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[charliecat]

Theres a few quitters here.
Im charliecat and have been fag free for about 9 months after a good couple of years of trying.
Come and chat your smoking fears away!

Your mum, cc! How depressing for you. Does she realise the irony of telling you all that while puffing away ...

We had a talk. What a relief. Cc, once again though inadvertently this time, you inspired me! What you said yesterday about massage, talk, support etc.? Well, I started thinking of how to approach him in a way that wouldn't send him scuttling off. So I approached him 'academically'. Sounds mad, huh? But we 'analysed' what's happening with him / us / everything. It was neutral, guilt-free, and went on for 2 hours! It helped massively, we're MUCH more friendly today.

LEEEAAADDEEERRRRR

LOL MLL... Glad things are better today, not all you need is a spreadsheet on Lovin and youll be away

Hee hee, cc! Alas, he's old-school academic, spread sheets don't come into it, more underlined passages in relevant books.

I am SOOOO nervous about dd starting playgroup tomorrow. Any words of advice from my smokeless buddies?

Oh cute! Playgroup is a lovely time. Are you staying with her for the first few sessions, mll?

SM I'm going to stay tomorrow and then see how it goes. I think I've got to leave her fairly quickly as she's a bit of a limpet when I'm around. I so hope she enjoys it!

I'm sure she will. Expect up to a fortnight or so of separation distress before worrying. May not happen but normal if does. Is she 2.5 or 3?

3 on 10 October. How old are your(s)?

twin boys of 6 here.

I think it's good that she's closer to 3. I think a few 2 - 2.5 y.o.s can be genuinely not ready for playgroup whereas most rising 3s will settle well once they get used to it.

MLL-Good Luck with DD today! Hope it goes well and she enjoys herself!

Me too.

Good Luck MLL...there was a new little boy who hadnt been to playgroup in dds2s class today and he was covering his eyes wailing Nooooooooo Nooooooooooooooooo Nooooooooooooooooooo. Please persevere no matter how cling-on she is.
After age 5 I left my dd1 at partys on her own because if I stay she falls over crys and whinges and is unconsolable, if I am not there she falls gets up and gets on with it. Easier for us both.
Fingers crossed for you xxx

good luck with playgroup mll!

ps. my dh has quit smoking

OMG FG...hes trying isnt he?
We all need to get it firmly in our heads there is no one, you cant just some 1 fag, you have got to stop. Full Stop None of this buggering about
My mum was saying that she spent 3 hours with my schizophrenic brother yesterday, hes very hard work, just rants about the foriegn legion over and over again...anyway, she saw him and didnt take her fags with her. She thought of the worst scenario there was, spending time with him without smoking and accieved it. I said Fantastic but honestly the only was to do it is to just stop. It really really is.
She said Yeah but you stopped loads of times,I said i know, thats why im saying what im saying. Shes trying. I guess. But it is easier to stop than be haunted by your own actions.

You're right as always, cc. The guilt of smoking ruins the pleasure of it every time.

So we did the first morning. I stayed but sat on a chair in the corner and tried very hard not to get involved. I told dd I wasn't allowed to move from the chair . She still came to me whenever she needed a wee / had a minor conflict with another child etc. but I told her she had to go to one of the teachers. It was ok really I think, I won't really know until I leave her alone tomorrow . She certainly isn't as confident as the other 3 new girls today who all waved goodbye to their mums and got stuck in! Mind you, one of them wet herself and was a bit of a lost soul the whole time and the other one cried for about an hour. One of them was amazing though, very secure.

Awwwwwwwww not too bad then? It would be odd iof she didnt come back to you for reassurance/assistance IYKWIM. Not sure my dd would have left my legs at that age.
I have had a lovely soak in the bath, this is my first kiddie free day, dd2 started school full time today

OMG cc!!! So did mine. After 4 weeks of half days I think she was ready. I felt a bit emotional about it at w'end but fine today - mainly cos we were in a horrendous panicky rush to get up the damn road to school! So no time for tears.

That sounds pretty positive mll - in some ways I think it's harder for them if we're there, and of course she's gonna come to you when she needs something... good luck for tomorrow xxxx

Thanks guys. I'll report on tomorrow when it's happening probably!

fg, how's your dh doing?

Wow, cc, I didn't know your dd2 was that age I thought she was closer to my dd's age. I hope all goes well for her, and for your dd fg.

Hi ladies!

Still no smoking here, though it's a real nightmare. Not too bad during the day co I can keep busy, but come the evening - which was my fave ciggie time - I get bored, angry and drunk. I hate this cos when I do smoke I want to stop, and when I stop, I want to smoke.

big big big big sympathies evansmummy. Have you tried long long lazy baths, treating yourself to mags, lovely smelling oils etc - I do find slathering nice smellies all over myself a big help. (and wine too of course). It WILL get much easier soon. Have had bad cravings after my recent lapses - am trying not to drink in the week as well, which is no bloody fun, usually crumble by thursday.

ta mll, dd seems fine, v happy to be at skool.

How was second day MLL?

Better, thanks, drop. Actually I've got a thread about it to save boring you all with it on this one!

Here it is the latest in the trials of mummy long legs!

Lordy Lou, where is everyone?

dunno... hope evansmummy isn't 'avin' a fag!