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EATING DISORDER SUFFERERS.......

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lissielou · 08/03/2007 13:52

thought id start this thread coz there seem to be a few of us on here. ive been anorexic since i was little, started my first diet aged 6 and have struggled ever since. still have tumbles but getting a bit of control back now.

anyone else?

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Hillls · 11/05/2007 13:10

How is everyone? Nobody has posted for a while, just wanted to make sure you are all ok??

h .x.

CountTo10 · 12/05/2007 20:15

Hey all - actually doing really well at the moment. I'm finding the counselling so helpful. Its opening my eyes to so many things about myself, things I'd never thought about that's really making me learn about my behaviours and how to combat them. I feel like I'm starting to feel a grip on reality again within myself and I can see a light at the end which I haven't felt in a long time. I can't say that's going to be the end of it full stop but it's a good start. I hope everyone are making steps however big or small in their recovery.
Hills what support do you have around you at the moment?

Callmemadam · 02/07/2007 23:32

So, so sorry to hear that Hillary has lost her battle - especilly as she clearly never stopped giving help to others even ehen ehe had got too tired to carry on her own fight any longer.

Aero · 03/07/2007 14:47

I read over this thread last night. I had no idea Hillary and lots of other names I recognise were going through this. You are all clearly very supportive of each other. I'm so very sorry that Hillary lost her battle with such a cruel disease. She always seemed like a lovely person. Her profile pics are lovely. My heart goes out to her girls, her family and friends.

hellobello · 03/07/2007 20:14

??? What happened? Has Hillary died? I'm so sorry to hear if this is the case.

Tamdin · 03/07/2007 20:21

yes hellobello. hillary's friend posted a day or two ago to say hillary died dies on 29th may. very sad

Tamdin · 03/07/2007 20:22

yes hellobello. hillary's friend posted a day or two ago to say hillary died on 29th may. very sad

CountTo10 · 03/07/2007 20:28

Oh my god. I don't know what to say. I knew Hillary had gone downhill and always kept an eye out for her. I feel so sad for her family. It's a stark reminder of the eventuality of this disease to us all x

dontwanttogetoutofbed · 16/07/2007 11:56

hi its recoveringmum. i am really overcome with great grief as i read the few last entries here. I am sorry we didnt get to respond to hills last entries. I hope shefinds happiness in her new place and a release form what she did not want to face here.

lissie · 16/07/2007 11:59

lets get this moving again, see if we can help each other.

Judy1234 · 16/07/2007 12:58

Oh dear. That's so sad. A major part of my brother's life and work is working with people with eating disorders. He probably loses more patients than many other types of doctors do.

And to see that post below (I just read this thread) and then here she's died that makes it seem so real. I read an autobiography earlier this year by a girl who had anorexia just before and at university (called "Thin") which was a very interesting description. But she recovered.

I believe my mother was anorexic at one point as was my sister who also then had bulimia but they both got over it. I've certainly had periods of over eating but I've never been quite sure it's got so bad I'd call it an eating disorder. I certainly remember a few Easters when I ate all the children's easter eggs (before they knew they had them).

lissie · 16/07/2007 13:07

tbh, i find it scary how many people do suffer

MumOfSlytherinsMonsters · 16/07/2007 13:09

EDs come in all shapes and forms that there are probably ppl who have no idea that the way they eat or don't eat is wrong so to speak

Judy1234 · 16/07/2007 13:13

Yes, I wonder what percentage? My brother has some fascinating cases from the 1500s in the UK of people with eating disorders. So I'm not sure it's a luxury of well fed societies but probahly an internal problem that might even be genetic.

lissie · 16/07/2007 13:18

my aunt has suffered from EDs since she was 10, i didnt meet her til i was 18 but we are so simillar, shes fought depression for years academically an under-acheiver we even look alike.

dontwanttogetoutofbed · 16/07/2007 13:43

it was really hard for me to read this thread in the morning, it was the first time i had to face the reality that could be an ed.

nlp has been the only thing that helped me to overcome my ed. what i learned at nlp is that my ed is a decision i make every day. its not something ' i have' or someone else 'doesnt have'. It is something i taught myself to do (and learned it really well0. After years of conditioning myself to use food to deal with life's ups and downs(began with fear for me and ended in.... everything), it was very hard for me to 'change' my behaviour. I can only say that after years of trying to stop this behaviour, nlp has been the single factor in helping me to do that, and today i can see a conscious difference between living my life with my brain defaulting to food vs living my life in control of my brain, my thoughts, my feelings and my actions.

I really would like to offer my help to anyone out there who would like - i am a phonecall/email away

dontwanttogetoutofbed · 16/07/2007 13:45

By the way Xenia in ancient Rome there were customs of eating feasts and regurgitating them to make room for new ones (must check my old philosophy textbooks for the reference)

Judy1234 · 16/07/2007 14:08

I bet we could find something in ancient Egypt too if we looked closely enough too.

I don't think it's all choice and will. I think some people have a genetic or biochemical propensity to be subject to depression, alcoholism, EDs etc. But it's very very complex. I could never for example just not eat. I have no will/control like that at all. I don't know how anorexics do it. I don't think I could make myself either but I could certainly eat large amounts of chocolate when I'm not hungry in a way a lot of people can't and don't want to do.

A lot of help is rightly concentrated on anorexics and and those with bulimia. I would guess there are probably more people in the UK population who eat excessively than in either of those categories but that's not so dangerous unless it's at extremes.

dontwanttogetoutofbed · 16/07/2007 14:27

maybe its a chicken and egg - the chemical imbalance and the ed or depression alcoholism etc. though i dont know any babies who starve themselves or are depressed so it must stem elsewhere.

Judy1234 · 16/07/2007 18:10

Some children have depression and others have EDs. I think it's a genetic propensity which doesn't necessarily mean you will have the problem but you're more likely than others without that genetic heritage.

Also all good depression / dry out etc clinics use a good diet amongst other things to help people, cut out sugar, white flour so conversely some people probably by their diet make themselves more depressed.

lissie · 17/07/2007 17:13

agree xenia, my lilsis also tends to use starving herself as a coping mechanism

MrsMarvel · 17/07/2007 17:31

What a tragedy this thread is - I was just reading and now have found out she died.

These abusers just don't get enough punishment. I hope hers is forced to read this.

Hope her dds are OK.

Puts it all in perspective, doesn't it.

CountTo10 · 19/07/2007 20:53

I've thought a lot about ed's in general and personally since the news of hills. It struck me that there is something incredibly selfish about an ed but I'd never seen it before. I don't mean that in a horrible way. I sat there and though what if mine had gripped me in the same way, what would my mum tell my ds etc. I never thought really before about the impact of an ed on the people around me in my life, just myself. I'm 'lucky' in that in later years my ed was a coping thing rather than a way of life but at the beginning it wasn't and if it hadn't been for some of the friends/family, it could have been a lot worse. Having counselling recently has taught me things I'd never thought about before and only wish I'd discovered them before. I just desperatley hope that if there is anyone out there struggling with this issue at present, they can find the strength to seek out some help or talk to someone. It's such a debilitating disease both emotionally and physically. I never fully understood to what extent though.

lissie · 05/08/2007 23:34

hows everyone doing?

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