desperate fag quitter! Anyone similar, fancy mutual support group?!

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To my shame it's about my 167th attempt to quit fags... anyone out there trying the same who would like to start a support thingie here where we can rant and vent our frustrations and praise each other? I'm starting tomorrow...

Going to have a fag in a minute if FG doesnt come back and say "of course dear i know im a scream, now stop gushing and finish the book" embarresed

hi all, sorry i didn't post anything this evening, no real cravings or moods to yap about!! Wow, after dealing with 2 young ones everyday, looking after just one 4mth old is p*ss easy!!! had a great time taking ds2 out and about and then coming home, feeding him milk and then having my own dinner. even managed a glass of something nice too and no fag. associations are slowly becoming weaker....

am about to go to bed, shattered for no apparent reason and need to go to do ds2's imprints tomorrow morning.

fg, aromatherapy works (if there is anyone who can correct me please do) in short, in diff ways. if you sniff the oils, then they affect your mind via receptor cells in your nose. if you use them in the bath or massage, then they reach your bloodstream percutaneously or through the air. diff oils have diff properties, e.g. lavender is an anti-viral, anti-septic, anti-biotic & anti-fungal oil on a medical level whilst also being a relaxing one on a another. I always keep a bottle of lavender (make sure it's lavendula augustofolia and not lavendula hybrida - not as good) with me in the bedroom or during travel as I find that a few drops to the temple and rubbed on wrists & nose (it is one of the few oils you can use neat) sends me off to sleepyland immediately or calms me down when i need it. This has become a lecture, so I'll stop now!

anyway off to bed and good riddance to aromatherapist-wannabe and lecturer. Hope you guys had a nice night, see you in the morning.

p.s. did you have good days becuase I don't recall reading anything about SM**ING

Morning all, i am feeling much more positive today. It is a week since my last fag, and i'm doing fine! It has been a bit of a rollercoaster week, but both DH and i made it. He is desperate for a smoke so has been no help at all to me. An i have lost 6lbs this week - it must be all the tears

thank you v much for your kind words cc, so glad you like it - I didn't laff when writing it, found it quite stressy sometimes cos I couldn't wangle the time to finish it (dd was a baby).

rushing off to take dd to a party but must tell you got v piddled last night, had lovely time, prawn thing was lovely - and DIDN'T SMOKE!!! It's the first time I've been drunk & not smoked! Was temped but just thought of you cc and mm, and all your encouraging words, went up for a baff with nice oils in!

T afor explanation - have the floral one slathered all over my arms today mm.

Well done fee! What a massive achievement! The tears will stop, it will get easier...

sorry to rush off, am in edinburgh later today so might not post till tomorrow,

have a lovely day folks xxxxxxxx

Morning, just out the bath and I had taken fgs idea of rubbing the oil all over my arms and neck and im sitting here feeling lovely and chilled, Thank You MM!!!
Thats really mad that you were stressed writing it, how odd!!! Cant work that one out! Surely the point of writing is because you enjoy it??? Or was it because you had all these fab ideas but didnt have the time to get them down quick enough before the tiredness of having a baby took over and the guilt of not doing the chores etc?
Well done for not having a fag! its not so hard is it????!!!!! And I bet your chuffed with yourself this morning. I was a bit ratted myself last night, was slurring but my head was still funtioning, mouth wasnt though lol!!!
What is ds2s imprint MM?
FEE77 Your Dh has stopped smoking because he didnt want to be a smoker anymore, hes now made the massive achievement of managing to get a week away from the dreaded weed and now all hes doing is wishing he was a smoker again...He needs to reasurre himself that it is a good thing and hes not missing out on anything!
Well done to you too! You sound more upbeat about it today, i too feel as if its been a rollercoaster of ups and downs, a bumpy ride this one!
Have a nice day everyone, going to sniff my arms now! xx

you're right - I think it was a stressy experience cos I knew what I wanted to do but couldn't figure out how to wangle the time, and also wrote it at night cos I had to keep the daytime work going... anyway that's all over now and I do love writing, feel v lucky to have a job I enjoy. I do think that getting stressed is part of the job too, it all gets a bit desperate & panicky towards a deadline - can't ever imagine being completely chilled about it. In some ways even the strung-out parts are quite fun. This time will be sniffing my arms rather than chuffing fags like a loon.

nipped back from party cos erin was happy to be left, am MEANT to be working, better crack on! xxx
PS the big news is jimmy (dh) has announced that he is gonna QUIT FAGS TOMORROW!!!! Halleluja!

