We have at best a year or two

[Blandmum]

I said I wouldn't post again, but since MN has been supportive I thought it only fair.

We found out this afternoon, that dh has an agressice adenocarcinoma of the pancreas. With treatment a 'good' prognosis would be a a year or two. I know that in practice it will probably be less than this.

Poor sweet man.

oh martianbishop, I'm so so sorry

oh darling >>

MB, I am so sorry for your news.

Martian.......

I take it that yuor darling dh has been told this too??

oh mb I do hope you have the chance to create some positive long lasting memories in the difficult months ahead. Wishing you and your family the best.

Oh shit

How utterly utterly unfair. So sorry MB

xxx

Oh shit. I'm so very very sorry.

Mb. I guess in these circumstances, words are just powerless to convey the strength of feeling
I am so totally gutted for you and your family.
Wishing you all the love in the world to get through this
Piff xx

shit

we both know, he asked, and the guy ashed dh is he wanted the truth. Everyone was very kind. He gets some chemo tomorrow.....to help with the symptoms. We should get some contact from the macmillan nurses in our area today, which is a weight off my mind, I was so scared when he was ill in the middle of the night and had no-one to contact and had to go through NHS direct.

I already knew that time was very limited,

At least he now has some good anti emetics and amazingly we stopped at Macdonalds and had a burger for lunch......Mn would be so shocked!

The hardest thing is thinking about the kids. I can cope with it for dh and me, but the kids just break my heart

I'm so sorry

So so sorry MB

So sorry, honey. Thinking of you.
xxx

Bloody hell, really sorry MB

Nothing to say that can possibly help, just thinking of you all.

Oh MB, that's just so sad. I'm so so sorry

I dont know what to say MB. The news was bad enough but you must feel that the rug has well and truly been pulled out from underneath you today.

but can anyone help?
Can anyone relieve you of the drudgery of day to day housekeeping or anything similar so you and your family can maximise your time together?

Very sorry, MB. DOn't know what else to say...

Oh darling...

Bloody hell, I wish I could think of the words to describe how sad I feel for you.
Everything just sounds so trite and doesn't even come near.

Take care MB and enjoy the time you have with your lovely Dh.

So sorry martianbishop

Thinking of you x

martianbishop - I'm so sorry to hear that.
We lost a good friend last year. He had an aggressive kidney tumour and was only ill for about 4 months.
This will sound odd but he did somehow manage to make dying a positive experience - to build strong bonds with his family and children. His daughter had started to be a typical teenager but was able to start cuddling Dad again - telling him she loved him etc.
His family is doing really well even though they are so sad - we try to give as much support as we can - it's not hard as they are so lovely.
Thinking of you.

What awful bloody news mb.

Again, there's nothing I can say that wouldn't involve wheeling out the trite stock phrases but I couldn't not post. It really is one day at a time and if that's too much, one hour at a time.

I hope you can find some comfort in the fact that you still have today, regardless of what tomorrow may bring. You sound like such a smart, bright women who is incredibly in love with a very dear, sweet man.

You and your family are in my thoughts and will continue to be so.

Terrible for you MB.

I am so sorry to hear this.

Love to you all,sassy x

mb, I am so very sorry. My father in law had similar prognosis earlier this year. All so sudden. I am so sad for you.