Alcoholics or Dependant Drinkers Club

[Rhubarb]

For SoftStuff, tyedye and anyone else who wants to join.

The rules are that you HAVE to sign in every night to let us know TRUTHFULLY how much you have drunk. You need to let us know your triggers too. So if you resisted for 12 hours but then cracked and had a beer - what finally snapped?

We'll be here to give you encouragement, support, advice and opinions.

3-4,hence the weight issues apart from anything else!

Do you drink 4 or 5 per cent alcohol tyedye? I used to always have Stella or something 5% but I've discovered that if I drink 4% I don't drink any more and it's less alcohol in the end. I try to stick to two but if often ends up as 3. Do you ever have a day with no alcohol whatsoever? I often wake up in the morning and think ok today I'm not going to drink or at least wait til the end of the day and just have 1 can. But it NEVER works out. NEVER!

Hi.. sorry I haven't been on for a while, been too depressed, therefore pissed!

I don't seem to be able to go more than 2 or 3 nights without booze, then I drink 1 or 2 bottles of wine (cava). If it's in the house I drink it!

I find it hard to get over my past hurt, so seriously feel I need counselling now! I have to be able to let go, I cope ok with day to day life until I get PMT then I get aggitated at teh slightest thing. NOT GOOD! Definitely not good for my girls!!

Hope everyone else is managing ok

xx

Okay I have my usual early morning (particularly Monday morning) resolve.....I will do better today (this week)!!!!! Kind of feel like my liver is going to give up the ghost and drop out if I don't. The last couple of weeks I have been giving the spirits bags - drank 1/2 bottle of gin last night alone!!!! . So, this week I am promising myself to stick only to wine. My ds has had a rotten cold, so have had to be up in the night with him and am ashamed to say some mornings I find it hard to remember exactly what I did. . Feel like the worst mum in the world when that happens but it doesn't seem to shame me into drinking less the next night, it's almost as if I can shut the shame up in a little compartment in my head and not connect it to the bottle/glass in my hand. I feel like a pretty lousy person right now to be honest. However, I'm not going to wallow in self pity, but am going to try to turn things around a bit. I know all these 'rules' about what I will / won't drink aren't normal, but I feel that even if I was sticking to much lower alc. stuff it would be a start at the moment. I'm also going to copy this and print it off and as soon as I have put ds down for the night I'm going to force myself to read it BEFORE I get that first drink down me!!! Anyway, seems like some of the rest of you guys are struggling too, so big cyber hugs to you all, and keep up the fight.

cubby and opthers I have just found you!
i started a thread about my problem drinking at the weekend. I had no idea there were so many of us out there. That is worrying but comforting.

lgb slug...hi there! was just about to post this on your other thread and link to this one but, you already found it! Fantastic. \link{http://www.aa-gb.org.uk/isaa4u.shtml\AA questionnaire}
The fact that you are questioning your relationship with alcohol is a very positive thing.

There are loads of people on here and different stages of their drinking and it's all very supportive and non-judgemental. I haven't posted much in the last two weeks, but will make sure I pop in more regularly. Welcome to the other folks who joined as well. Good to be back! :)

xxx

sorry lbgslug, apologies for getting your name wrong!

Hi kokeshi,cubby,ibslug(?)not pressuring myself too much as my life has gone tits up,but drinking too much (4 percent)lager,and less wine than before,half a bottle,not a whole one!Kokeshi,i sent you a very silly email yesterday,did you get it?Ive got an appallingly inaproppriate sense of humour!

oh cool tyedye...hold on, I'll just check! By the sounds of things at home I can totally understand...been there so many times.

Right up my street tyedye! I have quite a bizarre sense of humour, which doesn't always translate on a web forum...so I tend to keep my posts quite straight! Ta, made me laugh! xxxx

You are most welcome!

Onedayatatime,i will email you soon,did you get mine before?

....and, it was my 30th birthday at the weekend, which is quite a landmark for me since I was told by more than one doctor that I wouldn't see it if I kept drinking the way I was. Does that mean I have to be mature now?

