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of course it is on purpose

No she denies everything "I didn't realise, I just wasn't thinking"

then says "your sister was just the same, I rang her up to say can I buy ds a sword and she said no way" funny that she thought she would cut straight to buying my ds one and give it to him when I wasn't in the room

oh thank you GOD THANK YOU for believing me

I love you, I am not mad am I? Oh fucking hell I am going to start crying in a minute

I can't do anything, her sister has just died and I have been warned off by my older sister because of that

I am just going to take it like an adult BUT

if she ever ever ever tries any crap like this again I promise I am not going to keep quiet about it

I will bring this up and I will bring up the ham and I will bring up every other fricking thing she has ever done and I will tell her to stop ignoring other people's opinions and needs so she can do exactly what she wants

thank you

oh she did the same thing with sister's ds, 10 years ago

but she phoned and asked first, and sister said NO. She has brought this up (my mum has) several times over the years. There is no way that she could not be aware that a sword can be a contentious thing to buy a 4 year old.

DP agrees that he doesn't like weapons in our house as toys. He is easy going but he does support me as he knows I feel strongly about it. He is confused by my mother's games though and like anyone, finds it hard to believe the level of twistedness that would make someone do this, so thinks she is just batty. She isn't.

oh dear Franny. I, as I'm sure you might imgaine, have swords BUT I didn't use to like sweets when they were little, and my MIL kept buying them and then saying 'Oh sorry, I didn't think you minded xxx' whatever sweet it is.

It drives them mad that they can't do what they want. Is crazy controllingness.

However you have the last word because however mad it drives her he is your son, and you leave the sword behind and say to her, 'We won't have it at home, he can have it here.'

And you know what? There's nothing she can do about it.

Dp has gone to bed, i had better go up

he is very good putting up with

a) me

b) my mad family

c) my MN habit

dd2 tried to give Franny's ds some ham in pizza express
it was a kind gesture on her part, to be fair.

Yes thank you Avi and 100

no she can't do anything about it, but she has upset me greatly and made me look crazy and paranoid in front of the whole family, upset ds and driven a wedge in between me and him, and basically given me the message that she doesn't give a stuff about my ideals or choices.

So nothing new, really. Just stuff that has been going on my entire life. I just wasn't expecting the whole onslaught and such a rout in her favour within one hour of me walking in the door.

LOL dd2 was v kind HC

erm a few years ago my mother brought some ham to my house and tried to eat it under the table. When I caught her and asked her to stop she claimed not to know that I would mind.

god I am really sorry franny
any chance you will have chance to talk tomorrow?

when I say "asked her to stop"

I mean "screeched in disbelief WHAT ARE YOU DOING YOU HAVE BROUGHT HAM INTO MY HOUSE AND YOU ARE EATING IT UNDER THE TABLE"

to you? or to my mother?

Avi

and

Franny and on your behalf