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We have at best a year or two

369 replies

Blandmum · 02/12/2006 16:58

I said I wouldn't post again, but since MN has been supportive I thought it only fair.

We found out this afternoon, that dh has an agressice adenocarcinoma of the pancreas. With treatment a 'good' prognosis would be a a year or two. I know that in practice it will probably be less than this.

Poor sweet man.

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Judy1234 · 02/12/2006 17:14

How awful. What can anyone say? I'm so sorry.

If the treatment gives an extra year take it. Try anything else if you feel inclined, faith healing etc may be worth a try.

Do all the sensible things early on like wills, checking life policies, work policies etc. When my mother was dying of cancer she was so very very tired she wouldn't update her will which caused problems later. I found her wishes for the funeral 5 months after. She was too tired to get them out etc.

Yorkiegirl · 02/12/2006 17:15

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wannaBe1974 · 02/12/2006 17:17

mb I am so sorry. You are in my thoughts. take care xxx

LIZS · 02/12/2006 17:18

I don't know what to say apart from how very sorry I am that you now have this to face and will be thinking of you.

FestivelyFrostyFloss · 02/12/2006 17:18

Oh MB - one of the worst type of cancers to get. One of the least researched organs to get a cancer in and so hard to pick up. Do you think you will go for the chemo? Such hard hard decisions. I am so very sorry. I hope they might be able to offer you treatments other than chemo if necessary which can help to relieve the symptoms.

I think you have to make the very most of the time you have remaining together. May your time remaining be full of wonderful memories and moments. I know you will make the most of it. I am so sorry that you were right.

How can life be so horrid.

mumatuks · 02/12/2006 17:19

IMB, I know we haven't talked as such, or that I haven't posted on your other threads, so I hope you don't mind now.
I can't type anything that'll make it all better for you, I really don't know what to say.
I just want to wish you both all the love in the world with all the happiness and sweetest of times that you have ahead of you. xx

snorkle · 02/12/2006 17:19

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FestivelyFrostyFloss · 02/12/2006 17:22

My posts sounds crap. It didnt in my head but reading it back it does. Just awful news. [sa]d

singersgirl · 02/12/2006 17:22

So very sorry to hear this.

jalopy · 02/12/2006 17:23

MB, just seen this. I'm so sorry to hear your news. Thank you for coming back to let us know. Thinking of you and your family.

tissy · 02/12/2006 17:24

sorry, mb. Iknow you will tearsure the timw you have left

frogs · 02/12/2006 17:24

Oh mb. I am so very very sorry. Will be thinking of you.

x

Soapythelistmaker · 02/12/2006 17:25

MB - I'm so sad to read your awful news.

I hope against hope that fate smiles on you all, and that your DH is at the most optimistic end of the range of outcomes.

His bravery and love for his family, are the two abiding characteristics of your DH, that have shone through your posts on here on numerous occasions. This disease may claim his body - but it will never take from you the man himself!

What a strange place this is indeed - that I can sit and shed tears for a family I have never met

misdee · 02/12/2006 17:26

i am breaking my mn ban to be here for you mb.

i am so so sorry, words cant express what i am feeling for you and your lovely family right now, they really cant. but you will be in thoughts everyday and in my prayers as well. have emailed you as well, you know i am always about.

xx

S

WonderCod · 02/12/2006 17:27

oh GOD i rememebr how sweet your wedding anniv msg was

suedonim · 02/12/2006 17:28

Oh god, that's just awful, MB, I'm so sorry. I simply hope the time you have together is the best it can be. Your poor brave dh.....

franca70 · 02/12/2006 17:32

Oh, MB, I'm so sorry

iota · 02/12/2006 17:33

MB - so very sorry to hear this dreadful news.

Life is so unfair sometimes.

DeckTheHallsWithFRAUsOfHolly · 02/12/2006 17:33

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roisin · 02/12/2006 17:34

I've been sat staring at my keyboard for 5 mins - I just don't know what to say.
Even when the news is expected, though dreaded, it's still a huge shock: I can't imagine what you're going through.
I don't swear at all, ever. But in my head and my heart I'm swearing now.

Thinking of you all with much love,
Roisin x

LittleSarah · 02/12/2006 17:35

So so sorry to hear this.

SnafuOutOfHiding · 02/12/2006 17:36

Oh, MB. I am so sad and sorry. That is just so fucking unfair. I don't know what else to say xxx

CorrieDale · 02/12/2006 17:36

Ohhh, I'm so so sorry. Terrible news. Wishing you both strength.

Pinkchampagne · 02/12/2006 17:40

Oh MB, I am so so sorry. I feel so sad for you.
You & your DH are very much in my thoughts.xxx

zippitippitoes · 02/12/2006 17:53

I am very sorry

xxxx

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