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Would like to see my toes again! I want to lose weight because...

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WideWebWitch · 16/04/2002 19:58

I don't know if anyone else is trying to lose weight, but I realised recently that there are various things I do differently since I've put on weight, such as:

I half lie, half sit in an undignified sprawl on the bed to get my tights on since it's too uncomfortable to do it from standing and I'd probably overbalance

I roll out of our (very low down) bed in a kind of sideways, crab-like fashion and then get up from being on my knees. This one must be really attractive to watch!

I'm careful about my back all the time since it's slightly painful and I know it's due to the extra weight on my stomach...

I'm not gargantuan but have about 2 stone to lose. Realised today that not having to worry about the above is another incentive to stick at it.

Anyone else want to share their embarrassing reasons for dieting?? And I have no excuse for being overweight, ds is 4 and I'm not pregnant, although it's only a matter of time before someone asks me when it's due

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AliH · 29/08/2002 21:24

Well Jasper, it seems that we have been chatting on two separate threads - I didn't guess that you were also sorefeet!

I don't think that I can say any more on that issue than I have already said under your other thread. All I can say is try not to worry (easy for me I know), and just think about all the time you will have on your hands to browse mumsnet (hee hee, you have to look on the bright side eh?)
Let me know how it goes.

On the WW front, I have lost a total of 26 pounds in 16 weeks (I think). I am now about 4 under goal, but yes, I would like to lose about another 1/2 stone, to get me to my lightest for about 20 years!

You must be really enjoying losing your weight, I know I am. You have also done really well, and just think that you are going into your period of incapacity (what a phrase) with healthier eating habits, which will help you keep it off. Try to drink lots of water whilst you are laid up, I know if it was me, I would be very tempted to pick and snack. Water really helps take the edge off any hunger pangs for me.

Are you still counting each day. I confess to having become very lazy with that, and think that I need to get back into the habit. I finish my temporary contract at work at the end of September and will go back to being a SAHM for the time being. More time for excercise so I hope this might kick start the loss again.

Sorry to ramble, good luck with the op, when is it? Let us know how it goes, and just keep thinking how much better you will feel when it is all healed - slim with gorgeous feet!!

Jasper · 29/08/2002 22:25

Hi AliH, glad we have caught up.
Is slimwithgorgeous feet too many characters for my future mumsnet nickname?
Surgery is scheduled for next Friday (6th)and I am trying not to worry too much about it - not so much the surgery itself, more the long term state of my feet.

Your weight loss is very impressive.
Like you I have stopped writing everything down, not for any other reason than I kind of know my way around my usual meals, points wise.
I get comments about my weight loss most days now which is very gratifying.
Isn't it great to not actually be fat anymore?

salalex · 29/08/2002 22:29

Jasper,
hope your feet surgery goes OK. Don't know what it is from your description (too medical for thicko in east Scotland) but good luck, you slim thing you!

Jasper · 29/08/2002 22:40

Thanks Salalex.
I have just realised the significance of the title of this thread to not only my weight but my feet

How are things with you?Are you still online right now?

salalex · 29/08/2002 22:41

yes, still here - just posted under missing persons thread. Doing OK thanks for asking.

salalex · 29/08/2002 22:47

i am very impressed by all ti sweight loss as well. I have been to the gym a bit this week and last as I ahev had a bit of time off - but next week back to full time -horrendous!! Do not know where i will be bale to fit the extra 1/2 hour a day in. Ah well, needs must. if you are still there, any thoughts on fact that husband will not accept anything less than a 50/50 split with kids, week on/week off. I feel hellish about barely seeing them for a week, but know that they have as much right to see him as they do me. What will I do without my babies? Should have thought about this before i suppose, but don't know if it would've made any difference. sorry, right off weight loss thread now. I'll b**r off if required!

salalex · 29/08/2002 22:49

sorry about all typos - too much wine! hence no weight loss!!!

Jasper · 29/08/2002 22:56

I'm chasing you all over the board...
That is a bummer.
I know this is a bit obvious but have you taken legal advice?
I don't have any personal knowledge of separation agreements when it comes to children, but I have never heard of anyone having the arrangement your dh suggests.In any case I have known one parent (the mother) has custody with the father having agreed access( not sure what is the correct terminology)

salalex · 29/08/2002 23:02

Thanks for b'day congrats! have taken legal advice, but unless you want to take solicitors advice all the way, you can reach a separation agreement yourselves and present it to them(sols) as a fait a complit, then get it ratified at sheriff's office - which he doesn't want to do!!! but i do, so will pay if necessary. I have a lot od reservations, but shortof taking him to court, not sure how to persuade him otherwise. have suggested 4 days on/off, but he says they won't know where they are. Oh for a crystal ball...

