desperate fag quitter! Anyone similar, fancy mutual support group?!

[fionagib]

To my shame it's about my 167th attempt to quit fags... anyone out there trying the same who would like to start a support thingie here where we can rant and vent our frustrations and praise each other? I'm starting tomorrow...

Fiona, Ive been having those sort of thoughts, the fags or running ones. Its silly us even doubting for a moment though that weve made the wrong decision, or that life would be better with fags. It must be all part of the process...
Housing Manager coming round this morning to offer me a lovely house in the country, shame I cant take it as dds happy at school, mum just up the road, stuck in the middle of nowhere with no public transport...
I had to whizz round my house tidying last night got her message at 11.20 and shes meant to be here now 9.00.
God, feeling resigned to the fact today....hopefully this is the dark before the light at the end of the tunnel.
Do you think hormones are affecting us and our cravings and moods?
And how is JG getting on? I put my knickers on back to front all the time:)

shame about house cc - but have to say living in the country does have its downside, this little place we live in v nice & good for the kids but if it were just me, I'd give anyhting to live in a bigger town. We might move in a couple of years, hopefully to devon, which me and dh love.

Girls I am putting off telling you this but....

I HAD THREE FAGS LAST NIGHT. Dh brought them home and at about midnight I just cracked. I have no desire to smoke in the day and fine most evenings but when we sit & have a drink together, and I know he has fags, I just can't stand it. But the thought of going back to being a stinky forever sneaking off chuffer is too depressing to think about.

I have realised that my weakness is dh having fags (not that I blame him for this). He can't give up at the mo so I have to get over this somehow. It frustrates me that I've tried my damndest and still failed.

Well I suggest you leave your husband
Kidding. Oh Gawd. I know just how you feel. That joint knocked me right pack into the pit and it was soul destroying. And I still went on to have one the next night. Silly cow.
You CANNOT smoke and run, your lungs wont have it. So whats the plan from here?
Cyber Hug

Thank you cc, you're so kind...

you're right, you're right. the plan is to fixate on that 10k race on sept 12 and me running it in under an hour. Also the half marathon in exeter in may with my friend. I will think this loud and clear in my head whenever dh goes out for a fag or smokes one in the kitchen (grrr). managed fine last weekend, when I felt desperate I just went up & had a bath & slathered oils on.

a silly weak moment which has passed now.
Hope you're well out of your 'pit' now cc xx

I have total sympathy, Ive had times quitting where I have been fine all day, and then dp has came im at 6.30-7.00 and I have almost leapt on him trying to get the fags out of his pocket....If you have it in your mind theres one there, with your name on it...well its near on impossible to fight it.
So have you got up this morning and had any? Or was it just the evening blues?
Words fail me here, you know and I know....
I will refer back to earlier on in the thread...
Emergency Tactic- Carry a large hammer and whack oneself hard on the head in the few seconds it takes for the Just One Monster to take hold. should delay the thought for long enough to get over it without giving in! xx

I did laff at the leaving dh suggestion cc, actually did consider this the other night when washing up at 11.45 pm!!

am actually quite fond of him now tho esp as last night he suggested I go away for 2 days to get this new book started - did this to finish the last one, worked like a loon in my hotel room till 3 a.m., no thinking, 'shit, I'd better defrost chicken for tea/load the drier/call mum/find boys' gym shoes/empty stinky bin... bliss!

am only gonna let myself go away if I can quit the fags for good tho...

i am fg and i am a weak willed idiot but also a non smoker.

Gazelle! gazelle! gazelle!! xx

our posts crossed there. Thanks for your support this morning cc, makes me feel more human, less alone with my guilt!

no, haven't had any today. Find it reasonably easy in the day - what you say is EXACTLY what I feel too - dh walking in the door at 7 pm, and suddenly this voice goes HERE IS JIMMY! HE HAS FAGS IN HIS POCKET! GET THEM!! The thought that I've barely noticed all day is suddenly roaring in my head like a fierce lion.

hammer! Gazelle! Oils! 10k race!!

our babysitter is coming round tomorrow night (we go out together about five times a year) and we are - this sounds mental - gonna climb a big hill and drink wine at the top of it. Will feel free & good & healthy and it'll be easier to resist fags than sitting in pub. Feel good today. Thanks again for being here cc.

hammer! Gazelle! Oils! 10k race!! That is what you need to repeat to yourself over and over again.....breathe in breathe out hammer! Gazelle! Oils! 10k race!! ....you can do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Think of your hill...it wont be half as enjoyable if you know your lungs are going to have to shift some smoky gunk first.
And a below the belt hit here, that you may or not want but...sam's face, when he saw the fags, and him whispering to dex in their bedroom in the holiday house, 'I saw cigarettes! But Mum said she's stopped! She lied! She still smokes!'
Gawd, the shame, I wanted to stab myself.
Your words.....You have GOT to stopx

cc that is EXACTLY what I needed to hear! very clever lady!
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HAMMER! GAZELLE! OILS! 10k RACE!

