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Back after lovely shopping trip and lunch out ...

overthemill I am not allowed overseas on consultant advice So am home alone while dh and kids are in France. You can't go easily when having chemo but can when not in treatment phase . Tbh I was when consultant Suggested not going but she was right- have been far better resting here rather than in heat of france (plus I know I would have ended up cooking for everyone plus having kids). I am full of suggestions now for things to do cos if can get nausea under control and know your "good days" , it is manageable.

smee safe journeu

And well done to sandripples ds.

Waves to laetissimus have a great time (but sorry you are having a prolonged wait)

how was lunch with your mum gig ?
Am thinking that am going to stay here as dad seemed pleased that I might and he could then go and visit very ill friend while I stay with mum. Doctor came and prescribed her some antibiotics and painkillers - so we'll see. Feel guilty if I don't go as I don't want to let dh and ds down, but they will have a jolly time I know. Either way I'll feel guilty- my brother came by after a whole month away from home working on Olympic events and said to do what I feel I want to do- but it's never easy !

mas I can understand the dilemma but I think in circumstances that staying at home makes sense. I dont think you need any more hassle at minute , sounds like dh/ds will be ok and if gives your dad a chance to see friend that's good (and you can see how your mum is doing).

I had a yummy lunch and have raided
Lakeland , john Lewis and various other shops .

amber what did you do about wig headache? Mine is quite tight and gives me a headache after a while so I revert to scarves.

mas so sorry to hear your mum is unwell. Hope the antibiotics work soon. Agree with gigs that staying at home makes sense. You would probably worry about mum if you went away.

gigs I suffered awful headaches at the beginning with my wig. I even went back to Macmillan to see if they could adjust it. They told me to wash it which I did and it seemed to loosen it a bit. I'm struggling a bit in this heat with a wig. Today is very humid so I switched to my scarf. DH put the window down in the car and the wind blew it off today - I've never moved so fast to pick it up .

Have super holidays smee and sometimes.

overthemill I'm still having chemo so I was told no holidays. Too much of a risk of infection. We had booked a few days away at a hotel in Dublin but cancelled as I wasn't really feeling up to it (well I actually decided to use the money for redecorating )

laetissimus sorry you have so long to wait. The waiting is the worst thing.

Was mapped this afternoon for rads. They are due to start beginning of October. We were late for our appointment as I had to get DH to drive back home as I was in so much pain sitting in car. Dosed myself with Ibuprofen and ended up lying in the back of the car.

Glad it's not just me- and I agree scarves are much comfier in heat . And will wash wigs as that may help.

What hurt? Being pulled around to be measured (it is such a faff) or is your beloved picc line troubling you. It will be party time when that comes out won't it?

Gig I've messaged you

gracie - can you get one of those cushions with a hole in the middle to sit on (not the most glamorous accessory I know, but if it helps the pain, then worth it)

I've just been out for a very slow jog. Phew - I am unfit, I am as red as a very red thing, and all sweaty - not a good look.

MAS - hope the Ab's start working quickly for your mum. I think your Db is right - you must do whatever you feel you want to, but don't feel guilty, - it is just one of those things, and people understand when you have elderly parents to care for, that sometimes plans have to be changed last minute.

Oh that pain gracie
You can order those cushions on amazon. I had one for when I had op... I think I used it once before big gig used it as a hat and appropriated it to her den.

gigs at big gigs at least it didn't go to waste. I think I may have DD's old swimming rubber ring which I may try.

Well done kurri jogging. I fear I would need a cardiac ambulance to follow me should I try it.

Just recovering from the 8 hr journey back from holiday so apols that I'm not catching up properly, but wig headache - haven't had any problems with that as I bought adjustable wigs and they fit comfily (Rene Amore range - worked for my head shape).

welcome home amber - was ds's show fab ?
Mum sleeping when we went over just now- had some wine with dad and I've decided to stay-but I feel guilty as hell...ds disappointed..I feel bad for not going,partly because in a way it gets me out of the anxiety of going -though will miss out on2 nice lunches out- however, dad seemed v pleased to have my support and we thought we'd nip out to have coffee and cakes !

Yes want to hear about ds show amber. And will investigate fit as they are same make of wigs.

mas try not to feel too guilty as it is only the weekend and I think you are doing the right thing.

thanks gig

His shows were wonderful! One world premier adaptation of a book, one redoing of a popular play. Really enjoyable. So proud of what he's achieved against the odds and after the hell he's been through with DH's brain haemorrhage and then my cancer.

poor dad in a bit of a state as it took him 2 hours to get mum up this morning. I feel a bit useless really- will nip over again later.

MAS, heck. all round I think....

Oh no mas - probably as well you were home.

That is so good about your dsamber. And my mum has managed to fix my wigs so looser so fingers crossed that helps my wig head.

Soo hot here today...

Oh no MAS - your poor dad and mum Gig is right probably just as well you are home - you'd have worried too much otherwise.

amber - well done to you DS, what a great lad he sounds, and as you say after all he's been through - it shows real character

V hot here today as well Gig - I've just walked out to the village shop and feel very over heated and flappy (menopause + weather)

Off to the tip to dispose of garden waste later (I know how to lead a glamorous life )

Mum is refusing to take her Parkinson's medication which is why she's having a bad time, she feels it doesn't help-it's all a bit of a vicious circle. Poor dad - tomorrow he'll go off to visit friend so I will mind mum- dad worried that I won't be able to move her (am sue I can- she is very thin) Thing is that she gets locked and can't move at all.

Hello all, I have not been on here for a while. When DD1 got the all clear I had some sort of meltdown and went to a very dark place. I think everything caught up with me and for a while I barely functioned. I did however keep checking in here because the courage shown by everyone on here did give me hope. So I would just like to say best wishes and thank you to you all, I am slowly feeling more positive and hope the future will be less bleak.

ILGC, unmumsnetty hug for you, methinks. Or a Or both.
Done gardening. In the heat.

Afternoon all. I've gone away! Not quite the excitement of France but my mom's for a night cos she is frail and we try to pop in when we can. Nice for her to make us a meal I think as she's been worried. Totally shattered mow tho so will sleep in var on way home.

Hope everyone is relatively well. X

ilgc Hugs to you and I hope you continue to improve.

mas Your poor mum, I really hope she starts to feel better soon. Thank you so, so much for the gorgeous painting. It is even better 'in real life'. I love it.

amber glad you holiday went well and well done to DS. You must be very proud.

DH has taken children to the cinema. I was meant to go too but wouldn't be able to sit . DH is struggling a bit at the moment I think. His dad hasn't been well for some time - bleeding varices (sp) in his stomach leading to anaemia and other ongoing health problems. He is sleeping quite a bit and having difficulty walking. I think his dad is giving up to be honest.

Can I ask anyone who has had rads when they put the tattoo marks where they where the lump was removed or just on the same side? They put 3 dots on me one on the side of each breast and then one just off centre which is nowhere near where my quadrectomy was.

Sorry crossposted with overthemill hope you get a better night's sleep tonight.