GIRLS!!!!!!!!!!!

I just found a great antedote to fag cravings! dh just came back from charity shop (he is a charity shop addict) with 12" of Street Life (extended disco mix) - one of my fave songs ever. For a mere £1.99!

So intead of wanting a fag I made him put it on and I had a dance! Not pretty, but v enjoyable...

Have I lost the plot? xxxxxxxxxx

am so sorry about gerby cc, you must have felt awful. very sad story, too sad for a jokey section on pets, am so sorry I made you think about it again.
feel ashamed now...

I dint think about it FG I jusy copied and pasted the link, thankfully about a fortnight later my coping mechanism kicked in and I stopped having flashbacks, I wanted to bang my head against something sharp to take them away it was absoulty horrific
OMG! What has come over your DH? Has he stopped before or has he been inspired by you? Is he going to join in( Hello Mf jg!) the thread?
That will be lovely for you xx
The song your talking about, never heard of, but I find I enjoy music more when not smoking, for the last couple of years...this is the truth...anytime ive found myself enjoying something, dancing, singing whatever, this evil, well your still smoking you twat type thought would come into my head and ruin my song, dance whatever so to be listening to a song and have the other extreme...woohoo...No Fags! is quite fantastic.
I really did and do want to quit this shit for good.Its blighted my life for too long.

Oh and dp thought i had become obsessed with sniffing my own Body Odours as ive been running my nose up and down my arms today and yesterday I was sniffing my wrists....
MM do you sell your stuff or do you just do it for yourself(and us?!)
Being an ebay addict I wondered whether theres any profit to be made on selling it through Ebay?
LOL, or have I just lost the plot and need therapy for my other addiction???

Er and that would be MR fg not Mf fg

OMG MR jg..

tee hee!
NO WAY is dh joining in on this thread, horrific thought, it's way too private!! He has no idea how much I come on here & I intend it to stay that way...

I feel same way cc - do crave sort of constantly and find myself sort of sucking on my gums, and like you, always sniffing myself, or snorting the b. pepper oil, but want the crap out of my life & feel v happy to be doing this.

Am going to a work related party ON MY OWN in edinburgh, leaving 3ish, bit nervous cos am out of party habit & won't know anyone. Am getting bus so at least will be able to drink!! what a scaredy cat.

Hope everyone's having good weekend & that your tears are stopped now fee... how you doing mm, miss you! xx

You sound jovial FG have a nice time at your party! You wont have to seek out the smokers who you have nothing in common with but spend your time with as they share your addiction!
Dps finished the gerbil cage thing and we are going out to get some sawdust and things...
Have fun xx

hi everyone. was out all day and have only just had a chance ot get on! How are everyone's cravings/moods/days? Like fg says fee77, it DOES get easier. we are on week2 (is that right cc i don't know?!) and if you ask the others what i was like a week ago, i had a bad 24/48 hr smoking bug where i just felt like crap. these 2 pulled me through though for which i am grateful we'll be here for you too fee77, it really is worth it.

cc, i only dabble in the aromatherapy for friends and family. so far everyone seems to like it, although it's hard to know what sort of smells people like or don't like. I think that's a great idea about ebay though. i actually fleetingly thought that last week! i don't know if anyone would buy the stuff though, but i suppose people buy anything there don't they? I know i do! would love to do a course one day and be able to know more about it. mmm, perhaps i should give the ebay thing a go, sure could do with some pocket money, the way i'm spending since the quitting

fg, when you read this tomorrow, hope you had a swell time at your party, god i know what you mean about being out of the circuit (not that i was in one but i just mean general socialising). i'm sure you looked gorgeous and hope you drank yourself silly!!

ds2's imprints are those framed clay prints of your kids' hands and feet that you get at John Lewis. we did one for max and so finally got round to doing one for seb. extortionate things since they're sentimental but quite nice to be able to show the children how small their 'bits' were once.

had a nice dinner today and felt like puffing after. i don't know why it's always after a good meal. maybe i haven't gotten rid of the kind of restaurant/going out association? also had a drink so that didn't help. avoided a kiosk today (is that all i ever do, supermarket shopping?!!! ) so that's good.

i think i'll have a bath now, will check to see if any of you lot are being sad on a sat. night and in front of your pc. if you don't hear from me, i am here just watching a dvd with dh.

p.s. is it easy this ebay selling part?

oh and doesn't AC look like Charlton Heston?!!!