It's working cc xx

i always feel so crap that i join in at midday and all the supporting has already been done without any of my contribution :( I can't even follow up from cc, she's the best at making you feel better and inspiring you isn't she?!! BIG HUG for you CC and BIG HUG for you fg! i think cc's tactic of reminding you about sam and dex is the best one! why don't you keep a tiny photo of them in your pocket so that no matter where you are in the house or out, you just pull it out and think of them (and erin of course!) Sorry i wasn't there at your crucial time, but like cc says, get focused on your race!! you guys are doing sooooo well considering your smoking partners being there so ALWAYS think of what you HAVE achieved. i would have cracked ages ago AND everyday :(

DH was supposed to have half day today but now he's not allowed to leave because they're short of staff today not his fault, but SO disappointing! That means he only gets half day tomorrow off this week! how crap.

cc, you'll need to remind me closer to x-mas about the oils because i don't want to make them anytime before them as they'll lose their healing properties and won't smell as nice! glad your mum liked them tho :)

You are equally inspirational mm, always with wise words! I think we just seem to be able to help and support each other. Wonder what it'd be like if we ever met? Would we be madly gnawing on gum, sucking lozenges & scoffing bombay mix?

Are we down to a threesome again? Where is posey and fee77????

Like idea of carrying pic mm! Am gonna look one out now. xx

GAZELLE! SAM'S SAD FACE! GAZELLE! SAM'S SAD FACE!

Hello Again Girls..........Madly sniffing at wrists.......If we all stay off the fags, Totally get over them and live Happily Ever After.......It will be absoultly REMARKABLE....And if we ever meet, I for one would probably cry with gratefulness that you were both there in my time of need Wipes snot on sleeve...continue...and FG I think you should see if DH will leave the house to smoke, I have came in from outside a few times with the nagging ache to smoke...and then ive realised my house is fag free and unsmelly and its totally put me off wanting one. Having it up your nose just undermines you, I feel. Its like dangling it on a carrot, especially when your struggling.
Heres a thought for you, it certainly kept me focused today:
My dad had lung cancer, 6 months before he died a bloke he knew lit up a fag and my dad told him to Fuck Off and never spoke to him again.
I went to his funeral and couldnt believe the teeny coffin had my dad in it, the cancer must have eaten him away.
At his funeral his friends were SMOKING and I really just couldnt believe it, as they were putting him in the ground, Jeesus I thought...
But anyway, Imagine knowing those little white sticks have caused you to get Lung Cancer, imagine knowing youve got 6 months to live, and they are so Fing addictive that YOU STILL want one.
F that girls, we must never end up in that black hole of a place.
Get it together and move on.
No Sympathy required BTW, My dad was a twat and he probably deserved it in one way or another, but I wouldnt have fancied a day in his shoes.

And for smiles, I founs a piccy of Fiona on the net, Ive added it to my photo album at Yahoo see it here, last photo Let me know if the link doesnt work and ill email it to you [mischievious ]

Oh try clicking on back to album ive copyed and pasted the wrong thing

would you mind sending album link again cc.. am I gonna be embarrassed....?

feeling SO much better - I do appreciate kind words today girls, and the stuff about your dad cc is def food for thought...

am feeling all physical & motivated - am gonna take boys out on bikes when I go for a run tonight.

mm I have unearthed a cute pic of the boys looking v fresh faced & innocent and un-ciggy-ish!! (IYKWIM)

BIG THANKS 7 HUGS GIRLS xx

Email on its way FG

peeks head in

Congrats ladies, you are doing marvellous! Be proud of yourselves

If you don't mind, I shall be joining you on Monday 06 September. Got to let the zyban kick in first (ok so I'm technically taking the sort of easy way out )

DP is also going to make an appointment with the nurse to talk about stopping so wish us both luck

Hi Hidden Spirit and welcome! Zyban, isn't that that drug and how does it work exactly? i had a colourist once who said he took it and his head blew up like a puffa fish because he had the wrong reaction and was sick after! it obviously worked because he stayed off the fags ever after that!! Good luck with it!

CC, something is wrong with me, cannot access fg's portrait and am DYING to see (equally mischievous ) i went to the link and it just had the login page. how are you doing today anyway...i think those old holborn toxins must have left your body already because you sound v. chirpy today (apart from the story about your dad naturally, but it def. did the trick. that's what worries me about my mum & dad)

i'm so glad everyone is feeling fighting fit today and remember girls, it IS a day at a time! i don't know about you, but i've found that i haven't needed to count anymore because of the support you've given me. it is so much easier with you two (and 3 when hidden spirit joins!).

haven't been in the house lately and when i have, have been bullied into staying downstairs and watching Bob the Builder with DS1!

oh and good luck with dp hs!

HA HA HA CC, how funny!!! where did you find that?!!!

Have emailed you it MM, did that get there to you ok? Have you looked yet Fiona?
Hello HS! And Welcome!
Hiddenspirit is one of my Allen Carr victims, Ive posted her a book and now look whats happened! Shes giving up the fags:)
I have been watching lots of kids things too, scobby doo little mermaid shrek....oh what fun!
The toxins are gone thank god! You know whats really funny, Ive dreamt of being this way, nicotine and fag free...with no patch on...completely free of the weed...and now im here, actually here...I dont seem to be appreciating it. I think I will be something Momentus tommorow...any ideas? Coz this is gooood:)

Right here in one of the kids books.

I thought it was rather cheeky:)