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Half way through Year 13 and the last school year.

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OhYouBadBadKitten · 14/02/2018 20:14

eep.

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Nettleskeins · 18/02/2018 17:52

fantasy well done your dd for switching phone off. Very strong.

I've made an enormous batch of minestrone with old vegetables. two boys watching football in the room next door. Ds is as usual in his room, probably watching something unrelated to his schoolwork Sad He had lunch with us in his dressing gown. I think our house is his "lair" certainly he never brings anyone back here. Dd has gone to a birthday party of course, despite only just coming back from a ski-trip with school, she seems to be entirely sociable compared to her older brother.

Icouldbeknitting · 18/02/2018 18:11

Derek when DS is down then there is no good in the world, it's all bleak, will always be bleak, woe etc. Two hours later he can be laughing and saying that the worst is behind us. Whichever state he's in, he can't reflect on the other. I find it really difficult to relate to.

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OhYouBadBadKitten · 18/02/2018 18:12

Five weeks Fantasy? Is it study leave after that? That seems scarily close.

dds college seem to teach right up to the exams.

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Nettleskeins · 18/02/2018 18:21

I think the state schools have funding which reflects teaching hours or hours spent supervised in school. I know this because when I tried to take ds out for extra tuition they refused, and said he would have to enrol in exams privately if I disobeyed the rules on attendance. I don't think there is any study leave until the exams actually start. It is even scarier...but I suppose it does mean that ds gets out of bed every morning Hmm like some clockwork zombie (learning little and listening less)

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OhYouBadBadKitten · 18/02/2018 18:27

oh, ok. I'm glad that she will be getting teaching to the end. It worked well for AS levels.

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FantasyAndHope · 18/02/2018 18:27

Kitten
Her school have said 5 weeks of actual lessons and then it’s revision till may half term and then study leave
But fingers crossed when it’s revision in lessons they’ll be too stressed to give her grief

I read the messages and there’s stuff like you’ll fail in London etc
You’ll never get friends like us
So so petty we laughed over it

Nettleskeins · 18/02/2018 18:28

Just talking to my mother about ds, and listening to myself be all obsessive and hearing her response, well it doesn't matter if he goes next year in two years three years, I sort of remembered how it is when you listen to people talking about whether their five year olds can read properly yet, to them it is the whole world but as you get older these things seem less time limited, and so many things happen that affect people's lives, a detailed analysis of uni applications are not really the most important. Grin On the other hand she was obsessing about who was going to wash the kitchen floor before she had a knee operation, so I suppose there is not much in it..!

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OhYouBadBadKitten · 18/02/2018 18:28

It's good that she will be able to leave them all behind Fantasy.

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Littledrummergirl · 18/02/2018 18:29

Derek that must be really hard. I don't have any advice I'm afraid just a hand to hold. You are doing so well. Flowers

Littledrummergirl · 18/02/2018 18:32

Fantasy that's dreadful. It's good that you can both laugh at the comments. I hope these next few weeks fly by for her.

FantasyAndHope · 18/02/2018 18:37

Everything in their lives is sugar coated and made pretty and nice
And dd just won’t do this she says it how it is...
There’s one where a girls said admit your a bitch please
And dd was like if being honest makes me a bitch I’ll wear the badge proud...
It’s pettiness, what’s okay for them to do is not okay if dd does it to them. It’s rather ironic and slightly moronic Hmm

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OhYouBadBadKitten · 18/02/2018 18:40

That's so difficult Derek. I'm not sure what I can say, other than it's bloody hard being a Mum sometimes.

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derekthe1adyhamster · 18/02/2018 19:42

Nettles - you are so right. It doesn't matter in the long run. I know it doesn't matter but it seems harder when there is an outside force. Wasn't it so much easier when you were their whole world!

I am going to try really hard to stay out of things. He doesn't want my involvement and as long as he knows I'm on his side if he needs me, that's all that matters.

However it does seem that he has a crush on his biology tutor. Maybe she can knock some sense into him!

Fantasy - great that your DD can rise above her bullies. Sadly it does seem for many kids they are just doing what they can to get to the end of the year.

