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[charliecat]

Theres a few quitters here.
Im charliecat and have been fag free for about 9 months after a good couple of years of trying.
Come and chat your smoking fears away!

OOOps erm, well i went to a hypnotist but still wanted to smoke and bawled my eyes out hysterically down the phone saying OMG I only want to stop smoking but my brains still telling me to smoke and I had no option really except to just not smoke. id tried EVERYTHING at this point and there was no other thing to try. So hypnosis and cold turkey.

emmasmummy, we have tooo much in common, its freaky...

MLL - everyone goes through rough patches, and its understandable that you want to smoke. I may get my head bitten off for this, but here goes... maybe now isnt a good time to quit - it may be better for you short-term just to put it out of your head. No point in stressing yourself out more than you need to right now.

Of course, if you know in yourself that now is the right time to quit, we will all support you as best we can.

lmccrean, you get my birthday invite? sorry everyone if im goin opptopic.

you need to be in the rite frame of mind to stop, if you have worries, stress it just doesnt work, the cravings eat away at you and just add to the stress, it was only when i was ready in my mind that it worke cold turkey. fact.

Ah, I do, to a certain extent agree with you, but I also know that if you THINK those fags that you had in your moment of need helped and were beneficial it means the next time theres a crisis your going to reach for the fags.
You have confimed in your mind you can only not smoke when life is easy and rolling along smoothly...which isnt the case.

mll - I know I squeak from being so clean, but if you want to chat here or in another thread, or by e-mail, I'm happy to be on the other end of a keyboard. Post / link here so I can find you, or do a namechange and then post on my latest thread and I'll come chat. Maybe some other MNers could offer useful advice / suggestions or just a place to let off some (100% water, 0% smokey) steam.

hub2dee, you put us to shame. Should have said the same MLL, feel free to email me @ [email protected] if you want to let off about anything. I was going to offer to baby sit when I first read your post but thought that was a bit insane from a virtual stranger.
However the offer is there.

nonsense cc... just got a big gob and a soft spot for the long legged one. Plus she (the cat's mother) was doing so damned well, I'd be pleased to help her get back on track.

mll: told ya to be careful of dp's fags ! Hope you're doing a tad better and than any Serious Chats go well.

Things are still pretty dire, no breakthroughs really with dp. I asked him straight if he wanted me to go and he said he didn't want to be without dd but couldn't bring himself to include me. Not sure what to do. Haven't smoked yet today. I'm in a crap mood but dd's been gorgeous and kept me going. I'd love a smoke.

Thanks for all concern though, I appreciate it (except yours hub, of course, ). Will post in a bit more detail when I'm a bit less grotty.

Tongue of razor wire, that woman.

Well: Impressed no smokes by 2:34. That must have taken some doing.

Chats with dp sound ominous and totally horrid.

You mentioned stuff about his job / "help dp out of his situation".... I presume the real stress here is coming from him having a hard time with something... what's the chance of that getting sorted ?

MLL-would you like another visit this week to get you out of the house? Even if ds1 is at nursery, you are free to come over any day,(only can't do Thursday)-I have big ears and perhaps the more I get to see your dd,the higher the probability that I could babysit in the future for you??
If you are not up for that,give me an email and tell me whats been up-you sound really down and I would love to help even if it is just to listen,eh?
(I'm not even going to mention the fags-we've all done it)

Good Luck too for anyone who's little one's are off to school today! Keep positive and think of all that "me" time you could fill with all the things you don't normally do!

Finally back from our computerless housesit. It was an awfull three weeks without MN or Sky and full of smoking.

I re-read Easyway, though, and as of today....."Yippee, I'm a non-smoker!!" I feel slightly more positive this time, though I know it's only the first day, and it only gets harder...

Mll, it's horrible to listen to you sounding so sad. That's not the mll I've come to know and love . I'm not sure what's happening, I've only been away 3 weeks but it feels like a lifetime, but I'l be thinking of you and hoping all is well.

Remember, though, that nicotine is never a pleasure. As cc says, it only serves to make us feel more stupid, more weak and completely foolish. There can be no comfort in killing ourselves and spending huge amounts of money. As you said to me, think of your dd!!

Day two-its hard,its tough but boy will it be worth it-you probably feel like shit and want to commit hare kare but hey,we are here-so COME BACK o SKULKING ONE-you can make friends and influence people on here-seriously-its an ongoing battle that I would say will see us through into the middle of next year and beyond but its worth it because even if you don't succeed,we don't care-we just want you to try and try again-just keep on trying-ok?

Evening all. Good to see you back drop, did you have a good time?

Good to hear from you too, em! Shall we battle on together with this one? I'm fighting the nicotine fight but it's incredibly tough. Had a nice breakthrough from dp tonight though. He's been furious and silent with me for a week but tonight he cleaned the flat and while I was putting dd to bed connected to MN for me, left me a cool bottle of beer, a bowl of crisps, the t.v. panel and paper next to the computer!

wow mll. thats a change, what was he furious for?
if i dont come back itsc oz im on phpone

Thanks dropinthe. Glad i took a paddle, it's given me the motivation to not smoke tonight when i was so convinced i would give in.

I'll pop in again tomorrow & report progress-keep going everyone.

mll- I'm in awe at you climbing back on the quit wagon when things have been so stressful. What a brilliant star you are. So glad to hear things are getting a bit better for you and dp.

I've just got back from my holidays where, luckily, there were nil temptations, so it'll be 6 fag free weeks tomorrow. I feel things are going well but will have to watch out when I start fraternising with friend smokers again.

You too noughtsandcrosses. The first few days are TOUGH. How many were you on beforehand? I think day 3 was the one where I went doolally.

cc, a long long story, he felt I'd let him down. But it was blown out of proportion because he's under massive stress. We both are. Life's quite tough for us at the moment, it has been for a while. Sometimes we pull together and others we drive each other nuts and the similarities in our personalities make it impossible to see a way forwards. If that makes sense? Things are still very shaky. But at least he's offered a hand of friendship. I'll find it hard to forgive him telling me to leave though...

Well done SM. I'm so far from 'over it' though. I've had a fag today. BUT my mind is telling me this isn't a slippery slope, it's a stupid glitch.

mummylonglegs-I smoke on average 12/day. Though if it's a saturday & i'm out drinking that can become 40. Am dreading tomorrow, wish me luck.

Well, under the circumstances I think you're doing brilliantly. It's pretty hard to prioritise giving up nicotine when things are feeling rough and raw and difficult. I hope things with your dp will improve.