Anybody around I can talk to? DH just taken to hospital by a neighbour and I'm at home with the baby and panicking.

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DH started with what we thought was a migraine last night, not uncommon for him. Today it's still there but he went to work anyway. From about 3pm he started to vomit (again not unusual when he has a migraine but he usually only vomits once).

He has been sick 11 times. A colleague drove him home, I phoned the on call doctor an hour ago who said he needed to go straight to hospital as he couldn't talk on the phone. He was lying on the floor groaning and crying by this point. He's clammy and says he's freezing cold.

Obviously our car is at his work 12 miles away so I knocked on every neighbours door until I found one in and they've taken him to hospital.

I'm at home as we have a 6 month old who's in bed and I didn't want to waste time waking her and packing stuff in a bag for her.

I'm terrified. DH is a calm, reasonable man usually but couldn't string a sentence together and was just clutching his head and rolling on the floor.

Somebody talk to me.

Do I phone the hospital in a minute and see what is happening?

I think I might be tempted to send an IL to the hospital to keep a good channel of communication open. Are they up for that? Are they close enough?

FWIW, last time I had a big operation DH wanted to be there afterwards and I really didn't want him there, because I knew I would feel like shit and not want to talk or be touched or anything (we had a row about it in fact)

You will be there in his heart and his mind, SOH - that's plenty - he knows how you feel about him.

Hope you get some good news soon, sweetheart XXX

If you feel alone why don't you get a family member to at least come and keep you company. They'll be up now worrying about J anyway.

Or as I keep saying (I'm like a bloody broken record tonight), make the decision when the call comes through. Hopefully it won't be too much longer now.

See, spidermama says the same so it must be right

Don't be afraid to ring mau again if you need to just for reasurance, update etc.
It might just help you relax a bit have a hot drink, chocolates always good! Find something you like on telly or put on fav dvd if possible (full monty is my crisis dvd)

hugs
x

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SOH what a scary night for you. My thoughts are with you and dh - only practical suggestion I can make is - do you have any chocolate in the house - if so I would advise eating it now and when was the last time you had a drink? Tea, juice, water whatever -keep your fluids up - it's so easy to forget when you're worried about other things. Take care

Oh SOH - thinking of you and your dh.

SOH my lovely I am off to bed now as totally shattered. Hope you get some news soon and I'm here and close by if you need anything x

MS you are a star, hope you get a good night's sleep

SOH ask one of your family over, even if its just to keep you company. They are only an hour away and at least you will have a car at your disposal should you want to go to DH. Ring them.

SOH - I'm going to have to go and give L her dreamfeed now. Thinking of you babes. x

Thank you all. I haven't eaten or drunk anything since he came home at 4. I've put the kettle on and got a glass of water and some ryvita. ILs are an hour and a half away. My Mum just phoned and offered to come and spend the night. I'll ring her back once the mau have phoned. She's calling in sick tomorrow and coming over first thing whatever happens.

I've packed a bag with dd's clothes/nappies/wipes in case I have to go anywhere in a rush.

Do you have any friends of family who live near the hospital who could go and check on him.

Let your Mum come over sweetheart; all she's going to do is have a sleepless night worrying about you/him. xxx

Please let your mum come. Sometimes a girl needs her mum. xx

OK I'm really going now. Can't tear myself away from you!

SOH I'm away to bed, thinking of you all and hope you get some good news soon. x

I would get someone over. DOn't worry about the drive for them (unless they are infirm).. You need support and you may decide you want to be with him and having the choice when you are worried is invaluable.

I've been in this situation when it was DS and DP took him to hosp and I spent the whole night awake at home with baby making phone calls and so desperatly wanting to be there. All turned out ok in the end but the stress in unbelievable.

I will tell my Mum to come. Keeping the line free for the mau to phone. Maybe I should call them.

Also if your DH is in such a state he won't be able to express himself. The docs will want a history etc. I really really think you need your mum or his mum.

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Let us know when she gets to you SOH