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[charliecat]

Theres a few quitters here.
Im charliecat and have been fag free for about 9 months after a good couple of years of trying.
Come and chat your smoking fears away!

Thanks SM

Good luck noughtsandcrosses! You CAN do it, you CAN!!!

Morning all!
MLL fancy a visit?-I want to get out of the house-I could drive to you?

FIL just turned up! Where is everyone today? Chuffing??

Sorry drop, I usually don't get a chance to look on MN in the morning, dd's lunchtime's my first visit. But I'd love to see you again soon.

I'm fagless today. Craving. Mad, isn't it, how a few days can set you off so quickly? Scary ...

Well done for keeping off the cancer sticks-remember them for what they are,eh?
I know they seem like a crutch but that is the nature of the beast-we think they are fab,we want them really badly,they make us whole but at the end of the day-they kill!

I know, drop, I know. I didn't actually this time ever feel like I'd really start smoking again. I don't think I could now, my mind's too aware of what smoking does to you. But I did find it hard to resist one when my nerves were so shattered. Things are really tough at the moment. I need to find a big stack of inner strength, but all I really feel like doing is curling up under the duvet. Which is where I'm headed now while dd kips ...

... zzz ...

Talk to you later-chin up-remember my tel number,eh??

Ccat-seen you lurking on another thread-wanna come to my party??

Missed it drop! I am snowed under with kids and uniform and trying to keep ontop ogf th echatic shit hole that is my house.
big wave from me

Who read about the woman who developed lung cancer seven years after giving up?
And I thought I was in the clear after 6 months.....

No, where was the article?
I have given it thought, I have smoked my lungs balck over 10+ years and theres a chance one of those evil cancer sticks has done me some damage. BUT I would much rather fight cancer as a nonsmoker than as a struggling to stop smoking with all the guilt that it entails. How about you guys?

Ditto-found out about yet another member of the family who has lung cancer today-FIL's SIL!
Bloody evil disease-it has definitely come to that prophetic time when everyone of us will know someone who has died from it.
It makes me so bloody !

drop, it's a nightmare thought that 'the damage is done' isn't it? I mean, that we might get lung cancer anyway ... I worry about it as I've been asthmatic since I was a baby so my lungs have never been great. BUT it's no reason not to quit. As cc says, you wouldn't want to face the stress of a horrible illness at the same time as having to quit. And at least we'll know we did stop even if it was too late.

My grandfather on my mum's side was a miner and smoked about 60 a day, they all did, it was one of the only ways they could cope with such a job. Amazingly he was fine all his life, despite breathing in all the crap from the mines AND smoking. He quit the day he retired, just like that, he said 'we can't afford it any more' (he was a tough cookie!) and then 5 years later died of bloody lung cancer. Ironic and horrible isn't it?

My dad was also a heavy smoker and went onto smoking pipes when he was in his late 50s (I remember the smell to this day), then gave up altogether in his early sixties. He never got a smoking-related illness and died aged 69 of totally different causes. But my mum's sister who is 10 years younger than my mum smoked about 40 a day filterless fags (UGH), even through her pregnancies and is now virtually incapacitated her breathing's so bad.

It's mad and frustrating what these damned sticks can do to you. I'm glad to be fighting them even when it's hard.

Oh mll haven't been on here for a while and have just caught up with what's going on with you... so sorry you and dp are having such a hard time. fags won't make a blind bit of difference or help in the slightest but it's instinctive in bad situations, isn't it - to grab one and stuff it in the gob. Please be strong mll. I hope things get better for you and your dp soon xxxx

On happier note... welcome to new quitters, you'll find loads of inspiration on here...
(but, ahem, not from me I fear)...
Have also crumbled lately, after months of being fag free. Had a pile of fags last weekend. My old 'weak spot' - sitting talking with dh late at night over glass of wine, eyeballing his packet, him smoking away in front of me at our kitchen table - I don't know WHY I did it, just grabbed one and then had more and more (of course). Have had none since sunday night & am feeling more on top of it again.

