year, new one is called Wonderboy, was published yesterday (zero celebration around here - dh too grouchy with niccy withdrawal!)

cc are you feeling strong today???? hope so!

do you think minkmama has chucked us?!

Am starting to think about fags less & less but VERY reliant on lozenges... concentration is scuppered with them.

dh is suffering badly.

charliecat · 23/11/2004 17:45

Hello folks nice to see everyones still going strong, missing this thread while im at work desperatly, wish I had a wireless pc for my tea break
I dunno about MM where on EARTH has she gone? Last post was on the 19th after me mentioning cheese and peas, no mention of zipping off to Bham so Dunno...quite worrying really
Got up this morning at 6.20 to do the dishes...must be going MAD. having to do a SHED LOAD of walking now mum hasnt got the car and Ive got to linger at her house till 3.25 to pick up Tasha from school. My mum, the 30 odd year roll up smoker astounded me today by walking a good 2 miles in 30 mins[choke] She did say b4 she started "Youdd better get the oxygen tank ready" But I think she did it faster than what i could have....ahhh maybe the baccy was in the house so she was speeding home for that?????
Right back to the hoosework

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mamated · 23/11/2004 20:48

Good to know you are all hanging in there, and I am actually looking forward to starting my counter on SATURDAY! definitely no wimping out this time, i did it once, I can do it again! CC, good on you, you virtuous person, walking is SO good for you

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mamated · 23/11/2004 21:06

no - its the americans tonight, though isn't it? Did you watch a couple of weeks ago when the woman from Manchester swapped with the aussie family??? Car crash TV or what??

charliecat · 23/11/2004 21:08

LOL yep, it is the americans...looks interesting one womans got 4 naanies to look after her 3 kids...er hello what was the point in having them? She should have got dogs or something instead.

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mamated · 23/11/2004 21:58

absolutely - dogs maybe too demanding, try sea monkeys!!! Have to go, my fave hour of telly all week is just about to start, dh is preparing my corner as we speak, remote control, tea, choccie bics.......mmmm drooling.....talk tomorrow!!!! TTFNx

charliecat · 23/11/2004 21:59

Whats that then Teachers????

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mamated · 24/11/2004 09:31

The West Wing - love it! Only understand about one word in four, they talk that quick and complicated, but it's fab!

charliecat · 24/11/2004 15:48

Where is everyone? Had excellent day today...hardly even 1 fag related thought

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fionagib · 24/11/2004 21:37

brilliant cc, you're def back on track!!!

just a quickie cos dh working v late and boys shouting upstairs...

got interrupted there, dh back, had a horrible hormonal go at him for coming back so late & eating at work canteen & forgetting I was doing a special dinner for him (to cheer him out of his hellish fag deprived mood!)

RAAA!!!

Actually he is better mooded (?) than I am, and I'm nearly 5 weeks quit! He's only 5 days! God don't you hate female mood swings sometimes (I know ou can relate to this cc)... sorry not to be too chipper tonight girls, am foul really. Haven't smoked but have sucked loadsa lozenges & ate the curry I made straight from the blimmin pot. Will have dh's portion cold tomorrow

Hope you're all feeling chirpier than I am!!!

mamated · 24/11/2004 21:47

Well done, cc, excellent news. Am also pretty vile this week, dh is utter toad, have been apoplectic as he has gone to fab new millennium centre tonight for general schmooziness.....evil thoughts, evil thoughts.

fionagib · 24/11/2004 23:58

dh has gone to bed, we are so not communicating. Sometimes I think it is much worse if a couple quits fags simultaneously...

mamated laffed at your evil thoughts, sometimes I think v bad things about dh, mutter nasty stuff - mostly I think due to fag withdrawal but also due to us having zero time together lately due to work, mostly his - we kinda lose touch with each other. My mum keeps harping on that it's so important for the adults to have time without the kids and she is so right!

do you get pmt moodish mamated? I tried agnus castus (homeopathic thing) last yr and it worked amazingly, am gonna try it again.

Am proud cos non smoking counter says 614 fags not smoked, but am sad cos couldn't go for a run tonight as something is wrong with foot tendon due to me wearing high boots in house for stomping in (it scares the kids!!) Boots are wrecked, all saggy, now have one pair of old running shoes to wear...

so so sorry girls about self pitying rant, am gonna order nice new boots from m&s.com and shut my trap now!!

Please do not ostracise me from this thread for being a mardy bag... gonna kip now night night xxx

mamated · 25/11/2004 09:02

PMT - more like BDAMT (before, during and after menstrual tension!!!) Your mum is so right about time without little darlings, but it hardly ever happens, does it? Thinking about the weekend is cheering me up though, I am puffing my last ciggie tomorrow, and we are going out with a crowd of (non-smoking) mates Friday night, and I'm going to lunch with a crowd of (non-smoking) friends Saturday and we're taking the boys to Bristol Zoo on Sunday! I sound like I have a social liife, don't I?