Alcoholics or Dependant Drinkers Club

[Rhubarb]

For SoftStuff, tyedye and anyone else who wants to join.

The rules are that you HAVE to sign in every night to let us know TRUTHFULLY how much you have drunk. You need to let us know your triggers too. So if you resisted for 12 hours but then cracked and had a beer - what finally snapped?

We'll be here to give you encouragement, support, advice and opinions.

[themoon66]

I live in the middle of bloody nowhere and nearest offy is 9 miles away. You'd think that would be a good thing, but we always end up 'stocking up' when we pass Lidls or tesco or something. Am moving house in about 3 weeks, so I'm planning to not restock at all before the move.

[pepperpots]

Well i'm off for the day will be on tonight probably chewing my nails down to elbows as there is nothing in the house and i still haven't been out to get anything good luck to everyone for tonight!

[sarahhal]

sandyballs - have to admit only been with him 10 years!! Deep down I have to admit that I think I find him more interesting after I've had a few glasses of wine! That's awful isn't it? Oh dear, is this going to bring up all sorts of issues now!

As well as a health issue mine is def weight related. Who can tell me what a glass ( and I mean a real glass, not a poncy 1970s style weedy glass) of red wine is the equivalent to? Eg packet of crisps, bar of chocolate. If I can think like that I might get somewhere.

Had already bought two bottles of wine at supermarket today so have left them in the car boot so I can't see them!

[Rhubarb]

My fridge is stacked with beer and guinness and we have bottles of wine. But they are going to stay there until Fri night!

I find that our relationship is also entwined with alcohol. Dh drinks as much as I do (but then he's a man and heavier than me!) and we've had our best times with alcohol. But I've cut down a lot lately.

Usually now I'll have a couple of little bottles of beer on Weds night, or an aperitif. At the weekends we'll have a bottle of beer with our meal, then share a bottle of wine over a DVD. Sat is perhaps a couple of beers during the day, then a bottle of wine in the evening.
Sunday, a bottle of wine in the evening.

That's cut back a lot believe me! But I want to cut out the Weds night drinking and any weeknight drinks, and stop the little beers at the weekend.

[dinosaure]

I've also cut down a lot from the old days. On a bad week, I'll have a glass of wine or two, or a large bottle of beer, on maybe 2-3 week nights and maybe two large beers on each of the weekend nights.

On a good week, I can usually manage to get through four week nights without drinking.

Still have benders every now and again, but always regret them

[Rhubarb]

dinosaure - that's hardly anything!!! What're you worrying about!

[motherinferior]

Hallo my loves, just to say that it is possible. I have gone from being Boozer McBooze to being, well, really quite moderate most of the time.

[dinosaure]

Rhubarb, I still really worry, mainly because I used to absolutely cane it when I was younger and I fret that one day my liver might just pack up with no warning!

Bear in mind that this is very much cut down already from what I used to drink, was a six or seven pints a night girl at one stage.

I've had a liver function blood test done within the last year which came back normal, but apparently you can still get a normal result even if only about 20% of your liver is still working, so it's not exactly an all-clear.

Plus I know from bitter experience that I can still be very silly about alcohol and so can DH, and together we can be a very bad combination...

[SoftStuff]

Hiya, not sure if it's good or not that there ae so many of us here! Nice we're not alone though.

[7up]

i have 2 alcholic drinks every night, either brandy or small bots of lager and honestly cant see me not having them. its the only thing i look forward too when the kids are in bed, and it might be due to being alone and not having anyone to tell me not to drink it!

same as you dinasaure, ive drank since i was a teen, really heavy nights out till 5 years ago. that would include starting on the bots of lager at 4pm, going to the pub at 8 and drinking a mixture of brandy and lager till 2am and feeling crap for 2 days afterwards. had a good larf at the time though

[macwoozy]

I used to cane it in my younger days too, I woke up far too many times in the morning with no memory of what happened the previous evening. I've been surrounded by drink most of my life, my grandad had a pub, then my dad which I finally took over, so no hope for me. I've cut down by 50% but the amount I drink now would still be considered excessive. I'm O.K if there isn't any in the house, but when there is I just have no will power to resist.

