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Alcoholics or Dependant Drinkers Club

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Rhubarb · 24/04/2006 12:43

For SoftStuff, tyedye and anyone else who wants to join.

The rules are that you HAVE to sign in every night to let us know TRUTHFULLY how much you have drunk. You need to let us know your triggers too. So if you resisted for 12 hours but then cracked and had a beer - what finally snapped?

We'll be here to give you encouragement, support, advice and opinions.

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blueteddy · 28/04/2006 20:05

Are you feeling any better, softstuff?

lilstarry1 · 28/04/2006 21:45

This is slightly random, I haven't read all the posts.. but I just wanted to congratulate you all on your honesty! This thread hit a bit of a raw nerve, my dad died today because he was an alcoholic. Despite giving up the drink for a few years he eventually went back on and as a result ended up in hospital 5 weeks ago. He was told he had a fighting chance, unfortunately his organs began to fail and for the last few days we've watched on as he's slipped gradually away.

I know I risk upsetting/offending, but I just wanted to relay a very honest story, if it can motivate anyone here to pull back a little then I'll be happy! My father had a family, his first granddaughter and lots to be around for, unfortunately drink was his crutch... Keep being honest and keep trying, you really are all doing a brilliant thing in being open and honest.

Sorry. Just hate to think of people ending up like my dad :( xxx

7up · 28/04/2006 21:51

lilstarry, im so sorry about your father i think a message like yours need to be heard on here to help people.

wheres softstuff, hopefully sleeping it offdont feel bad softstuff, i still feel rough after last night and because i havent got the school run in the morning im having a lager (stubby ones, not big ones!). avoiding brandy tonight, my mood this morning definitely affected my eldest son

blueteddy · 29/04/2006 09:54

lilstarry, I am really sorry to hear about your Dad.

blueteddy · 29/04/2006 09:58

Did end up caving in last night & having 3 glasses of red wine, but I didn't go overboard.
I have a rare night out with the girls tonight, so I know I will have a few drinks. I will try not to go silly & have too much though.
Hope you are feeling better this morning, softstuff.

tyedye · 29/04/2006 09:58

Ditto,lilstarry,mine died of cirrhosis 5 years ago,best wishes and thank you for your input!

tyedye · 29/04/2006 10:00

Half a bottle of wine and four(ish)beers.
Not too bad for me,I dont know why i bother as it doesnt work!Knitting tonight

butty · 29/04/2006 10:08

hello all,

I've managed to grab a quick 5 minutes on the pc whilst dylan is watching robots, he is totally engrossed and the arse is sat next to me playing his darn xbox!!!!!!!!!!

Well, i ended up going out and i now feel very much worse for wear

I managed to fool myself yet again that i was not going, but by 9.15 i was that bored i got ready and went out.

Had far too many drinks, although i must have burned off some calories on the dancefloor.

Chloe ended up sleeping out at the twins house last night, which was the first time she has slept at her mates, so at least i have some peace and quiet this morning.

Hope you all had a good night last night and if not, then join me in the "my head hurts group"

I am deffo not going out tonight as cousins are stopping over, although i could be really cruel and let dp take the brunt of it whilst i dissapear, but then that wouldn't be fair on the kids

Anyway, going to make a strong coffee and check that dylan hasn't escaped from his buggy, not that he would, too engrossed with robots!!!!!!

Butty.xxx

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Rhubarb · 29/04/2006 11:33

lilstarry1, I'm so sorry about your dad.
Do you think alcoholism is genetic then? A lot of us seem to have relatives who suffer. I wouldn't say my dad is an alcoholic, but he drinks heavily (his stomach is huge!), he has whiskeys every day and can fairly knock them back! But he doesn't get drunk. I suppose he must be an alcoholic really, just reading that.

I had 2 cans of Guinness and a little bottle of beer. About 5 units? Not too bad.

What are other people's coping strategies then?

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tyedye · 29/04/2006 11:35

Never mind Butty!threads quiet this morning,wonder how we will all do tonight?I bought vodka just now,stupid.No cider though so maybe civilised with it.BBLxxxx

tyedye · 29/04/2006 11:37

Morning Rhuby,its been proved that alcoholism is linked genetically and behaviourally,my teens pester for booze sometimes,15 and 13.Thats what they see us doing after all.