Hello MM yes im sad enough to be sitting here on a Saturday night! And even sadder, I only just finished doing the housework 15 mins ago! Had a mad urge to get it all done as ive been slobbing around for weeks now, and blitzed everywhere except the kids room and the loo, I did spray the loo and will wipe it later...ok did you need to know that NO! Ok..
Had to ask Dp who Charlton Heston was...he said actor, I have somewhere in the depths of my brain heard of him but have nooooo idea who he is...although I guess he looks like A.C!
A.C has appeared on things like Richard and Judy and he seems such a calm man, even when hes sitting next to people who are like promoting tobacco...I love him I really do. He opened my eyes anyway. I havent been drinking...I guess im just glad he discovered that if you see fags differently its not so hard to give them up, although still a bloody task and a half though!
Had a goodish day today, its still in my mind, im not craving fags but I cant forget im not IYKWIM I get a tightning in my chest and sniff my arms till it goes away!
I thought thats what the imprints were! I tryed that at home, it worked but not so neatly done as you can imagine! I have random aged paint footprints of my dds in thier photo albums instead!
Ebay is easy as anything to sell on click a few buttons, write your description, take a photo, couple more buttons and your away.
I spent a good couple of days reading all the selling pages first and still managed to put my mothercare item on as BHS and i didnt mention it was for a girl and the mum of a boy brought it!!!! I learnt quickly to double check everything after that!
I had a quick look myself and 10ml of some sort of aromatherapy were 1-4 quid. and people were bidding, have a look for yourself and see what sort of money other people are making.
I brought some homemade saddle soap from Ebay and so had others so people do buy and sell such like things.
I still have the meal association thing, probably not good for my expanding middle but im having a packet of crisps after dinner to tingle my taste buds!!!!!
Hope your having a nice time FG!
I am off to Alton towers tommorow with my sister her bloke and dp, no kids!!!WWWEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEHHHHHOOOOOOOO
So if im not back tonight I will be tommorow xxx

Hello MM yes im sad enough to be sitting here on a Saturday night! And even sadder, I only just finished doing the housework 15 mins ago! Had a mad urge to get it all done as ive been slobbing around for weeks now, and blitzed everywhere except the kids room and the loo, I did spray the loo and will wipe it later...ok did you need to know that NO! Ok..
Had to ask Dp who Charlton Heston was...he said actor, I have somewhere in the depths of my brain heard of him but have nooooo idea who he is...although I guess he looks like A.C!
A.C has appeared on things like Richard and Judy and he seems such a calm man, even when hes sitting next to people who are like promoting tobacco...I love him I really do. He opened my eyes anyway. I havent been drinking...I guess im just glad he discovered that if you see fags differently its not so hard to give them up, although still a bloody task and a half though!
Had a goodish day today, its still in my mind, im not craving fags but I cant forget im not IYKWIM I get a tightning in my chest and sniff my arms till it goes away!
I thought thats what the imprints were! I tryed that at home, it worked but not so neatly done as you can imagine! I have random aged paint footprints of my dds in thier photo albums instead!
Ebay is easy as anything to sell on click a few buttons, write your description, take a photo, couple more buttons and your away.
I spent a good couple of days reading all the selling pages first and still managed to put my mothercare item on as BHS and i didnt mention it was for a girl and the mum of a boy brought it!!!! I learnt quickly to double check everything after that!
I had a quick look myself and 10ml of some sort of aromatherapy were 1-4 quid. and people were bidding, have a look for yourself and see what sort of money other people are making.
I brought some homemade saddle soap from Ebay and so had others so people do buy and sell such like things.
I still have the meal association thing, probably not good for my expanding middle but im having a packet of crisps after dinner to tingle my taste buds!!!!!
Hope your having a nice time FG!
I am off to Alton towers tommorow with my sister her bloke and dp, no kids!!!WWWEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEHHHHHOOOOOOOO
So if im not back tonight I will be tommorow xxx
Not sure if this will have posted as I hit the stop button, im off to Thorpe Park tommorow, went to A.T a few weeks back!

