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Alcoholics or Dependant Drinkers Club

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Rhubarb · 24/04/2006 12:43

For SoftStuff, tyedye and anyone else who wants to join.

The rules are that you HAVE to sign in every night to let us know TRUTHFULLY how much you have drunk. You need to let us know your triggers too. So if you resisted for 12 hours but then cracked and had a beer - what finally snapped?

We'll be here to give you encouragement, support, advice and opinions.

OP posts:
tyedye · 28/05/2006 15:51

Hi martian,thank you.drinking really bad again,dp watches me constantly and settles into a nightly character assassination of me and my family,shouting at me when i try to defend myself.have fallen out with my mum again as she is so effing crap,worried about my health,drs for me on friday for pelvic exam.Not good really!You?Grin

themoon66 · 28/05/2006 20:26

Oh tye.... poor you. I'd be hitting the bottle hard too in that kinda situation {{{hug}}}

Hope all goes well for you at the docs on Friday. I'm off line for the rest of the week on hols. Can only get on here now coz DH and DS are watching top gear.

I wish I could say i'd been dry.... but I'm half way down a bottle of cava. Sad

martian · 28/05/2006 23:55

It's bloody hard work isn't it? I've gone over my 'limit' today. I still find it quite incredible to think that if I drink 3 cans of lager a night each night of the week I'll be on 42 units of alcohol a week ... Which is 4 times the 'safe' amount. Does that seem made to you guys too?

tyedye you're having such a rough time right now. I can't see how you can tackle something major like drinking when life's so upside down for you. But you could try to be as aware of it as you can? in the sense of not having very strong alcohol around? I hope your pelvic exam goes well.

woodywoodpecker · 30/05/2006 00:06

It has fallen way down the forum. But WTF I am feelin so down it wouldn't matter anyway. By day I am the GloryQueen but my ebb so far removed.

I have a dahling husbnd and lovly kids but I life a roundabout.

tyedye · 30/05/2006 13:41

How is everybody else?Woody, are you ok?
Come to think of it,WHERE is everybody else?Smilelets keep the thread up?!

butty · 30/05/2006 13:44

Hey all,

sorry ain't been around for a while, too busy working behind a bar rahther than propping it upGrin

I havn't been out as much, i intend to go out tomorrow night, but i am still sticking to the one night per week rule, although i did break it last week, hopefully i can keep myself in line.

Really hope that everyone is doing ok, hope to catch up with you all soon.

take care for now.

Butty.xxx

Piffle · 30/05/2006 13:51

martian isn't it amazing how easy it is to drink 3 cans of lager though every day
I swapped to cheap white wine and soda - very weak alternate days, one bottle lasts me all week - sometimes longer - but it gives you that psychological" I'm having an alcoholic drink when I normally would" thought.
Had a bit to drink over the weekend - it was dp's birthday, he works away all week and we had a lovely weekend together.
All told we drunk shared 1 bottle of white white, 2 bottles each of Badgers Golden glory, 5 cans of Stella (shared)
less than usual it has to be said
There are 3 cans in the fridge. Will be truly hard not to drink them - I think I might drink em all tonight and go alc free rest of the week.

tyedye · 30/05/2006 14:05

I sink 4+tinnys every day,and then a bottle of wine.At least then im too pissed too leave.Hes agreed to see our gp THANK GOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!We BOTH drink this much,we are going to try(again)to get it under control.

merrymum · 30/05/2006 14:34

hi really sorry to gatecrash i haven't read the whole thread but i'm hoping from the title that someone can give me some advice. my dad has a drinking problem, he has at last admitted he has one so i suppose that is the first step. i really want to support him but not sure how to, can anyone advise? i just want my dad back,my mum wants her husband back.

martian · 30/05/2006 21:08

tyedye, what's a tinny?! How long have you drunk this amount?

