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[charliecat]

Theres a few quitters here.
Im charliecat and have been fag free for about 9 months after a good couple of years of trying.
Come and chat your smoking fears away!

Hi Charlie, have stopped now for 10 weeks (I'm 16 weeks pregnant) Still really struggling with it. I'm just quite thankful I've stopped drinking too or no doubt I would def have started up again by now. Very proud of myself though smuggly! How are you finding it after 9 months and why did you stop?

After 9 months I think im as cured as i will ever be, dont wake up wanting one, of thinking about them..can sit beside a smoker and listen to what they are saying without wondering how I can politely take Just One Puff ...have got blind drunk and still been aware of the fact im a nonsmoker and havent used the drunkenness as an excuse for accidently smoking....Have no desire to smoke, cant get better than that
Stopped because I really wanted too. Didnt want to share an ashtray with my children and realised the fags were a tightning noose round my neck.
Have you any other children and what are you struggling with?

No this is will be my first. I always said the day I find out I am pregnant is the day I will stop and I am very glad to have stuck by this but although the pregnancy was planned it took 12 months to happen so I was still a little shocked at the positive result - first thing I went to do was light up and then remembered the pact I made with myself and threw the ciggies away The frustrating thing is that DH agreed to quit too before the pos result but so far he hasn't managed it which just makes my blood boil. I know it is his decision but I can't help but feel I am not getting the support. That's why I find it hard I think, because I get a bit ratty when he smokes but is prob more due to the fact that, like you, I want to ask for a quick pull!

My dp and my mum smoke too..its Must dash for now, but will be back later!

Yeah finishing work too and will be away all weekend - glad to hear it might get a little easier after 9 months! Saying that, I think I'll have enough to cope with by then

mll in crisis

I had about 3 fags yesterday. The pressure of dp's work etc. just got to me. Had one this morning too. Finding it almost impossible to stop needing one.

help

OH MLL
Get yourself together, go read that past thread. How good were you feeling????

Where have you gone?, this is the thing about just one, its poison, very addictive poison...Oh MLL where are you?

Hi. Can I join in too.

Still smoking at the moment but am going to have a go at stoping on Monday.

Go for it Lillypond, though I'm a crap role model at the moment. Let cc guide you, and dropinthe when she's back from her hols.

I'm just so amazingly exhausted and stressed cc I'm taking any small comforts I can and smoking is unfortunately one of them. I feel awful about it. I wish I could just 'pull myself together'. I'm doing crap. All these months I've been strong but these last few days with scenes with dp and a feeling of no way out has just seen me crumbling. I want to say it's a temporary glitch but I feel so low at the moment I can't. I've asked dp for a serious talk tonight and am hoping that if it goes well I can get back on top of my stupid, endless, fight against bloody pathetic nicotine.

Hiya, Have a big long read at whyquit.com, theres lots of articles and the discussion boards to read through..
Please do join us

Youve made me cry MLL...I need you to tell me that it didnt help, and you know it didnt, and now you just feel sucked into the trap, the fags will only serve to make you weaker and take your confidence away. You really should bang it on the head now.

Hi ladies I posted on the other thread a few weeks ago..

I quit smoking 5 weeks ago and have only really wanted one (when found out something about my ex that made me and and I just wanted to forget about it) but I didnt smoke and was sooo proud of myself!

Saying that I have avoided bars at night like the plague.. when I quit when preggers with dd I had awful cough (getting all the ick stuff outta my lungs) but havent got it yet this time - when should I expect it? or have i got off lightly?

You have probably got off lightly, glad you got over a moment, its a good feeling isnt it?
An even better one is realizing you had a moment and you didnt even think of smoking

Awww cc, I thought you didn't do 'weepy'? Sorry for making you cry. My better side is saying all the things you want to hear, my depressed and despondent side is saying it needs some kind of release. I am so responsible for dd's care, we've no friends or family nearby so I can't let off steam in any other way, I mean I can't get blind drunk, I can't even go out for an evening as dp works so late, I'm broke and there's no babysitter. I feel trapped and claustrophobic. I can't help dp out of his situation and it's really getting on top of us. We were even talking, and I hope that's all it is, of me moving away somewhere. That's what he wanted when it all blew up on Thursday evening and he hasn't said otherwise since. I have to ask him frankly about it tonight. Until I know for sure whether he wants me to stay or go I feel like a nervous wreck.

Lmccrean, sorry, not much help today, am in quitter's crisis.

i used to "reward" myself with a fag after doing something, like getting ironing done, or getting dd to bed - adn I dont even think about it anymore.

it is such a great feeling - and I had an extra £60 in my bank at the end of last month (which i promptly spent on a beutiful outfit for myself!)

I had tried twice before this year, and failed after 3 weeks cause i broke up with my bfs - was just looking an excuse to smoke i think, cause didnt like the secong bf that much.

did anyone use the patches or other nicotine replacement things? or just go cold turkey?

Oh MLL didnt realise things were so awful
But you have to be able to deal with crisises without fags, where are your family? Will dd be at nursery soon for even a daytime break?

That's great lmccrean, fantastic, keep going!

Cc I'm going to take a nap while dd sleeps, I've been up since 5am this morning fretting.

think of it as you are cheating yourself if you do smoke - or think of a reward for yourself...think of the time you save by not smoking (i went outside to smoke, so spent 3 mins, ten times a day out there - now i take a bath and read my book)

Sleep Tight xxx

Lmcream well done sounds like you are well on the road to recovery

Cc, I know, I know. I have been up until now, dealing I mean. It's just been too much this week. Dd starts playgroup for the first time a week on monday which I'm also worried about. My mum's in Norfolk, miles away. My brother's in Birmingham and we don't meet much. dp's estranged from his family.

Thanks cc. I will go for a kip now. I need to clear my brain. I don't have any fags here, dp's been smoking more while he's under this pressure so I've nicked his. If I were to go and buy a pack I'd feel I've REALLY failed.

Speak later maybe. I'm so so so sorry to be a downer when there's you and two other new quitters with such positive stories.

Dont apologise, this is the reality of addiction to the old weed. xx

i have tried loads of times, been off about 4 months now, lot like lmmcream, after break ups with bfs i went to pieces and smoked, used all those patchs and medications, yet when i tried the last time, succesfully, it was a clean break without all the 'help'. it worked better in my case, think the tiny does of nicotine they pumped into my body just made me want more!

none was hard but worth it. anyone else done it that way?