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Original poster

We have at best a year or two

369 replies

Blandmum · 02/12/2006 16:58

I said I wouldn't post again, but since MN has been supportive I thought it only fair.

We found out this afternoon, that dh has an agressice adenocarcinoma of the pancreas. With treatment a 'good' prognosis would be a a year or two. I know that in practice it will probably be less than this.

Poor sweet man.

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PartridgeinaRustyBearTree · 03/12/2006 17:17

mb -I'm so sorry to hear this - you know that everyone is thinking of you and your lovely family

texasrose · 03/12/2006 17:27

Just want to say - You are in my prayers MB.

NotSoSilentMhamaiNight · 03/12/2006 18:04

Oh MB I'm so sorry. I will keep you and your dh and family in my prayers.

beckybrastraps · 03/12/2006 18:15

The way you write about your husband has always made me smile. There's a lot of moaning about husband and partners on MN, but clearly you have one of the best and it has been lovely to hear of your happiness. And now it is heartbreaking to hear of your sadness. I hope there are some precious times for you in the coming months. Take care. xx

welliemum · 03/12/2006 19:30

MB, that is such sad news. I can't even imagine what this must be like, but I think you're being amazingly brave for your DH, and it's very thoughtful of you to update us here on mn.

Just wanted to say a word of caution as I've some experience with ca pancreas: the chemo and pain relief has come a long way in the last few years, so if you're reading up about this, bear that in mind. Old info will be very gloomy, recent info less so.

(Sorry, unsolicited advice can be very irritating I know; apologies if this is out of place.)

Wishing you and DH and the family the very best of luck.

Ellbell · 03/12/2006 19:49

MB
I'm glad you came back to update us. We've all been thinking about you.
I'm so so sorry that you've had this news. There is nothing I can say to make it any better, but I will continue to keep you in my thoughts.
Enjoy the time that you have with your dh. Your love for him shines through in each and every one of your posts about him.
Ellbell

whoopsfallenoveragain · 03/12/2006 19:51

Really sorry to hear this MB

Thinking of you and you family

Lio · 03/12/2006 20:01

So very sad to hear this. Sending you all strong thoughts.

chocolateshoes · 03/12/2006 20:06

So sorry to read this MB, my thoughts are with you & hope you have some precious times.

mummylin2495 · 03/12/2006 20:13

MB I am very sorry to hear your news but i am sure you and your family will have more love in the coming months then some people have in their whole lives.May you all have many,many months ahead of you as a family.We will all be thinking of you on MN.

cyrilsquirrel · 03/12/2006 20:46

I am so sorry to read this.

My thoughts and prayers are with you xx

RTKangaSANTAMummy · 03/12/2006 20:51

Sorry to read your news

{{{{{{{{cyberhugs to you and your DH and family}}}}}}}}

Dottydotthehalls · 03/12/2006 21:41

MB - such sad, sad news. You and your dh are in my thoughts.xxx

PollyLogos · 04/12/2006 08:35

Martianbishop I am so sad to read this, anything I write just seems trite, so I will just wish you all much love and strength in the coming months.

xena · 04/12/2006 08:40

I'm so sorry MB all my thoughts with you xxxx

Jackstini · 04/12/2006 09:21

MB just to let you know I am thinking of you right now as you will be listening to the options you have.
All the luck and prayers in the world to you and your family - your adoration of your dh has always shone through in your posts

Loshad · 04/12/2006 09:40

Oh Sh** Mb, what an awful diagnosis, you poor poor thing, don't kno what to say really, except (((())))

ThrockenAroundTheChristmasTree · 04/12/2006 09:48

this is one of those times when there is no right thing to say .

I hope you all find the strength to cope with the tough times ahead, and some space to find some good times in there too.

Life can be so cruel sometimes.

JessaJingleBells · 04/12/2006 09:52

Shit.
So sorry to hear this mb.

Gingerbear · 04/12/2006 10:00

my heart goes out to you mb. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

GBxx

HuwEdwards · 04/12/2006 10:01

Oh MB, this is just awful, awful. I hope as a family, you can squeeze as much life and love as possible into the time you have left with your darling husband.

As others have said, it matters not whether you're on MN, we will think and probably 'speak' of you often.

YeahBut · 04/12/2006 10:22

I'm so sorry to hear this news, MB.
Thinking of you and your family.

dhw · 04/12/2006 10:39

MB - I am so sorry that you are all facing this. You sound an incredible woman and MN will be here for you WHENEVER you might need it/us. Sending lots of love to you both and wishing you some very special times together.

dhw
x

Original poster
Blandmum · 04/12/2006 13:14

saw the oncologist today. palitaive care and the avereage life expectancy is 3-6 months.

there is nothing else to say

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sunnywong · 04/12/2006 13:15

bloody hell fire

and speechless