Tamoxifen- the silver jubilee 25th edition

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New thread in honour if queen mas

crosspost with mas yay for DS.

Hope party going well gigs. You will need to lock yourself in a darkened room for a while afterwards.

Well done to DS MAS, - brave boy.

Figgy - hoping everything goes well for your DS today.

gracie I like the sound of your dh ! I am very keen on manners We are always being invited to my friend S's and it's lovely,but I feel I should have them here instead-but the prospect makes me nervous - silly really as the food would be yum (dh brilliant cook and I make pretty fab puddings) - it's the whole upheaval and anxiety that does it for me.
Thinking of gig among the party debris.
Off to T's piano lesson in a sec

Pink butterfly cake on fbs. I feel done in but party was a success. Also had acupuncture and got some more painkillers as my shoulder was agony last night/this morning . I got it strapped up and think was a mistake as puts more strain on it.

Yay that t got injection done and was ok mas. kurri hope your ds ok. If he is or you are worrying , can you check out livestrong site as lots of good advice there.

gracie that sounds quite nice if dh does cooking...

grabs cake- glad you got through it gig and hope that Big Gig had a fab time.

Someone mention cake ?

I thought you actually sat on the fbs trolley like dobbie the house elf swiping the best snacks and swapping them for pears which nearly made me have a rant like that toddler on the thread about cutted up pear.

This made me laugh rl questions to Australian tourist board

'evening all. Mr Stalker has been spoken to by his lawyers and seems to think his stalking days are over. Jolly good. But now he's taking us to court over a fictitious claim of some sort. Joy of joys.
Anyway, all round...

hi all.
this thread is full of really supportive and strong ladies, your all a real inspiration to people. :)

i was reffered by my gp on an urgent 2 week refferal because of suspected BC. I had my appt this afternoon and had a biopsy. i have to go back next week for my results.
i didnt have an ultrasound which i thought i may have. i have taken some paracetemol but its still quite painfull. im also aching a lot because of a terrible nights sleep, can i have a bath???
i didnt think to ask the consultant because i was just rambelling on about random shite-as i do when im nervous.
will i get called earlier if the results are not good?

im soo scared about everything, i have 2 yound dc and just keep looking at them and thinking, what the hell will they do without me??

sorry if i sound so bloody pessimistic, i just dont know what to do.

First of all hugs (v un Mn). Am sorry you are here but hope we can help.

Is your biopsy site covered in plaster? If so I think it as ok to remove and shower 24 hours after. Try alternating with ibuprofen if still painful.

This stage is the hardest as any tests make us imagine the worst and panic. That said as all the lovely ladies on here show, even If worst Happens - it is possible to treat and jn many cases cure bc . amber is the stats queen.

Lots of us have little ones (my 2 are 4 and 6 months) and all of us have kids so know how terrifying that makes being sick.

Evening Whataload
Welcome and sorry to meet you (iykwim ?)
I think its bloody inhuman making you wait for results .
My diagnosis was given to me same day as biopsy (one stop clinic) and I really can't see why all breast clinics aren't run like this ?
Anyhow rant over !
Hang out here and ask all the mad questions you can think of , believe me at least one of us will know the answer !

Gig !!!!!
Dobby the farking House Elf ?????

Excellent news re Mr Stalker Amber .
Shall I stand down the Tamoxifen Massive ?

Very good link Gig , particularly like the "milk is illegal" one
Was it you that linked us to the "texts from dog" website ?
I bloody love that one .
I forward them to my DH every day (am sure he thinks it's pig/dog and not me !)

thanksfor replies. Ive had an awfull week or so waiting for today.
but i feel better than i did yesterday even, i think its just that at least now i know that someting is being done and im on my way to finding out either way-not just sitting and waiting.
ive got a gauze pad on, ill wait untill tomorrow now.
if i started running a bath now i can guarentee the kids would be up asking tp get in with me (how dare i expect a bath without the ramblings of one or both going on in my ear the whole time) :) :)
i agree with getting results the same day, would be a lot better.
Thanks so much for the replies xx

just realise my xx were very un mumsnetty- i apologise profusely- please accept my fragile state of mind as a reason :) :)

Hi WhatALoad, welcome to the thread, but of course very sorry that you find yourself here. I had to wait two weeks for my results - they didn't call me before hand though the results were bad (i.e. BC) in my case. It may be different at your hospital, - but just letting you know what happened to me so that you are prepared that the wait may be two weeks.