Knitting - I agree things are rarely just OK when you are a teenager!

chocolateworshipper · 18/02/2018 19:56

Fantasy girls can be so utterly awful can't they Sad

I typed up what DD's timetable will look like when she's finished subject 1 which will be soon - it really cheered her up and will hopefully give her the motivation needed to crack on with the coursework

flatmouse · 18/02/2018 20:41

Student finance applied for. I see accommodation could be applied for since dec - guess he'll apply after applicant day.
Tutor positive about subject, really focussing DS on time left and organising and what to do.
DS worked well today. But that's one day!

LoniceraJaponica · 18/02/2018 22:05

Fantasy sorry to hear your daughter is having a tough time. I don't understand why some girls can be so bitchy. DD is getting a hard time from a girl who she used to be friendly with - the reason being that DD consistently gets higher grades than her in the subject they both do together Hmm. It is so petty and immature. The girl retaliates by behaving in a passive aggressive manner towards her. Even the teachers have noticed.

puppypower1 · 18/02/2018 23:53

Sorry to hear about the problems some DC are having. They have enough on their plate with studying without bitching, bullying and the complexities of teenage relationships.

DS has finished the course in 2 subjects and has a few topics left in the other. Coursework is "done........except tidying up the referencing stuff"........ so get on and do it --aaargh!!

More mocks at the end of the week and next week. Wineanyone?

LoniceraJaponica · 19/02/2018 06:33

DD hsd mocks in December and has more after Easter. At least it will force her to revise over the holidays.

MsAwesomeDragon · 19/02/2018 07:40

Dd had mocks in January. They haven't finished the course in anything yet. Maths have them doing an extra lesson after school, yet devote one of their timetabled lessons to revision for a resit for one of last year's modules, which not everyone is doing. Surely it makes more sense to do that resit lesson in the after school slot!

Back to school after half term today. I don't want to go :(

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OhYouBadBadKitten · 19/02/2018 08:10

Short term this term MrsAD, chin up. You can do this.

I've had a few days off. I don't want to work either. waaaah.

By Easter dd will have finished all her coursework including her EPQ. Thank goodness.

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Nettleskeins · 19/02/2018 08:40

ds has gone off to school bright and cheery. Then 15 mins later he returns, having forgotten his memory stick.
Two kids out of the house, one remains (has sore throat after night out and ski-trip)
Trying to pluck up the courage to gut ds's room today, it is beyond depressing.
Spent all night worrying about unconditionals and uni accommodation Grin campus v halls off campus, money, ensuite bathrooms, train travel v nearer uni with more expensive accommodation, pressing the firm button...daylight brings more clarity Smile
So if it costs £50 for a return ticket to uni (that's prebooked with railcard) v £10 to other uni (there is a convenient bus that takes an hour to London) yet the accommodation costs nearly £2,000 more how much money does ds save, or put it another way, how many trips home from uni would he need to make to erase the saving? Also taking into account that he would be able to have more weekend visits and save money on food if he eats at home at weekend occasionally if at nearer uni (with more expensive accommodation) Also taking in account that I would need train journey to visit him at cheaper uni if things went wrong, and that would cost ME lots of money...

is anyone comparing accommodation costs when deciding on unis?

UrsulaPandress · 19/02/2018 08:43

No. it's just too much to think about.

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OhYouBadBadKitten · 19/02/2018 09:39

dd has strictly gone for the best course she can in a place she feels that she would like to live in. She went on various visits and came back saying 'nope' and awful lot and thus she narrowed down her choices rapidly.

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FantasyAndHope · 19/02/2018 09:48

Thanks derek,chocolate,Lonicera

Dd has texted 4 of the girls are not in and have had arguments with other girls in the year, it seems they can’t bear to show their faces Hmm
Dd is not phased by it she said someone one day will give them a good slap and won’t be as tolerable as me, she’s right I think. They have a sharp shock of reality coming for them

LoniceraJaponica · 19/02/2018 09:51

At least she doesn't have to put up with their shit for too long. I hope she does well in spite of them Fantasy