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step this way dear ones...the trolley will be here in a sec...

Lone DB found mediation really helpful even though his ex refused to go. She was poisoning my DNs against him saying he was taking the money she intended for them (in the end she started screaming at the judge saying he was taking all her money and had to be dragged from the court and and threatened with contempt!). The mediator advised never to rise to the bait and get drawn into discussing anything going on with the ex with the children but to make their time with him a haven from the stress of it, in the end they would come to resent being manipulated and so it proved. It helped having someone with that experience to talk it all through with.

Ash
That is un fecking believable !!!
What an Atrocious Cunt !!!

First thing tomorrow , ring PALs and ask what the procedure is for changing consultants and what the structure is for their complaints procedure .

Do you have a nurse ? Us breast cancer women have a breast care nurse we can call with any queries .
If you have one of those , I would advise contacting her too .

I think you will probably find they are waiting by the phone for the complaints to start coming in .
Hospitals are a hot bed of gossip . It will be all around the place about what a CUNT he was to a patient .

DO NOT ACCEPT HIS BEHAVIOUR
This is a bad enough time for you without having to put up with brat-ish behaviour of a toddler-man !!!

By the way , did I say he was a CUNT ???

Lone would you like the girls to come round and "mediate" your ex to within an inch of his life ?
It's an option ...

Right
Am thoroughly bloody annoyed now
Can't believe some people think its ok to treat people that way !

Glass of wine anyone ?

Parent/teacher meeting done .
DS is achieving As and A* in all subjects .
His art teacher started speaking to him , and he was smiling and joking with her !
I nearly fainted , he hasn't smiled at me for nearly 6 months !

Thank you everyone for being so lovely I will read through with a clear head tomorrow, I'm still very tearful this evening. I feel so humiliated! But thank you for all your advice, I will make a plan tomorrow :)

lone your ex also sounds like a right pain in the arse. I hope he agrees to the mediation and you are able to sort everything out.

HND hello, nice to meet you, I'm 22, had bowel cancer, removed by surgery, started chemo two weeks ago. I think I read a bit about you when I tried to catch up with the rest of the thread! It's good to hear you are making progress although a shame it is taking so long :) I hope your son's meeting today went well.

topsy that's fabulous, well done to your son! :)

Am For you ashokan- I agree about complaint and change consultant as that is beyond unprofessional. Hope you are ok now.

Sorry about your ex lonecat - he sounds a prince among men.

Can't remember who posted about support forums but I am nodding along in agreement - the specialist forum for my cancer nd even the main charity website make me feel suicidal so I avoid. Probably perpetuates the issue of the desperate and mad hanging out there but there you go.

Copthalls dd if you are reading do your essays!!!

Dead tired after second day in (and nothing to do with early valentines dinner with muchsome wine last night) but went ok. Only one tearful ramble about how someone's dad died of cancer and no head nodding .

Back to slumping on sofa in my onesie- will reappear tomorrow when more perky.

Clever boy, Topsy. is he adopted? Seriously though, how lovely. Hope he's chuffed with himself.

Gig, is that it for this week then? Can't remember how many days you're doing. You have a onesie? What sort? Have visions of you now curled up dressed as a rabbit or something.

Ashokan, not surprised you're tearful. How are you feeling about not having the drip again? Hope that's a relief. ((((hugs)))) for you. Topsy's right he's an AC.

Yep that's me for week - will log in tomorrow as meant to be doing 4 days and 8-10 hours at minute.

Have pink one and black one like this here and cheetah print fleece one. Mini gig is obsessed with zips on it and cackles like a witch if she manages do get it zipped over my face.

I think he must be Smee !
On one of my hospital stays I had a photo of the DC on my locker .
The mental night nurse carried it off to show to another nurse .
As she brought it back she said to me " your DC are beautiful , are they adopted ?"
All I could do was laugh !

Gig my DD will invite you to her birthday party next month .
All the guests are required to wear onesies .
It's at the cinema ...

I think I might die a little if my DC ever found me on this thread Cop

Well done master topsy - brilliant work

Hope your DS's appointments went well HND, good that you are down to one drain, but also hope the healing speeds up a bit for you - it's been a long old haul hasn't it?

