Morning all,
OTM - sorry you are feeling low, it's probably no comfort to know that feeling the way you do is as normal as a normal thing 
there is so much to deal with physically and emotionally it leaves you wrung inside out. I would definitely have bitten DH's head off if he'd made the 'sit on our arses' remark' - I think its very hard for anyone not having chemo to appreciate quite how bloody awful it makes you feel (One of my chemo nurses said on one of their training courses they use something that reduces the amount of oxygen they are getting (a mask or something) then they tie weights to them, then they makes them attempt household task, like getting up to answer the door - to give them an idea of how chemo patients feel.
But of course - your poor DH because he will be going through his own stresses and worries too, and I think spouses sometimes feel guilty that they are sometimes tired or snappy or whatever because its as if us having cancer, means anything they feel pales into insignificance. So their feelings get repressed. So actually probably a good thing that he snapped and said a shitty thing.
Also (nearly finished - promise ) one word - steroids, make you feel like hell, make your emotions all over the place, make you very snappy and aggro.
Be kind and gentle with yourself, take it bit by bit, as Gig says - living in the moment, and making the most of the times you feel a bit better, and allowing yourself time to feel lousy, is a good way to get through. And you will get through my love, you will. xx
As far as woo is concerned - I'm in favour of anything that helps the way you feel, I definitely have my woo things that keep me sane. But I think it must always be complementary rather than alternative, I woulddefinitely not give up the chemo.
Can you tell that I was one of those people who always found it hard to stick to the word allowance in essays 'some good points but try to make your writing more concise KK'
jane - kudos to you for teaching your kids to cook, they sound brilliant. My Ds has always been keen on cooking, and he and his partner totally share the cooking. DD likes baking and eating the results - she is less inclined to chop onions etc.
Gig - Barbie is a demanding girl IIRC, - one that talks/sings sounds like hell interesting. I had to knit a whole wardrobe for DD's Barbies, - (Knitted evening dress - the ultimate in chic), and I have had countless mindless conversations channelling Barbie thoughts 'shall I go shopping?, which shoes shall I wear?, Oh no I think I'll go to the beach I'll just change into my swimsuit. Hello Ken ' - Barbie is a stream of consciousness conversationalist in my experience. Plus she's in for a sad time when she discovers Ken has no bits just a flat area.
Love to all, hope everyone can get some peace and relaxation this weekend.
topsy I will make a list of what books I have and PM you over the weekend, then you can let me know which ones you want.
xx