Alcoholics or Dependant Drinkers Club

[Rhubarb]

For SoftStuff, tyedye and anyone else who wants to join.

The rules are that you HAVE to sign in every night to let us know TRUTHFULLY how much you have drunk. You need to let us know your triggers too. So if you resisted for 12 hours but then cracked and had a beer - what finally snapped?

We'll be here to give you encouragement, support, advice and opinions.

Be Back later,good luck allxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Thanks tyedye, I guess I had already reached the stage where I was emotionally at rock-bottom too. I had already been trying to deal with my problem when he took his own life, and was receiving support. Drink just wasn't working for me anymore, but I don't know if his death would have made me stop...that's why I identify with a lot of your stories. People can scaremonger till the cows come home but it has to be an inside job.

His death is a daily reminder for me where I was heading, but I had to make the changes. There's really no point lecturing someone about the dangers of drink, we're all painfully aware. I can only share my experiences, and then hope that it might provide some hope for those who can't ever imagine a life without it.

I never thought I could get here, but I still only take a day at a time. It's too much for me to imagine my whole life without drink, so I don't. Living in the day is the way I try to cope, because as I've learned, you don't know what is round the corner. My major problem was always projecting...what about next week, this event, that event.

I know none of you will probably at that stage yet, but for me, it was insidious and progressive. I never planned for my life to go that way, but before I knew it, there I was. I think this is an amazing support for everyone, at all stages unhappy with their drinking.

I'm going to bow out of this thread now. I don't actually have a problem with alcohol now, I do want to cut back still, but I don't drink lots iykwim. I started this thread initially for SoftStuff, Tyedye and anyone else who needed support. The amount of people on it now is brilliant! (but not in terms of alcohol consumption I guess!) And I think the fact that you are all supporting each other is fantastic.

I feel like a fraud a bit now if I contribute and I think I'll just get in the way a bit. So please, help each other out, don't give up, I did it and so can you. You can still drink and have a good time without losing control or being dependant. Good luck everyone!

Oh rhuby,dont leave us now!moony,hope you had a fab weekend,softstuff,we are still with you honey,kokeshi,you logged such a beautiful piece of writing about yourself and your husband,its been with me ever since.
Lets NOT kill this thread,i need to leave my partnerand i will miss you lot!unless he trashes my pc again and i cant come back.
There is no other such forum for many of us than this!xxxxxxx

Kokeshi,i dont know how it works,but would you CAT me?I do function,in a scatty sort of fashion,what i have posted on here is largely hidden to all and sundry!

Shall i post my e-mail?thinking of all of you girls!xxxxxxxxx

I was going to change my name but then thought why?

I drink far too much anyway. I would like to stop completely.

I will join you tomorrow on this, having drunk 2 bottles of wine already and this is the norm for me these days.

Hello guys, I'm still here, although at this moment in time i am very ablitrrated!!!!! i know, but then i don't really care at the mo as bank holiday weekend and needed a blow out.

have had a sort of bgiid weekend, i went out friday as you all know, but i sateyed in last night, even though i had more than 4 invites to go out, thecousins didn't end up staying, but even so, i still stayed in.

On the other hand, tonight, i planned on staying in, but went out again as couldn';t resist the bank holiday thing as usually loads out.

But i have come home early, everyone else is still out, so that must mean something!!??????????

Anyway, well done to all of you that have had far more will powe r than i have. Speak tp you all tomorrow, or should i say today.!!!!!!

take care for now,

Butty.xxx

sorry , hsve to say, excuse the spelling, thought i was allright, but obviously not!!!!

Butty.xxx

Anyway you must have al retired for the evening, see you sll tomorrow, i am now going to try and get some sleep and then be hangover free, which is highly unlikely to happen.

Goodnight, godbless,

Butty.xxx

Hi all, Just checking in today...I'll definitely be staying on this thread as long as others want to keep it going. I'm so glad it's helping people so far, it has for me too. There's nothing quite like sharing your feelings with those who empathise.

Thank you again tyedye. When I began posting, I thought perhaps I was coming across to heavy. I'm actually not that serious in RL! I guess it's difficult for all of us baring our souls, even anonymously on here, when there's such a stigma attached to drinking too much.

Welcome UCM, and I hope all the others who have been signing in continue to join us for a bit of support. Rhubarb, I really hope everything works out for you and your family and thanks again for starting this. I understand where you're coming from but I don't think for a minute you are a fraud! I'll be checking in regularly myself. Hugs to all xxxx

Hi all, hope you are all ok and had a better evening than i

Sorry for the intrusion last night, i couldn't resist coming on as it was what i left the pub early for, to show that i have some control over my habbit????

I don't think i inteneded to post any messages, but just couldn't resist, and i was extremely drunk and am feeling it today!!!!

I'm now going to re-evaluate my situation and deffo consider going tee-total, i have had enough of getting myself into these states, i was totally and utterly ablitterated last night, it took me 20 minutes to drag myself upstairs and put 50p under chloes pillow for the tooth fairy whilst trying not to wake her!!!!!!!!

She got me back for it, she came down stairs at 5.10 this morning with a big grin on her face, saying that the tooth fairy had been!!!

DP also woke up this morning to tell me that he dreamt i was in the bedroom last night??? I was, i was on this thread

Anyway, hopefully see some of you on here a bit later.

Butty.xxx

Still here,headache,more rows last night.

