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Gigondas · 03/09/2012 13:36

Another shiny thread

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Gigondas · 23/09/2012 17:09

Lime soda is nice and refreshing so would that work for barnes and otm?

Like the ideas on sleeping in kurrismee and ned - I have ordered one of those alarm
Clocks and bribes star chart - also audio books might be a compromise (as opposed using an iPad).

kurri I would imagine that you have to consent to sale so you could make things awkward with dsis. But solicitor could advise. If all else fails you can make sure it goes at a sensible price . Also I know there is no logic in madness but if they are so loaded why have they not moved before Confused?

Arm hurting but might be related to mini gig crawling and messing about on it. I feel Wine may help.

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Gigondas · 23/09/2012 17:11

Oh and moving to a sheltered accom flat really helped mil - if nothing else having a cooked meal a day made a huge difference (didn't make her any less loony though Grin- last week she referred to me as whatshername throughout her call with dhSmile).

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KurriKurri · 23/09/2012 17:29

I think my mum would enjoy the community of sheltered housing too Gig, - she's very sociable. MS has also apparently told her that most sheltered places wont sell to people over ninety Hmm

The filthy rich DD and her DH live and work abroad, but suddenly seem to want to get a place in Britain, as well as the place they live in now. All sounds a bit odd to me Hmm

Ultimately I guess I would support whatever my mum wants to do regarding the house sale, in my mind it's her house to do as she wishes with. My Dad made sure his will left part of it to us because he knew that if the house went entirely to mum, MS would end up getting it all from her somehow and making sure nice sis and I got nothing. He said as much to me years ago before he became ill.

But what can you do? - all I really want is for my mum to be safe and happy for the rest of her life, so I tend to go along with stuff that I don't necessarily agree with.

amberlight · 23/09/2012 17:48

Tricky one, KK. My mum really enjoyed sheltered housing in the blissful four years we had of her between being very very ill and departing the planet. I'd recommend them on that basis, if it's a good one with lovely wardens.

DS is thoroughly settled and sorted. Has found alcohol, women, rugby, and allegedly found a lecture. Probably the latter by mistake. Hurrah.

MaryAnnSingleton · 23/09/2012 18:58

yay for ds amber !
Oh dear -MS - I'd forgotten about her kk - she is unhinged. Hope she doesn't intimidate your mum.

jchocchip · 23/09/2012 20:13

amber hurray for ds. Dd has to get the 8am bus tomorrow....

kk sheltered housing can be great - my gran had a super bedsit with bathroom and kitchen but had a hot dinner every weekday in the lounge and the wardens were really supportive. It was her choice to move there and I think that is the key. The socials in the lounge were good too. Hope your Mum finds somewhere lovely.

smee · 23/09/2012 20:29

Phew Amber, that's a relief. Smile

Kurri, we visited DH's Aunt last week who's in sheltered housing. She has a lovely flat with a sunny balcony and there's a shared common room. She can have her meals cooked for her if she wants too. She's hugely happy and says she wishes she'd done it sooner. Your family sound deeply tricky. Gig's got a point - they can't sell unless you agree. Depends how stroppy you want to be. Grin

jchocchip · 24/09/2012 08:27

Morning all.
We actually live3 houses away from a Macarthy and Stone retirement complex. There are usually a few flats for sale. The ones at the back have views over the park, river and open countryside and it is a very popular development and it is within walking distance of the small town and railway station. service charges can be quite steep, but there is no worry over home maintenance and extra care can be arranged if necessary.

Difficult day today, my lovely friend's funeral this afternoon. I've taken the day off work. I'm quite calm now, after crying for a week I am much more peaceful. I have written a long letter to her dp and I'm hoping that I can get through the funeral ok. Must sort out something to wear, then I'm going for a run. Wet and windy here.

what are you all up to today? I'll put a Brew on.

topsyturner · 24/09/2012 08:50

Morning All

Sending you a hand to hold for the funeral today Jane
Hope it goes as well as these things can x

Today's plans are to undercoat the woodwork in DDs bedroom .

And yes please to the coffee , I need it to wash down the jammy doughnut I have just had for brekkie ... Blush

jchocchip · 24/09/2012 08:53

thanks topsy passes Brew Mmmmmm jammy doughnut....

overthemill · 24/09/2012 08:54

jchocchip take care - a horrid day for you. big hugs

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Gigondas · 24/09/2012 09:03

jchoc thinking of you and hope it gives you some solace at this difficult time.

Tipping down here which isn't offering me much incentive to get up .