[macwoozy]

dinosaure that you can still get a normal result form a liver function test when only 20% of the liver could be working.

[7up]

well i wont be lasting long without a ciggy or alchohol, dog bloody whining constantly, ds screaming coz ive withdrawn his bottle with a beaker and he wants a bottle and i worked hard at school today pushing a lad round/lifting etc in a wheelchair. i deserve my brandy dont i

[Rhubarb]

That is shocking that your liver can be damaged without you even knowing it! I take comfort from that fact that it is very good at repairing itself, so surely if you were a very heavy drinker say, 5 years ago, but are now moderate, any damage done would have shown itself by now?

I don't know much about liver disease, but I think cirrohsis (sp) of the liver has symptoms?

But yes, health worries are one of the main reasons I cut down and still want to cut down more. I want to see my kids grow up, I want to be there at their weddings, I want to see their kids. For the short-term pleasure, the long-term damage isn't worth it.

Just think, if we all carry on like this we'll have thinning, dry hair, broken veins on our cheeks and nose, bulbous noses, bleeding gums, swollen faces, etc - do we really want to look like that?

Have that image in your head next time you want a drink.

[7up]

ok il just go and have a ciggy and a scream then

[brimfull]

Hi,Well this is a very timely thread.I've just had a bloody awful weekend all due to alcohol.
We had another couple round for dinner sat eve and as usual the wine was flowing.The other couple don't relly drink that much so dh and I took the brunt of it
Dh has an irritating habit of drinking too fast then falling asleep.He does this at other people's houses aswell and everyone makes excuses for him because he has early starts for work.ANyway sorry for the ramble but on sat dh was asleep on the couch and the three of us were still at the table having a nice time although I was a bit embarassed about him.
Anyway I didn't think i was that pissed but I must have been because when they left I did something unforgiveable

dh had woken up and I was having a real go at him ,shouting so loud that dd14yrs came down to see me whacking dh with a really heavy clingfilm tube.

I stormed out of the house and slept in the spare room that night.We've cleared the air and I've apologised to dd and dh over and over.His arm is really badly bruised and I feel awful.How could I do something like thAT?

aLCOHOL MADE ME SO I AM GIVING IT UP.

I feel so ashamed that I think it might work,lets hope so.

[7up]

oh dear ggirl, at least youve apologised and accepted you were wrong. many people probly wouldnt have had the courage to apologise. i think when violence comes into you have to cut back eh?must have been embarrasing tho with him falling asleep

[sarahhal]

Just signing in to say I'm off to bed with a cup of tea and a book so no booze tonight for me!!

Good luck all! An attractive picture for our future Rhubarb - will we look like that do you think by the northern meet up if we carry on??

[Rhubarb]

Oh I do think that meet-ups are an exception!

I'm more or less on top of the drinking, but I have been there and I understand those who are struggling. Dh doesn't help because he says "but you hardly drink!" however if you see my weekly quota, I do drink about the safe limits for my sex and I don't weigh very much so it affects me more. I told him I'm giving up during the week so he's not to offer me a beer or anything.

[Rhubarb]

Found another \link{http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/diseases/facts/cirrhosisliver.htm\incentive} for us all to cut back, it makes frightening reading!

[pepperpots]

Sister bought a bottle of wine down ( a thank you for a favour i done last week) have drunk it and feel like i let myself down in a big way

[controlfreaky2]

dont beat yourself up. tomorrow is another day.

[themoon66]

Ah well. I planned to drink red grape juice tonight and ignore the 4 bottles of cava on top shelf of fridge. BUT, have drunk DH's lager instead - 2 large tall cans of stella so far. He has gone to bed and I'm about to watch Supernatural on channel itv, so a 3rd can is calling my name as I type. And I have to get up tomorrow for work. I can't help myself, really I can't. What the hell is going on in my head???

[controlfreaky2]

tomorrow is another...

[themoon66]

off to watch supernatural right now. and pop open that 3rd lager