Anybody around I can talk to? DH just taken to hospital by a neighbour and I'm at home with the baby and panicking.

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DH started with what we thought was a migraine last night, not uncommon for him. Today it's still there but he went to work anyway. From about 3pm he started to vomit (again not unusual when he has a migraine but he usually only vomits once).

He has been sick 11 times. A colleague drove him home, I phoned the on call doctor an hour ago who said he needed to go straight to hospital as he couldn't talk on the phone. He was lying on the floor groaning and crying by this point. He's clammy and says he's freezing cold.

Obviously our car is at his work 12 miles away so I knocked on every neighbours door until I found one in and they've taken him to hospital.

I'm at home as we have a 6 month old who's in bed and I didn't want to waste time waking her and packing stuff in a bag for her.

I'm terrified. DH is a calm, reasonable man usually but couldn't string a sentence together and was just clutching his head and rolling on the floor.

Somebody talk to me.

Do I phone the hospital in a minute and see what is happening?

Hoping you will soon have good news. Not knowing is the worst feeling.

Glad you've got through to someone helpful.
Go and make yourself a hot chocolate and sit here with us & the phone

Try not to let your mind race too much, easy to say, I know.

Sounds like the guy you spoke to is going to make sure you're in the loop, and there doesn't seem much point in you going up there at the moment.

Stay by the phone, and stay with us on here, and we'll get through the night together.

Come on love, please don't get ill with worry.

Whatever the prognosis, right now it's a bloody blinding nauseous headache and he's better off where he is, without the emotional impact of you and dc. I had one migraine in my life, and if someone had put a gun to my head, I'd have said 'shoot.' Your poor fella is going through something ten times worse by the sounds of it.

Stay on line, make yourself a cup of tea, and think of all the reasons you love him. Then, when he gets home ... show him

SOH i'm glad you've spoken to someone, he really is in the right place. Let us know when you have news.

Thinking of you SOH. If it's any reassurance I have had one or two migraines which have been totally unlike any others, where I have been literally unable to move, speak, see or hear properly, but I was fine, they were just migraines although it felt like I was going to die at the time.

SOh, sorry to see this, hope he is ok and you can get to see him asap

glad the dr has been reassuring that is a rare thing in hospitals they will do tests on your dh then observe him whilst he rests hoping all will be ok, try rest as you will still have to care for your dd which is hard work and takes lots of energy!
could you let family know so they can support you possible drop you hospital collect your car etc
please look after yourself

SOH Glad youve had some news, try not to worry too much(easier said than done) whatever is wrong with him he is in the right place and hopefully the doc will ring you soon with some positive news.x

SOH he will be fine, he is in the best place, try try try not to worry too much. Try and get the dr to give you as much info as possible when he calls back. Did you call J's/your parents? Even if takes them a while to get to you they could still come and give you some support and help with M in the morning. We are here too.

"think of all the reasons you love him". Because he is always, always, always there for me and puts me and dd first without a second thought. And all I keep thinking is I'm not there for him, he's alone and ill and was clearly frightened. He's the cornerstone of my existence and the thought of anything happening to him is terrifying.

Following this thread SOH, nothing useful to add - but I'm sitting here crossing my fingers for your dh and hoping he's feeling better soon

hope he will be fine, i am sur ehe will be, he is in good hands. take care

Of course he was frightened, but he knew you couldn't go haring off with him because DD means so much to him as well.

Please don't think you let him down, SOH. You will be there physically for him when you can.

I think it sounds like you want to be there with him SOH. Or at least you think he would like you to.

Is there a hotel near the hospital you could book for the night so you can be near and come and go as and when?

Hello SOH. I'm so sorry for you. Please let me know if I can help in any way.

Let the dr make his assessments and call you, he will be able to tell you frankly if you being there will help J. J knows you adore him and that you would be and are right beside him whether there physically or not.

You are there for him, you're looking after your daughter. He loves M so much, he'd want her mummy to be there for her, not sitting in a hospital waiting room.

Make a decision around whether you need to go there when you have spoken to the doctor. Chances are they'll have given him something for the pain now and he'll be comfortable and blissfully unaware.

He knows how much you love him, try and be positive. Which is hard I know, but the best thing you can do for him, yourself and M is to try and be strong.

There is no reason why anything bad will happen to him, migraines are horrendous in their severest form, I've seen my mum literally wailing on the bathroom floor, doctors in the middle of the night coming to give her anti-sickness injections, tests for dehydration and brain scans at hospital. And she still gets them, but the treatment she has now is as good as she can get. She's fighting fit, I promise you, L soaked her in the bath tonight.

SOH - he will know that you are thinking of him but he will also know that you have M to look after too so don't think that you aren't there for him - you are.
He is in good hands - look after yourself too
xx

Just wanted to say sorry about your news.

Don't be worried about taking help from those that offer it if you need to.

We are all here for you x

IMHO when people are really ill they worry too much about their loved ones around them. He'll just be glad that you are looking after your darling baby.

It's horrid when the person who has always looked after you needs looking after. He is being cared for and that is reasuring youmust look after yourself too. Have something to eat, pack a bag for baby, you and him put it by the door and try to rest as best u can. Go to bed or cosy up on the sofa with the phone nearby.

If hospital need u they will ring at the slightess hint of things being a miss.

Thinking of you keep posting

Thanks everybody. I feel very alone. DD is fast asleep and blissfully unaware.

I have phoned my parents and the ILs who have both said they will come over at a moment's notice. I've told them to hold off for now as here or there I don't think they can do much until we know what is happening and it's at least an hour's drive for both of them.

I'm just waiting for that call.

You're probably all right.

When I had pneumonia I remember dh getting all sorts of things sorted out so he could be with me and I just wanted him to go home and sort the kids out so I could be alone, go into myself, and concentrate on getting well.

I was glad he came at the begining to give me a kiss and reassure me, but then I wanted him gone. I was more worried about my kids with both of us absent.

Best of luck SOH. Let us know when you hear. All the best to your dh and as countless people have said, DO take people up on offers of help. Don't be embarrassed. People like to help.