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Rhubarb · 29/04/2006 11:42

I never saw any drinking when I was a kid though. I know dad drinks now, but my mum left when I was 9 and I don't know if he drank heavily before. My grandad liked a drink every now and then. My dad has links to Irish catholics so there you go I guess!!!!!! I'm more my dad's side thank goodness.

My siblings don't drink much though, hardly at all in fact.

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themoon66 · 29/04/2006 11:43

Morning all. I did my morrisons big shop last night and the buggers were selling 12 cans of Grolsch lager for 8 quid. I also bought 2 one litre bottles of San Miguel lager too. Managed to neck back half a litre of San Miguel whilst merely putting shopping away in cupboards. By the time Jonathon Ross came on the telly I'd drunk both litre bottles of San Miguel and fallen asleep with a half empty tin of Grolsch on the table next to me! As per normal - no hangover but am a bit shakey. I did have fish and chips for dinner, so that maybe soaked a bit of it up. I still feel a failure though. No drink tonight coz am running a 10k race Sunday morning in Sutton Park. Actually I'll perhaps have a pint of something weak - just for the carbs you understand!

tyedye · 29/04/2006 11:47

Hard to resist!I like grolsch and SM too,and Bud.........Beer monster anyone?

tyedye · 29/04/2006 11:48

I bought Guinness,should slow me down?!

themoon66 · 29/04/2006 11:50

Am packing now for my weekend away with the running club in Sutton Coldfield. They are all beer monsters, so Sunday AFTER the race will be total blowout no doubt. We dont get kicked out of the hotel till noon on Monday.

tyedye · 29/04/2006 11:53

have a good-un!

themoon66 · 29/04/2006 11:54

I will report back on Monday,if this thread is still going, and will confess all.

tyedye · 29/04/2006 11:57

We ought to keep this thread going,its doing me good,cant speak for the rest of you!

blueteddy · 29/04/2006 12:05

Its doing me good too. I have cut down loads this week compared with my normal drinking standards!
I have a bad feeling about tonight though!

kokeshi · 29/04/2006 12:12

Sorry to hear about your father lilstarry1, my husband died 2 years ago through his alcoholism. He didn't get to the cirrhosis stage, but he kept injuring his right hand to the point they were going to amputate it. He was a pro photographer which was his passion in life. After sustained drinking and reaching rock-bottom with everything else that goes along with alcoholism, he hung himself. Thinking of you.

Hope everyone else is feeling OK, I think we should make a susained effort to keep this going. I haven't drunk for a while but it's helped me enormously being able to get some of these things down...and remind myself where I was not so long ago. Take Care all xxx

lilstarry1 · 29/04/2006 12:19

Thank you all for your kind words... I think I'm a mixture of sad and angry, I think alcholism is incredibly tragic, but it's also hard to watch..

I've decided to never drink again. I'm not a big drinker anyway (which is why I feel as if I'm crashing this thread a little), but I thought if I shared my story it might make someone think twice about using alcohol as a means of avoiding stuff..

I'm ever so sad to hear that so many of you have experienced first hand how awful alcohol addiction is.
I have so much respect for you all, just cutting back and talking honestly about your drinking is an amazing start. I hope you can all find the strength to continue drinking moderately.

Love and respect to you all xxx

macwoozy · 29/04/2006 12:20

lilstarry1, I am so sorry to hear about your dad, but thank you for taking time to share that with us on what must be a terribly upsetting day. I hope you get much support to get you through these very sad times

tyedye · 29/04/2006 12:25

Bloody Hell Kokeshi!!!!How on earth did you get thru that!?Hat off to you girl,I just had a vodka and orange but im now going to pour the rest down the sink!I shouldnt touch spirits anyway,dont often,will go out and plant my peas instead.More "real"kids stuck indoors and itas a gorgeous day!COLD though!xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

blueteddy · 29/04/2006 12:34

Oh, kokeshi, how awful.
Lilstarry, it is very strong of you to be able to come onto this thread & talk about your father so soon after his death. These stories could really help others to see how damaging alcohol abuse can be though.
Thinking of you at this hard time.xx

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