Warm welcome UCM,i will log back in later,i have a migraine coming on.xx

You are not the only one who drank more than they should have this week, butty.
I went out with a group of friends on Saturday night & had quite a few G&T's. I kind of knew I would have a few Saturday night though, as I don't get out with my friends that often.
Yesterday my sister (who also likes a drink) paid us a visit, which resulted in us attacking a box of red wine & later having a Baileys.
Had a headache this morning & have promised myself I am not touching a drop tonight and will try to go without until Friday.

I found one of the most difficult things, and still do, is going out without associating it with drink. Let's face it, that's what a large majority of the population do to let their hair down and have a good time.

I don't think any of you should feel bad for wanting some escape from a bad situation, alcohol is an instant fixer, IME, but what I found hard to deal with was the aftermath. Hope you're all OK, thinking of you xxxx

I have a nice up of tea at the moment. Have been on hols from work for 2 weeks so it's been far too easy to binge, plus I have some other issues which by drinking wine I can forget about. I know that it's not the answer but I guess we can have an excuse for drinking anytime, cos we are happy/sad/celebrating etc.

I hope you are all staying strong.xx

Well, hope you have all had a good bank holiday monday, i've been out for the day with the kids and very surprisingly DP, which made a huge change.

I have started getting symptoms of my chronic fatigue again today, so i know that i have to stay in for the next week as i need rest and lots of it. i was dx'ed with it just shortly after xmas after a long bout of sudden flue like illness over a period of 18 months, of which i think the drinking and late nights is a main contributor.

I really want to stop this silly lifestyle of mine, but i just don't have the will power, and it has taken me from me joining this thread to realise and admit it to myself.

I am now actually contemplating on going to see my gp about the whole drinking issue and see if there is something that he may reccommend???

I know its a total longshot, but after this week and looking back at this thread, it's brougt to light the amount that i drink and go out, i used to think it was normal and that it was a privilage to get out so often, but in all hinesight it really isn't, is it???

Last night from 8.30 till 12.45 when i came home i drank 6 pints, 2 halfs, 1 double vodka and coke and also 3 aftershocks

this is a normal night drinking for me, and wasn't even out as late as usual.

Anyway, have to dissapear for a while as DP id whingeing that i am on the pc whilst he is trying to play shitty xbox, as he's on live with it and apparantly me using MY PC, inteferes.

Speak to you all soon, maybe even later this evening when i have kicked his arse in to touch about who's bedroom, computer and darn router it actually is as well as reminding him that i pay the bills!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Butty.xxx

Good evening all. Had a lovely weekend away. Intended to stay off the drink Saturday due to running a charity 10k race on Sunday morning. Ended up drinking most of a bottle of red, but still managed the race on Sunday morning. Sunday evening/night was a different matter... bottle of cava whilst getting showered and drying hair, putting on make up etc. Then a bottle of white with meal, then back to hotel to neck god knows how much bloody rose fizzy stuff, before collapsing into hotel bed.

I drove home after lunch today vowing 'NO MORE'. But I've let myself down again as I'm typing this whilst necking an entire bottle of cava. Worse thing is - i'm on glass number 4 and i dont even feel slightly drunk! Tolerance or what?

Everybody is quiet today. Hope it's for good reasons and not that everyone is lying down in darkened rooms with hangovers.

Hi themoon66, good to see you! how did your race go? You must be pretty fit? I went hill-walking on Sunday, West of Scotland. It's an amazing mind, body, soul workout which I took up a couple of years ago. Really helps me when I'm feeling crap. Hope everyone else's doing OK xxxx

The race went ok, although I did a much slower time than I normally run a 10k due to it being a pretty hilly course. I wish I hadn't had the red wine the night before as it always gives me a headache. Am planning an alcohol free night tonight coz I have running club and dont get home till 9.30pm, so by the time ive showered, dried hair etc, it should be bedtime

hello is there a thread for people who have alcohol dependent partners ??i dont drink but dp has a problem ie 6-7 cans of stella a night

Butty

have been thinking about you and hoping that you are ok when you obviousley arent.

I used to be an alcoholic when DS was a toddler.

I thought i was a really bad mum as DS wasnt happy with anything i did and just used to scream/cry all the time.

I now know that it wasnt me as he has Autism.

I used to hide bottles of barcardi all around my flat.

One morning when i had a particularly bad hangover i was being ill over the toilet when DS toddled in and asked me what was wrong and started rubbing my back to make me feel better.

I felt ashamed.mortified, you name it.

I vowed to stop drinking, nightime was the worst so i got info from AA and it said to find a hobby.

So i took up cross stitching which progressed into making cards etc.

I also stopped smoking this way and havent smoked for 5 years now

You have a lot going on in your life Butty and its not surprising that you have a drink.

But i know from talking to you that you are a very strong person who can beat this and you will.

Stay Strong Mate.

Hi Jenk1, it's great to hear your positive experience of how you got through your problem. It does sound horrendous what you went through. Well done.

Wrinklytum, you're more than welcome to join us here. I don't know if you have read any of my posts on here but my late husband was an alcoholic, so I have been on the other end of it too.

Alcoholism is sometimes described as a "family illness" meaning that the whole family suffers from the effects of the problem drinker. Your dp can only make changes for himself if he truly is an alcoholic, but there is an organisation called Al-Anon, which offers support for families and friends of alcoholics. Their UK website is under construction at the moment, but I'll give you it anyway \link{http://www.al-anonuk.org.uk\here}

It has a phone numbers you can call and a link to the US website. HTH xxxx