If it's any excuse, dh has been working 70-odd hours a week and have been doing the whole kid-thing singlehandedly, making lunchboxes at 10pm, dragging dustbin out to pavement at midnight etc... no excuse, but there you go!

(have mercy, charliecat!!!)

Thanks fg. You'll get full mercy from me of course. My dp works about the same hours EVERY bloody week. I sometimes feel so overwhelmed with my lack of time and energy. Lately I've been thinking I'm going to have a stroke or something I've been so exhausted and stressed. And how the hell you manage to not succumb to a smoke when someone's right in front of you with a pack and a glass of wine is beyond me. I don't allow dp to smoke at home at all. Even still when I see a pack sticking out of his jacket pocket my fingers feel itchy to pinch one ...

Cc, on a totally different note, would you be prepared to throw in a professional comment on my thread (on education board) about whether or not to settle a child into pre-school / playgroup? Dd starts next Monday and I'm getting confused ...

...leader... ?

here cc

mll,
Feel bad for moaning re dh's working hours as it's really just been the last month or so when he's been coming home late at night, doing weekend work at the office etc. Normally he's out of the house from 8 am till about 8 pm which I thought was bad enough! It's no wonder you're so exhausted if your dp's working these hours all the time. Apart from doing every practical house-y thing yourself I'd imagine it's hard not having him around as much as you'd like, just to talk to and about offload about the day. It might sound trite and really obvious but when we lived in London I found the vast range of groups, meetings & kiddie related activities a complete life saver in giving me stimulating company & structure to the week (but I was a f/t mum at that time).

btw when my dd started playgroup she cried quite a bit for first few visits, then settled in fine and loved it. I did think, 'why the hell am I putting her/myself through this? but in just a few visits it was fine, she loved the activities, and it became obvious that she was ready for other experiences. She made lovely friendships there, which have endured through nursery and into school.

mll can you just copy anpaste that, my pcs not doing links ATM

I will post on the thread so you can see it CC!

I'm a bit peeved today-just got back from getting my results of my MRI scan,(or lack of-they hadn't been written up yet),and have been told that it is 90% certain that I have ruptured my main ligament in my knee.This means that at some time in the future I will have to have reconstructive surgery to build a new one which means taking my knee apart!
The good news is that until my knee starts giving way on me,(can't wait!),I won't have to have the operation.I am now more inclined to develop arthritis 10-20 years earlier than normal and I have a high chance that my knee will pop out at any time,(back to the bad news).
I must now carry on with life in loads of pain and, in time, this should get less as the swelling goes down and my knee gets used to moving like it used to.
Am V pissed off! Was hoping for some immediate relief from some keyhole surgery but its not to be.I have to take painkillers at present at least 3 times a day,(once at night),and I have an awful nights sleep most nights.
Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!

I'm turning into my mother!!

Somebody put me down please-literally!

drop, what awful news! and all because of an accident. They do tend to give you a worst case scenario though sometimes. You were nipping around pretty much ok when I saw you

fg, yes, it's nuts how much dp works, I barely see him. First thing in the morning for half an hour, last thing at night for half an hour. On a Sunday he works from home so he's around but not really 'present' if you see what I mean? He may join us for dinner in the evening, depending on his schedule. Drives me nuts. All major decisions / events with dd are me alone. Her starting playgroup next week is me alone I don't think he's spared it much thought. Her birthday coming up is me alone, I'm hoping he'll take the day off for her party!

Sorry drop, that sounds pretty patronising of me, just because you could walk with a slight limp doesn't mean you're 'pretty much ok' does it?

Ever the positive,MLL! Thats how you cope I think,eh?

I haven't even got a limp anymore-it just hurts after the end of the day when I lay down or if I drive/walk too much.Its just a pain in the leg!!