Gig - that pink onesie is lovely, I offered to get my DD a onesie, but she was worried that if she had one, she'd never get dressed properly again and just live in it

Talking of my DD, she has just come into the room and said 'I thought you were crouching in the hall, being your usual loony self, but it it turned out to be dad's old coat'

@ dd kk !!!
sorry to hear about your ex lone - what a git
I don't think my bcn will be at my appointment tomorrow
Am feeling very enraged by a kerfuffle on fb - I don't want to bore you all with it,but concerns my giving up choc for Lent (nephew in law rubbished the whole thing,saying Lent was shite etc so I responded by saying that he might like to note I was doing it for a good reason and perhaps instead of having a go,he might offer a few quid - fair enough ? anyway,SIL wades in with a pm saying not to ask nephew for money because he has been made redundant and they don't want anyone to know. Have defended myself in return pm saying that I wasn't demanding money just alerting him to his general knobbishness. Gah ! it's none of her business really- it's made me feel quite distressed and have wasted time fretting. Slept badly because am all bunged up and had massive anxiety dream. Sorry to go on.

oh and well done junior topsy -clever,clever lad.

I can't believe I'm the first person up today (more likely everyone is busy working and I am being lazy as usual!)

DH got me a Valentine's card, with a badge on it which says 'perfect Valentine' - that's a big responsibility to live up to! he has also done a temporary repair on our horrible tumble dryer with duct tape, so he's doing well

Since I'm first in, I'd better make the and toast, there might even be some porridge if you are lucky.

MAS - x-posted - you are first up I will still make tea though

at nephew and SIL kerfuffle - he does sound as if he's being knobbish, - if he didn't want to give any money he didn't have to surely - no need to be rude about it. Don't waste time fretting, they are probably just very sensitive atm if he's been made redundant and are taking it out on you, hopefully he will apologise soon

MAS, at Nephew and SIL. How ridiculous of them both. Can you have an un-chocolatey treat today? Sounds like you deserve it. x

Gig, very alpine that onesie. If I had one, I'd never take it off am sure.

Kurri, are you being perfect just for today or forever? Just checking..

I have shuffled off my slothedom over Valentines and just bought DH a Neuf Chatel cheese - they're heart shaped. Aahh.. though obviously I intend to eat more than half of it

Oh just for today Smee - I'm not superwoman - tomorrow I go back to my naggy old self

DH is coming home for lunch, I am just going to heat up some frozen vegetable samosas (and they say romance is dead )

Still seems like a tall order, Kurri. Perfect for a day?

Do I detect a certain lack of faith Smee?

'frozen vegetable samosas' need I say more?

- there's a few left over surprisingly - I'll pop them on the trolley

The girls could be a good option. He doesn't want to go to mediation as he doesn't want anyone to tell him he is being unreasonable he wants to carry on in his little world believing all his actions are justified. The mediator is going to contact him so we'll see what happens.
Can anyone throw any light on this 1 week from biopsy being taken get a letter asking me to go and get U&Es, Glucose, LDL and HDL blood tests done. GRRR I only had FBC, folate and cobalamin done on Monday. No other explanation just letter telling me to go and request form. That's go to be a starved one so fortunately I get to go before 10am when it is a bit quieter. Maybe they are hoping to reduce the lump by exsanguination?
Anyway got to do my favourite op today on a lovely little dog - nice little bit of doggy plastic surgery- nothing better. Beautiful advancement flap where there was horror now there is beauty.

DH is demanding Oysters, Champagne and steak tonight. Should I be worried???? I don't want to bugger up my hips. I any case he doesn't have the sensitive and delicate touch needed to open up an oyster, he always ends up pulverising them into a gritty mess, so he isn't getting any and I am not buying him any oysters either.

Topsy Yes the stalking by DDs is mortifying, especially as they then have the cheek to accuse me of stalking them on Facebook, as if daily. Therefore gigs KK I feel entirely justified in outing them as having deteriorated one step further than onesies in terms of comfort dressing, the animal print slanket www.amazon.co.uk/Cow-Print-Slankets-Blanket-Sleeves/dp/B0039OI8I0. Apparently DDs flatmates actually confiscated her fleecy pyjama bottoms so fed up were they with them and only spared her the slanket when faced with the threat that if they tried to take it away from her she would turn the heating on

MAS Both nephew and mother sound to have a heavy dose of the shit stirring gene, it should be a priority for genetic modification, don't give them the satisfaction of rising to it. Also can you not just reply "Oh shut up. I have Cancer, you know"

Lone Sounds like a forgetting to cross the Ts letter to me. I can't think of a special significance of those tests in relation to Breast Cancer, liver function, the Cancer markers etc maybe but not cholesterol?

Speaking of liver function, off to open the champagne, this week my poor liver has daily been sacrificed to celebrations from around the globe, actually quite looking forward to Feb 18th, when cannot think anything will require celebration, yet...

DH has just had to go for a lie down, must be exhausted just at the thought of romance............