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Anybody around I can talk to? DH just taken to hospital by a neighbour and I'm at home with the baby and panicking.

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ShowOfHands · 12/11/2007 20:37

DH started with what we thought was a migraine last night, not uncommon for him. Today it's still there but he went to work anyway. From about 3pm he started to vomit (again not unusual when he has a migraine but he usually only vomits once).

He has been sick 11 times. A colleague drove him home, I phoned the on call doctor an hour ago who said he needed to go straight to hospital as he couldn't talk on the phone. He was lying on the floor groaning and crying by this point. He's clammy and says he's freezing cold.

Obviously our car is at his work 12 miles away so I knocked on every neighbours door until I found one in and they've taken him to hospital.

I'm at home as we have a 6 month old who's in bed and I didn't want to waste time waking her and packing stuff in a bag for her.

I'm terrified. DH is a calm, reasonable man usually but couldn't string a sentence together and was just clutching his head and rolling on the floor.

Somebody talk to me.

Do I phone the hospital in a minute and see what is happening?

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Slubberdegullion · 12/11/2007 21:05

SOH, it's OK. It sounds like he's in A&E, and he's being seen. This is the very best place for him to be. He will be being cared for extremely well.

WendyWeber · 12/11/2007 21:06

SOH, if any of us not in Norfolk can help with money or something in the next few days, please shout!

littlelapin · 12/11/2007 21:09

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Mrsjaffabiffa · 12/11/2007 21:09

SOH, sweetie, let someone help you get there pleeeeeeeeeeeease, if I was in Nowrich I'd be at your door, there would be NO time for your crippling shyness, you could hide under your hat. Make sure the hospital have a contact number for you so that they can try to let you know whats happening.

J's in the best place, lots of love. xxx

Marina · 12/11/2007 21:09

Hear hear wendy, let us know if we can help from a distance SoH

ambercat · 12/11/2007 21:10

I used to work on medical assessment unit (mau)and until he has been seen by a doctor there really isn't alot they can tell you. Wait 30 mins and ring back, ask to speak to the nurse looking after him, she should be able to tell you whats going on. If hes still being seen ask her to ring you with news, they should do this if you explain your situation.

Hassled · 12/11/2007 21:11

If he's kept in and I can help with minding the baby tomorrow or whenever, or with emergency cash, please get in touch. They are fantastic at the N&N A&E - he's in very good hands.

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ShowOfHands · 12/11/2007 21:11

They were very vague on the phone. The number I eventually got through to said that there was no direct number that I could have for where he was but they would call and ask for me. Got put on hold and then the woman came back and said he's there with the oncall service now and being seen. I just kept saying 'oh'. What happens now? Do they phone and let me know? He has no phone to tell me himself. The nearest I can get to talking to a person is the oncall emergency people, no direct line to the hospital.

MarkStretch is it the hospital on Bowthorpe Road they are talking about? I though that was just a geriatric/day assessment place. I phoned the number for it and they said 'he won't be here, we don't do that, he'll be at the community hospital'. Isn't that the community hospital? Where is he?

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Desiderata · 12/11/2007 21:13

Poor SoH.

Try not to panic. It won't be critical to dh whether you get there or not tonight (although I hope you can manage it with MarkStretch's help).

You'll know from experience how difficult it is to talk through a migraine. It sounds like he's having a very bad episode (poor, poor man), and the best you can hope for tonight is that they give him pain relief, and he can sleep. The poor love must be exhausted.

We're all thinking of you. Keep us updated.

MarkStretch · 12/11/2007 21:15

Yes the Dr's on call are at the West Norwich on Bowthorpe Road. Have you rung 01603 250660 for out of hrs?

Hassled · 12/11/2007 21:15

SOH - there is an out of hours GP place (the on call service) on Bowthorpe Rd which is in the same grounds but not quite part of the West Norwich, if that helps. The fact they haven't moved him to A&E (yet) looks like a good sign to me.

ambercat · 12/11/2007 21:16

Sounds like hes at an out of hours place, if he needs admitting they will phone the oncall medics on mau and book him in. If you don't hear from him soon ring your nearest "big" hospital and ask for mau and ask them if they are expecting him. hth

MarkStretch · 12/11/2007 21:17

I'll still come and get you if you want to be with him. Please don't be afraid to ask.

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ShowOfHands · 12/11/2007 21:17

I rang 01603 488488 which NHS Direct at Dussindale said was the out of hours number. Is 250660 a generic number/switchboard thing or somebody with some information/link to the community hospital?

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Hassled · 12/11/2007 21:19

Please just contact MS and then you can try Bowthorpe Rd and swing round to the N&N if he's not there.

Mrsjaffabiffa · 12/11/2007 21:19

Go SOH, please go! You will feel soooooo much better when you are on your way and can find out whats happening. xx

MarkStretch · 12/11/2007 21:20

That's the out of hours number- I rang my Dr's surgery and its the number they leave on the answerphone for medical emergencies out of hours. Try it. My DP is supervisor in ambulance control- will ring and see if there is any other way you can find out.

Hassled · 12/11/2007 21:21

I just found this:

East of England Ambulance Service Out-of-Hours (EEAS OOH) is the Norfolk health service for you and your family to use when you need urgent medical care at night, weekends and public holidays. To use the service, telephone your own doctor's surgery and you will either be automatically transferred to Out-of-Hours or advised how to contact them.

So try your GP's no again?

XAliceInWonderlandX · 12/11/2007 21:22

i wish you luck and hope a member of your family can be with you soon

take care x

ScoobyDoo · 12/11/2007 21:24

I would phone one of the numbers all go through them all, ask if he is there see what they say, say your his wife stuck home with the baby & are very worried & neeed to know what is going on, if you need to be there etc etc.

SpacePuppy · 12/11/2007 21:25

I'm sure your neighbour will get in touch as soon as he's back, hope things comes to head for you soon, even if just to know that he is fine and nothing serious is wrong.

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ShowOfHands · 12/11/2007 21:29

Yeah I spoke to the EEAS OOH and it's them who phoned through to see if he was at the community hospital but they also told me there was no way of contacting them direct. At least not for me obviously as they managed to find out he was there.

I'm scared. I don't want to leave home as he might phone or they might phone and what if the neighbour comes back with news? If I could just speak to somebody who could say yes he's here he'll be staying here then I'd be there like a shot but I just don't know if they're treating him/moving him/sending him home.

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susiecutiebananas · 12/11/2007 21:32

I'm sorry i cannot help at all, but i just wante to say, i'm thinking of you and your little family... I do hope you get some news soon.
I'm fairly sure he' ll be transfered to N&N after being assessed at the out of hours place.... perhaps you shold be prepared to go there.

It sounds like Marckstretch can really help you out here,you'll feel so much better if yo are with him now. Just let her come and get you, take you there, and if not to N&N.... I think you need to, for your SELF more than anyhting.

Good luck sweetheart, will be thinking of you.

juliewoolie · 12/11/2007 21:32

SOH please dont panic the hospital will contact you if there is any problems. J is in the right place there is MNetters near you who can help - please use them sweetie I know you find it difficult. But remember we all care for you and will help if needs be. xx

ambercat · 12/11/2007 21:33

Show of hands, please ring your nearest hospital, start with a&e explain the situation and ask wher a medical emergancy would be admitted, it will probably be mau or gp referral unit(gpru) they will be able to tell you if they are expecting him. They really will not mind you ringing.