Have a fantastic time CC, all that fun and a break from the kids is always good! Thanks for searching on ebay for me - i know it wasn't taxing for you though you addict

will do a recky tomorrow, am so tired at the mo will go to bed! spent the evening on my own because dh fell asleep whilst putting ds1 to bed . Actually, it was kind of a break

i forgot ot mention that i also get those tingly feelings (but not in a fimble way) in my fingers time to time as a result of the quitting. it must be nerves shooting off! terrible how dependent your body AND mind get isn't it? could kill a fag now though....

anyway, i'll speak to you tomorrow, take care!

fg, i also forgot to say 'congrats' on the new development in your house! Surely there's a Dadsnet you can ship dh off to!!!

hi guys can I join you? Been smoker for 14 years and sick of trying to hide from ds and dd during the day while I puff/smell and taste of tobacco/being addicted and so last friday went to a hypnotist with my mum. So 8 days and counting!! Doing AC aswell, as have used his book before and has worked for me a few times - though not well enough.

Hoping the combo of hypno, AC and giving up with my mum (who has serious health problems due to smoking) will get me through. Been doing well no cracks yet and found the first 4/5 days easy but now struggling a bit and it is coming into my mind a bit too often for my liking.

Been great to read this thread and see how well you guys are doing and pmsl at a few funny posts too.

mm what is the aromatherapy concoction you used? I may try it as I have a few oils - could you let me know?

hi midden and welcome! well done on your 8 days. I found that the first week is the hardest, like cc or fg said, the novelty of giving up has worn off by this stage so it becomes harder. i have found this support group incredibly helpful - would have picked up a fag by now if it wasn't for our endless banter.

I made up some oils for cc and fg based upon withdrawal symtoms. for moodiness you could try any of the following: lemon geranium, eucalyptus, neroli, lavender, ylang ylang or patchouli. for anger try any of: chamomile roman, chamomile german, tuberose, linden blossom, vetiver,lavender, bergamot, rose maroc, rose otto, petitgrain and patchouli.
for depression, any of: mandarin, chamomile roman, lemon, bergamot, grapefruit, orange, jasmine, ylang ylang, roseotto, rose maroc, neroli, geranium, petitgrain, eucalyptus, sandalwood, clary sage, marjoram, lavender or frankinsense!

HTH

And I thought I would be first to the thread this morning...! Have woke up thinking how LLLLOOVVEEELLLYYY it would be to have a fag instead of rushing about, but i think thats more to do with having to get us lot ready for 9 oclock than anything else, with my "watched A.C video once and have never looked back" sister today so should be ok!
Welcome Midden, sounds like your doing well and like you must have really wanted to give up in the first place well done!!!!
Feel free to come and vent your frustration here adn try to remember why it was you decided to quit in the first place.
FG best of luck to Mr jg...if he doesnt last an hour it doesnt mean to say you get to have a fag with him you know!!(Thats the lenght of dps stopping smoking which is why im saying that lol)
That tingley feeling btw is your nerve ends growing back, smoking kills them off at the most alarming rate and this is us getting them back..yeah! And my veiny feet look lushious now, no veins at all.
Tanyas came out in a big rash across her face...typical. Leaving her in the good care of my mum and going to leave the number for the emergency doctor Just In Case.
Im not staying at home as ive learnt that if you cancel the child recovers fully and if you go so far so good the child still recovers fully!
Best of luck to you allxx(and me)!
P.S wont this be absoultly brilliant if we all do crack this poxy thing...and get to a point when we feel weve got over it...

morning all. fg, are you hungover ? how was your party?

i've got loads of washing to do today so will probably be in good spirits for us all !!

Morning all!
Yeah am hungover! Mouth is like a sewer. Was lovely to be at a party and not worry about offending people by smoking, or snaeaking outsdie - it was in a marquee thing and no one was fagging it. Great fun! Met some lovely people & then tottered onto bus home (!) - we live 1 hour from edinburgh - in a tiddly state.

Great to have you with us midden! & congrats on getting through first week...

am feeling v itchy & scratchy & craving a bit, am gonna slather on mm's oils. we're going swimming so catch you later xxxx and dh has put a patch on - yey! will be so much easier if he stops chuffing.

I hope tanya's rash cleared up & that you had a fantastic kid free day cc!

Also midden I do know what you mean about being sick of hiding from children... this was my main motivation for quitting as I despised myself so much, also having fag breath when giving them a kiss.

good luck!!