Waiting is horrible -its so stressful, - but if there is a problem, you are on the road to getting it sorted out. I know it's hard but try not to think too far ahead, it's natural to worry about children and family, but overthinking and dwelling on all the 'might be's' is very draining and exhausting. Try not to think beyond your next appointment, - then you'll know where you stand and what is going to happen.

Stick around here, we can do our best to answer any questions you might have, and we do hand holding and cake. No need to apologise for unmumsnetty hugs and xx - they are allowed on this thread, so sending some your way xx

Uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuugh !
Can't sleep tonight .
Have come back downstairs and am trawling through the channels trying to find something to watch that will put me to sleep .

I would have done as also had bloody awful night with neck pain...

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Gig, arrgh re the neck pain...

Morning all!
WALB, welcome, though I too am sad that you've had to join us here. XX and hugs etc all v welcome on this thread. As is any emotion you like in the face of the eek of it all.
Statistics: Only 1 in every 10 lumps is cancer. Even if it is cancer, only 1 in 10 of cancer lumps are rudely behaved. The rest can be reasoned with these days. So, at the start of all of this, the chances of it being rude cancer are 1 in 100. Not a bad set of starting odds. (And even if it's SO rude that it's managed to appear in another place as well as in the breast, they can still whack 8 out of 10 of that sort too. Phew.)
Let us know what's what and we can walk with you through the next week and hopefully cheer on some good news for you when you get the results.

PS I was diagnosed with breast cancer a year and a half ago, and the treatment worked, (they think) so now off all treatment and enjoying life most of the time. Worked all the way through it, on account of how I am quite mad, as far as anyone can tell.

Welcome WhatALoad - sorry you find yourself here but the ladies are very good at hand-holding - got me through it anyway. This waiting bit is horrible but the thing to remember is that breast cancer is very treatable these days and I for one certainly do not intend to leave my kids anytime soon.

Ned - you have inspired me to start taking my tamoxifen too so thank-you. Made the mistake of looking at the side effects of which one was sickness and my stomach protested. Still grumbling from iron pills which GP prescribed as I was a bit anaemic after the chemo - have decided I would rather be anaemic than feeling sick so stopped taking them. Start the radiotherapy on Monday but not too anxious about that other than hoping they can give me reasonable appointment times so I can pick and drop off the kids from school.

Topsy - and others starting docetaxol - I found an hours nap in the middle of the day really helped cope with the tiredness. Do try the nail varnish as I didn't and lost half my nails - not the end of the world but if you can avoid it. I was also prescribed an anti-fungal thing can't remember its name which helped avoid the mouth ulcers and loss of taste. If you do lose your taste try eating things you don't normally eat - my Dad has been having soup for breakfast as one of the few things he can face at the moment and it works for him.

Amber - stalker sounds horrible - hope the solicitors are helpful in sorting him out.

Gig - hope the little ones let you have a nap in the day to help you catch up on the sleep.

Hope everyone else is doing well and has a good day.

WhatALoad (actually I have a feeling you'll get shortened to Bollocks- no disrespect !) welcome and xxx and hugs are absolutely encouraged here.
Horrid waiting for results I know- as others have said,one day at a time is best and no to googling. I had a gauze dressing on my biopsy which I removed the next day and had a bath.
Waves to eight !
amber a very pleased that stalker has been given marching orders

Hi WhataLoad - welcome from me, too. I'm another one who had to wait (I think) two weeks for the (in my case) bad news. It's really hard, probably the worst bit, really. I hope your biopsy site is better today. Mine was pretty painful and very bruised for about a week, but that is apparently not too common. I didn't think it signifies anything if it is, by the way, it just depends on whereabouts it is, apparently near the nipple is the ouchiest.

Amber, that stalker guy sounds like a serious loon. Big sympathies - and thanks as always for the cheering stats.

Waving to all from behind a pile of paper and assorted crap - annual check-up mammogram this afternoon. Never a good day for any of us, I guess.

thanks everyone, your all lovely ladies. I feel very welcome here now :) I don't mind being called bollocks ;)
My biopsy was on my nipple and breast. Pagets disease they think it is.
Feels a lot better today so I'm gonna take the gauze off an have a nice bath.
day off work today so I'm going to lay on the setee and watch fried green tomatos which I've had taped for ages and not got round to watching yet, silver lining and all that :)
hope you are all feeling well today. you've all made me feel bad because your all so positive so I'm trying to channel you all and be positive,
Thanks for you help xx