merrymum, there's someone on here, kokeshi, who has lots of experience of AA. I hope she sees your post and can offer you the advice you need. It's really a good thing that your father has admitted there's a problem. From what I know that's a very key first step. My dp's father died of alcoholic liver disease, we watched it happen, never once did he acknowledge he has a drink problem, even after the Christmas before he died when he was told if he didn't stop drinking he would be dead within 6 months Sad. Keep us posted as to what happens with you and your father? Smile

merrymum · 30/05/2006 22:51

thankyou martian, sorry about your fil Sad this has all been going on for about 18 months now, he finally opened up to my dh at the weekend, he had a cancer scare but didn't tell anyone, instead he just started going to the pub every night even driving home afterwards which led to everyone jumping on him for that so i suppose he felt he couldn't talk to us. i just keep thinking of my dad, my hero who taught me to ride a bike and who has always been there for me, on my wedding day he did his speach off the top of his head and made me cry, i love him so much i just want him back. i'm crying as i type this i just don't know what to do, no one can make him get help he has to do it for himself. my dh is the only person he has really spoke to and i thought that was the beginning of him 'getting better' but i spoke to my mum today and he's still going to the pub. i just want to wake up in the morning and this has all been one big nightmare. i'll have to go now i can barely see the keyboard, sorry to go on, needed to get it out.

tyedye · 31/05/2006 09:21

a tinny is a can of lager,sorry,things were better,i even didnt drink last night but he just blew up at me with no warning,ans so it starts again.......id leave but our little boy has awful tonsillitisAGAIN temp 40 dgs.he dotes on his dad but im shaking with fear.
merrrymum,gd luck,you cant help anyone who wont help themselves,there is support for the families of problem drinkers,try google,or scroll back down this thread,if you have time!people put links on re such help.

martian · 31/05/2006 13:38

tyedye, you sound like you're having such a rough time! How did your hospital appointment go?

merrymum, it's very upsetting to see someone you love 'killing themselves' in that way. Has he been drinking heavily for a long time or just since his cancer scare? Can you approach him about it? I think often men find it hard to talk to family though don't they? That's why I guess AA is a good option. Keep in touch? Smile

tyedye · 31/05/2006 14:24

hi martian,appt next tuesday,had to postpone.been letting rip on a thread in relationships today.

tyedye · 01/06/2006 12:27

Is everyone else doing so well theyve disappeared?Grin

pepperpots · 01/06/2006 12:40

I'm still here ladies and very Sad to say that i have got even worse Blush after so muhch effort its all gone t*ts up Sad have had a huge fall out with mum and sis broke up with dp, things are not good for me Sad. All of you that are doing so brilliant keep it up Smile

dandycandyjellybean · 01/06/2006 19:46

No haven't disappeared, have checked in regularly with the thread, but kind of felt like I was doing so rubbish for no fathomable reason that I didn't feel as though I had anything valuable to add. Well done all for hanging in there. Cyber hugs.

martian · 02/06/2006 10:45

I don't think we should fade from the thread if we're 'failing' - shouldn't we be on it even more? It's great to come here and hear about successes but if we 'failures' stick together we might transform ourselves into successes too? [said through pounding hangover by the way Sad ]

tyedye · 02/06/2006 13:14

Ive managed to go 3 nights without wine,motive being DP less likely to go psycho without booze!

martian · 02/06/2006 15:38

That's fantastic tyedye! Have you just had your 'tinnys' then or totally abstained?! Smile

blueteddy · 02/06/2006 15:53

I am doing appallingly atm. Have only had 1 night without this week - but I am stressed!

imaginaryfriend · 02/06/2006 16:04

this is a welcome thread. I drink 2-3 large cans of lager a night. I keep trying not to but it just happens. I guess that's somewhere over the acceptable limit? Smile

woodywoodpecker · 02/06/2006 16:55

I was goodish most of the week but was out with friends last night and now its the weekend and we are out tomorrow night too

tyedye · 04/06/2006 09:53

Still on my tinnys,would commit mass murder .without at the moment.Grin

imaginaryfriend · 04/06/2006 13:48

How many do you drink a day, tyedye?