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Gigondas · 24/09/2012 09:03

Rock and roll topsy - Assume you finished clearing out the pig tip/

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topsyturner · 24/09/2012 09:09

Yup , tip all cleared .
Now the rest if our house is full of her crap
We have thrown out loads , but she still has so much stuff .
How the heck it ever fit in her room , I don't know .

topsyturner · 24/09/2012 09:09

Is also tipping down here .

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Gigondas · 24/09/2012 09:10

And presumably there has been "you cant possibly throw that away mum I still need it" about random bits of crap.

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Gigondas · 24/09/2012 09:18

Have posted some pics of the little gigs on fb enjoying nutella pannacotta for you topsy . It is nice but very sweet. It's from new nigella book - think series starts tonight.

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smee · 24/09/2012 09:36

((((hugs)))) for Jane. Grim day for you. Am hand holding to help get you through. xx

OTM, how are you feeling today?

You too, MAS? Hope still feeling okay-ish.

Gig stay in bed. You deserve it. Pics are cute. Smile

Tipping down here too. Am impressed by you clearing dd's room, Topsy. I showed the vacuum cleaner DS's room yesterday and it conked out. Shock

graciesmall09 · 24/09/2012 10:24

Thinking of you today jchoc.

Sorry been missing, can't really get my head around the liver spots. Although I am getting to the point of 'well sure what can I do anyway'. Sorry I couldn't get on much while in hospital, my phone is pretty rubbish but I was thinking of you all. Waving hi to the new girls.

Can't remember whether I told you all the outcome of my stay in hospital. Well, I am still none the wiser. I was admitted with severe chest pains on Tuesday and my heart rate was very high although blood pressure ok but my blood enzymes should have been 10 and were 47 and then 49. I had an angiogram which showed my arteries were clear but they thought the left side of my heart wasn't working as it should and there was fluid around my heart. I had an echo which showed same and then another more detailed echo which seemed to be fine. They said that it could have been a 'heart spasm' whatever the heck that is or an oesophogeal spasm. In other words I'm a weirdo. Food was beyond dire but nurses were fab. Bit scary though as the woman in the room opposite me went down for her angiogram, came back and took a stroke. Sad

OK enough about me I hope you are all ok. How are the chemo tabs going mas, hope the side effects aren't too bad.

gigs love the photos.

Huge waves to ned, kurri, 1in8, smee, topsy, otm and apologies if I missed you out, brain not working very well. Any word from pink?

smee · 24/09/2012 10:56

Gracie, not surprised you've been absent. It's a shock when anything's flagged, though I still think Gigs is right, as lots of people have something showing and it turns out to be nothing. Daft to say don't be worried though, as of course you will be. Did you have CT scans at diagnosis, I can't remember. Seems weird they weren't picked up then.

smee · 24/09/2012 10:57

And yes Pink where are you??? Come let us know how you are. We're all still thinking of you xx

graciesmall09 · 24/09/2012 11:28

Yes smee had ct scan at diagnosis which was clear then another in June which showed what they thought were bone mets but onc said not. Nothing in liver though. There are 2 spots 6mm and 4mm. Beginning to wonder does the worry ever go away.

smee · 24/09/2012 11:34

Hmm, how weird Gracie. Though actually logically that's a great sign as it seems improbable mets would have got a foothold when you're on chemo. I'd imagine that makes it hugely unlikely to be anything sinister. You're right though it never stops. Even when you're feeling okay you still have it in the back of your head. As someone on here once said it's the 'new normal' and takes some getting used to.

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Gigondas · 24/09/2012 13:11

gracie glad you are home but yes the worry and paranoia doesn't stop.

There were no liver mets on my first scan then thought saw something on next lot, turns out on closer inspection of MRI was fatty deposit or some other name for benign things. That said I still worry . But after last week and all the scares and trauma of being in hospital, it's rotten time for you.

Dh has been complaining about his waist line so may have to cook for you lot .

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MaryAnnSingleton · 24/09/2012 14:00

gracie sending you a welcome back hug and a comforting one for jane - hope you are ok and the funeral not too difficult.
Am fine -I guess things might take a while to kick in - have been out to pick up my antidepressant prescription and then to meet my friend (who was diagnosed originally similar time as me and under the same team) huge caffe caramellata at Costa -yum. Also went to see dentist to ask about a check up without any prodding as I can't bear to think of teeth missing out on being checked.
Bit of work next. Ds's year are allowed 6 sessions at the sports centre instead of PE so he's going swimming which he loves.