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Half way through Year 13 and the last school year.

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OhYouBadBadKitten · 14/02/2018 20:14

eep.

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TheSecondOfHerName · 31/03/2018 02:16

DS1 just phoned to say he has been mugged. Sad Thankfully he is uninjured. He had walked through the worst bit of town with friends, but then they separated to go home in different directions.

I've mentioned the crime levels in our local town centre on here before; there are regular fights and stabbings and occasional fatalities, which is why DS1 had a curfew of 1am until he was 18.

Luckily he still has his phone, so he was able to call us. DH has gone to pick him up, and will encourage him to report it to the police.

UrsulaPandress · 31/03/2018 08:37

Oh no. How bloody awful. Dd left her car at the tram stop the other evening where a car was recently hijacked. I insisted she offered a friend a lift home so she wouldn't be alone. Although I didn't settle until she text to say they were safely in the car.

Hope your son is ok and that it hasn't knocked his confidence too much.

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OhYouBadBadKitten · 31/03/2018 09:08

oh no TheSecond, that's awful :( Your poor ds. I hope he's ok. I hope you are too. I hate them being out late at night, but what can you do?

That's pretty scary Ursula.

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TheSecondOfHerName · 31/03/2018 10:12

He has gone to work this morning by is quite shaken and subdued. At first he thought they were messing around, but then they surrounded him and he realised they were serious.

He had less than £5 in his wallet but unfortunately had both his house key and his provisional driving licence (with his address on). DH changed the locks before we went back to bed.

starfleet · 31/03/2018 11:27

I hope your DS is OK - what a horrible thing to happen to him.

Our town isn't much better at the moment 🙁.

HesMyLobster · 31/03/2018 13:06

Second that is horrible, your poor DS Thanks

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OhYouBadBadKitten · 31/03/2018 13:30

Poor lad. Good for him for going into work. That's must be worrying for all of you.

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Nettleskeins · 31/03/2018 17:20

second that is so frightening Sad Brilliant of your dh to change the locks. I'm so glad he isn't physically hurt, but still so scary for him. Adrenaline takes you through, and then a while after you realise what you went through/survived.

derekthe1adyhamster · 31/03/2018 17:26

Your poor Ds, that has to be one of my worst nightmares. I wonder if there is anyway around the key + driving licence issue for the future... I hope it hasn't knocked his confidence too much Flowers

FantasyAndHope · 31/03/2018 21:03

Your poor DS second
I live near a river and there has being several attacks recently dd always walks home With her key in her hand as you never know who’s about
Good idea to change locks

Littledrummergirl · 31/03/2018 22:02

Second, that's a horrible thing to happen. I hope he's recovered a bit now. Flowers

Icouldbeknitting · 31/03/2018 23:38

TheSecond I am sorry to hear that, it must have been a really bad night for all of you.

I walked with DS across town one Saturday night to a concert. I would have been invisible to the drinking hordes, I'm of the age to be totally unnoticed, but it's a different environment for a late teen boy.

ShanghaiDiva · 01/04/2018 04:39

Second
How frightening, glad you son is okay, although must be very shaken.

TheSecondOfHerName · 01/04/2018 09:48

Thank you for all your kind thoughts.
He suffers from anxiety anyway, and this hasn't helped (he has started getting panic attacks again).
I'm quite glad he has two weeks off school now, so can take his time to recover and regain confidence about going out.

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OhYouBadBadKitten · 01/04/2018 11:00

I think even very robust people would be having panic attacks. I hope time heals this one quickly. Has he got supportive friends?

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FantasyAndHope · 01/04/2018 13:53

Oh dear second on a different scale but look how it affected Kim K she suffered with anxiety for months after
Best to keep an eye on him?

Currently having summer discussions with dd and she’s torn between working all summer to get money for London or doing a mix of working and being lazy

TheSecondOfHerName · 01/04/2018 14:08

Thankfully his friends are v.supportive. He came to church with me this morning which is good.

Nettleskeins · 01/04/2018 15:34

managed to get two children to church this morning but sadly not ds1. They all appear to be atheists anyway as they spend a lot of time debunking various things in the Bible as scientifically proven to be x y z and NOT "miracles". It's the age, so it is no point arguing with them, I smile sweetly. However, in honour of chocolate, all three had an Easter Egg hunt this afternoon in the house, gosh they are all unobservant, we find mini eggs for days afterwards Hmm
ds1 seems to have a revision schedule and is actually reading through the set texts (a bit late [snort] but he is getting up extremely late every day. But exams again from Tuesday so I suppose he has to take his lie-ins where he can Hmm

Ds2 and I have been watching Charlie and the Chocolate Factory with Gene Wilder.

raspberryrippleicecream · 02/04/2018 10:21

The second how awful for him and you.

DD still seems mired down in History coursework, so not much revision is happening. She still has her English to polish off too. She is spending hours and hours on it.

Advice for Y12. I tried to encourage DD to look at different unis in good time. DS1 had found it useful, and been self-motivated to do it. DD has had a different path and hence has still an applicant's open day 300 miles away towards the end of April.

I'd still stick with do it early if at all possible!

What has been positive for DD was booking her driving theory exam as she started her practical lessons. This was in summer so she then gave herself an intensive theory course and passed in a couple of weeks.

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OhYouBadBadKitten · 02/04/2018 10:25

Advice I'd give for Year 12 is to look early for any summer schemes they may be interested in. Some of the deadlines are pretty tight.

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UrsulaPandress · 02/04/2018 11:51

We are the same raspberry. History coursework still at planning stage but English coursework still not signed off. She wants me to read it.

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OhYouBadBadKitten · 02/04/2018 13:26

Good luck Ursula!

Lots of step maths practise here going on. Fortunately it's going really well - it's turning out not to be as fearsome as its reputation, and with the addition of chocolate, it's a pretty happy mood here.

I find it amazing how the colour of one person's mood in the house affects the rest of us so much.

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HesMyLobster · 02/04/2018 13:47

Well Done to your DD Kitten, step sounds horrific to me!
DD's friend has been practising but says it's the worst thing he's ever done. Made DD very relieved she didn't end up choosing to study maths!
DD is revising hard, in between extra shifts at work. She was up at 6 this morning so she could get in a couple of hours before her shift, big family dinner with the in laws tonight so she knew she wouldn't get any time for study after work.

Has anybody else started having 'The Dreams' yet?
I have had the first couple this week and remember them so clearly from GCSEs.
I think they'll be worse this time round with one doing A levels and one doing GCSEs at the same time.
Mainly focused around DDs oversleeping and being late for exams etc.

Wake up at 2am in a total panic and then can't get back to sleep.
Lots of sleepless nights ahead for the next few months!

chocolateworshipper · 02/04/2018 13:58

kitten I'm glad that I brought joy to your household

second your poor DS. Fantastic that his friends are being supportive though.

I am glad to report that DD seems to have accepted that she will need to go back into college for the one subject.

UrsulaPandress · 02/04/2018 17:57

I dreamt last night that DH had cleared out DD's playroom/study.

Sadly it was just a dream.