I didn't see your other post lbgslug, could you do a link? Or repeat your 'story' here? I'm new to the thread too

here is a repeat of my sorry tale.

I am still not sure where I stand in the alcoholic scheme of things but I have done a lot of thinking recently and would appreciate your advice and comments and experiences..

Looking back over my adult life I have done some spectacularly dim things under the influence of drink. I just love the stuff - am pretty upbeat in general and that first glass of wine tips me into that yahoo giddy mode that is so fabulously pleasant. Right now I am craving it.

I would go so far as to say the first MOUTHFUL of wine does that for me.Is that the norm?

What is it about drinking that makes you think "ah yes, that lovely feeling, this is the REAL me and I see everything with such clarity and insight " . Of course this is bollocks and if you remember the next day some of your thoughts (worse still, actions) you feel mortified.

I seldom drink midweek but if I do open a bottle of wine I have to finish it. Occasionally I open one at lunchtime and it is drunk before the kids get out of school.

At a party I seem to have no control when I start. I LOVE it. I don't love the hangovers and the sense of remorse the next day.
However if a group of us are going out I will ALWAYS volunteer to be the driver and am perfectly happy not to drink at all on those occasions, as I consider it dangerous for me to be out in public and as drunk as I get. I also prefer to look after my boozy friends.

I realised after an incident last year that I was very lucky to have got away with my social drinking binges all these years without alienating my friends.Of course many of my friends are big drinkers too. (My husband might argue I did not get away with it)

At that point I decided to stop binge drinking.

You will all know this is not the same thing as saying " since then I have stopped binge drinking" !

I have had three BIG lapses this year at which times I behaved very badly which has convinced me I have some level of problem. My evil twin came out to play and got away with it AGAIN
is there such a thing as levels of problems with alcohol? I know some people say they can never drink again AT ALL.
I feel a sense of loss if that is the case and I need to give up wine forever. Does that make sense?

Binge drinking for me coincides with stuffing my face with food so that will have to go too.

I am an intelligent and capable mother in her 40s with a lovely husband, kids, home, job, and extended family . Why do I constantly revert to my alterego as a lazy boozy greedy slug?

Kokeshi lbgslug stands for lazy boozy greedy slug

I did the AA test and scored 11 out of 12.
Thar
That's not good.

Kokeshi,im 37 very soon,and defiantly juvenile with it(recently had a belching contest with my 13 yr old)SHE WON!!!lbgslug,so relate to your story,i dont feel human unless ive had a drink

had resolved not to drink till further notice.
Came home to find opened bottle of wine.
Just finished it

Wow, this thread has grown since i've last been on. Welcome to some new names too. It sounds like everyone's being very honest, even when they've slipped. I've slipped a bit too in some ways. I've decided to cut down to a safe limit if I can instead with a minimum of 2 totally alcohol free days no matter what. Any extra nights/less drink will be a bonus.

I have been fairly good though since i've last been on and I've only been properly drunk twice and both times it was with company. With the odd exception i've been feeling a lot more positive too, which I think has helped immensly.

I know it hasn't gone away, i'm not naive. I do feel like I am back in control a bit though. Take tonight, I've had 3 beers but I have stopped there, I have others here (locked in my dark outside garage but still here) but they will remain undrunk tonight .

softstuff that is excellent news.
I may have to try to follow your example. I don't think i am capable of refusing wine if it is staring me in the face like it was tonight.

I will avoid getting smashed at parties

well stuck to my resolve.....kinda....sorta...... Did print off my last post and made myself read it after putting ds to bed. Didn't stick to wine unfortunately (still gin in the house at the mo and too much temptation). However, had one large gin and 1/2 bottle of wine, which for me is much better if not exactly good!! will try again tonight. hope you're all doing okay.

No wine,just 4 beers yesterday.

You sound like you're doing quite well, tydeye! Reading back over this thead you've cut down massively.

I drank 2.5 cans of beer last night. Feeling pretty rough at the moment generally though and I do keep wondering if it's long-term effects of boozing...