Jasper · 29/08/2002 23:09

This must be awful to try to sort out. Am I understanding the situation correctly as follows :if you can reach a cordial agreement between yourselves you won't need much legal involvement (ie less bad feeling and less cost).
But if you can't sort it out amicably then you could in theory go to court to get more than just half time custody of the girls?(but it would be expensive and with bad feeling all round) Have I got that right?

salalex · 29/08/2002 23:12

That's it in a nutshell Jasper. So looks like we'll be trialing the week on/off thing and see how it goes. can't bear to tell eldest dd especially - just been reading threads on telling children you're separating. Must go to library and look at some stuff. Some stuff is just so bloody hard isn't it?

Jasper · 29/08/2002 23:15

A couple of thoughts.
How expensive would it be?
How much bad feeling would it involve?
Would you get chief custody or whatever it is called?
In your heart of hearts what do you think would be best for the girls?

lilibet · 29/08/2002 23:16

Sal! Been thinking about you. Sorry it's not all sorted. Would he not accept open access? This means that they would live with you but he would basically be free to see them whenever. Or bearing in mind your past history would you not want this? My friends husband just took her to court for custody of the children and it was very very nasty, wouldn't recommend going to court for anything. I know from experience that solicitors are reluctant to get involved and prefer you to sort it out yourself. Would a week on and off not be just as upsetting for the children? I suppose a lot depends on your jobs and childcare arrngements? Are they school age? Who takes them and picks them up?

Jasper · 29/08/2002 23:18

lillibet, out of interest, did your friend's husband get custody?

salalex · 29/08/2002 23:18

very expensive - £98 per hour for sols.
lots of upset from husband and bad feeling - and believe me, there's plenty of that already.
heart of hearts? I want them to be with me but know they should see him and that it'd break his heart only to see them every other weekend. So much as i want them, i have to share, because they are both our children. And when they are old enough to have a reasonable voice IYKWIM, then things may change. For the timebeing however, i think we have to give his thing a go. Bollocks. 'scuse language.

lilibet · 29/08/2002 23:20

no, he made up some of the most awful lies, including things like deliberatley shutting her daughters hand in the car, rationing her baby son to four nappies a day, trying to drown one of the children. It was horrendous. He now has them every other Saturday night and one night every other week for tea.

lilibet · 29/08/2002 23:22

Are you already living apart? Or is that about to start? Who is moving out?

salalex · 29/08/2002 23:23

liilibet,how nice to be called sal, that's what my dad calls me! they are both at school now. We share taking them and i pick up most nights as i finish first. On the days that he had them he says he would pick up as it;'d just confuse them. i don;t think he would accept open access at the moment, until we try the other thing first. SofieAmes has said she knows some people on US who do50/50 and that this works well for them. haven;'t seen her post for a while tho' perhaps not looked in right place.
Apologies for hijack of weight loss thread.

salalex · 29/08/2002 23:24

I am moving out. he is remortgaging to give me some capital for a deposit on a new place.

Jasper · 29/08/2002 23:27

This is SO hard.
One other thought, but you have probably thought of this too. Someone mentioned mediation a while back.( I think it was Mears, about one of her friends who was in a similar situation) I am not even sure what it involves but it is some kind of service available to sort out this kind of thing without involving courts.
If you are resigned to giving the week on week off thing a go how soon will that start?
The thought of being without your babies is awful but dare I suggest that some good may come out of having quite a bit of time to yourself?
Please forgive me if that is unbearably insensitive.
This is a birthday you won't forget but for all the wrong reasons

lilibet · 29/08/2002 23:27

o n the weight loss thread, I would love to loose about 2 stone, I have done the horrid ' a stone on with every child'! just been away with my Mum and the children and refuse to be on a photo as I don't like seeing whatI look like! Some of this does come from having my confidence battered by h.
I think you are very noble accepting the 50/50 arrangement. Have you told your dd's yet? My solicitor gave me 3 very good books for my children, each one aimed at a different age level. My dd has accepted it very well and I plan to tell the ds's tomorrow.

lilibet · 29/08/2002 23:29

Do you have somewhere to go?

salalex · 29/08/2002 23:32

i am thinking about mediation and have suggested it. must do some research tomorrow. Glad you are sounding positive lillibet. Hope your children are Ok too. let me know what happens when you tell them - don't know on what thread tho'!!
jasper, no not insensitive at all, the time alone will no doubt have benefits - gym, reading, eating less, less stress etc. I am sure next year's birthday will be happier!! would an easier life be boring do you think?!!

salalex · 29/08/2002 23:34

lillibet, meant to say also, hope your confidence is fully restored soon - when will you be in your new place?

lilibet · 29/08/2002 23:35

it is decorated and half furnished and we move in on Monday. I am scared stiff

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