'Women on the Veg of Reason' 10/10 club - all welcome

[Boco]

For anyone who wants a boost to their general health. The suggested goals are:

EAT 10 PORTIONS OF FRUIT AND VEGETABLES EVERY DAY - if you don't usually eat much fruit and veg I would build up gradually or you could upset your digestion.

DO (AT LEAST) 10 MINUTES OF EXERCISE EVERY DAY - can be yoga, stretching or something more energetic. The plan is that the idea of doing 10 minutes is not too daunting, and having started you may well find you want to do more.

There are no restrictions on what you eat so long as you get your 10 fruit and veg as well. The focus is not on weight loss but on improving our energy levels and hopefully our general mood and well-being. Sign up below and post here to tell us how you're getting on and how you are feeling.

Basic guidance on what constitutes a portion of fruit and veg here and you can download more detailed information by following the link at the very bottom of the page

That makes no sense, and was potentially impertinent. I meant, did your family adopt a girl who became your sister or vice versa

I meant I made no sense, and then I asked the impertinent question again

Umm, MrsC, i'm not sure i understand the question. She was adopted, by my parents when i was 2 and she was 8 months. Her birth mother was from Sierra Leone and had come to London to study law and got pg and couldn't go home with a baby and not a husband, - and was v young so she gave her up for adoption. My sister asked me to help her trace her last year - we didn't get very far, but a social worker came over with all the papers - and the bit i found hardest was that she'd breastfed her right up to the day she gave her up. I just thought that was the bravest think i've ever heard.

My sister developed learning disabilities due to brain damage when she was 11. Has a condition and had to have a lot of brain surgery - i think about 9 operations. She has very bad memory and can be quite obsessive. She's very generous and very very loud. She has two babies now, and does really amazingly well at being a mother. She has a lovely partner who is the most patient person i've ever met.

Is this too much naive sharing, is it dull, i can't tell.

I think MrsC meant did you have a birth sister who was adopted into a different family, ie away from your family

Well it is not dull to me. It is far from dull.

Not dull at all, very interesting. I had the opposite where my baby sister was adopted to live with another family when I was six or so. The question was hard to phrase, was your sister adopted, or did you adopt her ifswim.

Yes, Franny, that's what I tried to say, badly.

I knew what you meant mrsC but I had to read it 3 times to get my head round it.

Do you have any contact with your adopted sister MrsC?

god I am being very prying now aren't I? Please ignore if any questions too persona;

personal

No. I haven't seen her since she was six months. She must be 23 now. Sometimes I think someone looks like she might do if that makes sense.

Oh i see now, - so yes, my family adopted her. Wow that must be really strange the other way round too. Have you met her as an adult? Do you know why?

I'm very close to my brother - he's my total brother and we talk every few days and he's an amazingly good uncle - he loves dds and is always very indulgent and full of energy - they think he's amazing. He'll take them on danger walks and buy them books about scabs and play very long and complicated imaginary scenario games. He's always making films and having adventures, we like the same music and films and books.

I'm the youngest of four - two half brothers who came to live with us when their mother died, I was about 3, they were both adopted too, by my father and his first wife, then my brother and me, my mother also married before.

We range from aristocrats to east end jews. Is a good range to have I think Boco.

MrsC - did you find out why she was adopted?

What a lot of adopted siblings on 10/10

Boco, Sharing not dull at all. A good thing.

I am NOT listening to these boys in the park stories, though

TooT, all the shoes look good except maybe the pink.

3 that is terrific.

MrsC, I don't think of you as bossy.

Hello Tatties.

Franny, there seems to be some kind of Halloween shape-shifter stuff going on with the name.

• Unless of course, pink is your colour.

Oh I am being a Druid because I wear a Mooncup and I have lost my feminine mystique. Or something.

MrsC I am sorry that you haven't seen her. I know what you mean about seeing someone who might look like her, I think.

anyone for Scr%*&le?

That mooncup thread is very persuasive isn't it?

I have to make Pavlova, otherwise I would play scrabble with you.

A leopard can change its spots you know.

My family on my dads side were German aristocrats - they had castles. There was a film made about one of them for hiding airmen in a trunk during the war. My grandmother had family portraits of her English side in big gold frames - some great great grandfather who lost the family fortune on the railways in South America. I always thought that meant he left his wallet on the train. They were all kind of bohemian and a bit shabby.

On my mums side they were very poor working class people from Newcastle, but her dad had worked and worked as an accountant - they were well off and liked modern things and new things and were very sensible and had manners. The two grandmothers would both tell me off for saying lounge or not saying lounge, one said saying 'what?' was very rude, the other said saying 'pardon?' was very rude. I still have confusion about whether i'm eating supper or dinner or tea.

When my parents divorced - when i was about 13, my dad ran off with his boss - who had 2 children at a private school and horses and went fox hunting and is fierce and not friendly. My mum got together with my step dad whose parents are a pearly king and queen and who plays in a band and tries his hand at most things - they were east end publicans. He had two children who we moved in with.

It's confusing. It is. Living between the two families was odd and hard - with one i was a snob and with the other i was a scumbag. I think i'm a snobby scumbag.

ooooooooh

really?

Nah, you are teasing us

sorry that was cross post to 100

Blimey heck Boco

you could not make it up

oops that was long - skim, feel free to skim. Or skip. I'm hiding again. Fil is talking allotments. Has been since 6pm. someone talk to me, even if its just to shut me up.

I am a snobby scumbag too. My nan was an east end gangsters moll on my dad's side and the other side is a mining family in Wales. I don't have the aristocracy side of the story to explain my snobbiness. My mother said I asked why there wasn't a proper table when I was born, or 3, or something.