Can anyone help
struggling big time with a 13 yr old girl I’ve had with me since beg of September
she is mixed race and whilst agreeing fi come to us a white family challenges me on race all the time.
make makes comments about white race thsr could make her sound racist.
she cont picks arguments or try’s to. She loves drama and will delight in it. she is extremely clever so knows exact what she is doing. She says she sees this as a place to stay not a home and the new school she’s has to start she refuses to make any friends.
it’s all so hard. I don’t want to give in and give notice because it will show rejection again to her and she’s been through so much - but im Not enjoying the placement and nothing is seeming to work.
does anyone have a mixed race black child in a white family or any tips for hormonal traumatised teens
ive asked for support from sw but there is not a lot in my area
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Foster29 · 08/11/2023 09:36
JamSandle · 08/11/2023 10:00
She sounds very ungrateful. Is this a placement you want to continue with?
TheChristmasPig · 08/11/2023 10:30
Of course the OP knows that teenagers push buttons she is an experienced foster carer. She is seeing something different in this child.
JamSandle · 08/11/2023 10:00
She sounds very ungrateful. Is this a placement you want to continue with?
Foster29 · 08/11/2023 16:37
I never said I expected her to feel greatful ?
I ve done all the courses understand Trauma stress etc. I was reaching out to see if others were in the same situation and could offer tips etc
ive just been criticised and frowned on for saying how it really is and trust me there a lot more that she’s done etc. but I can’t put it out here.
JamSandle · 08/11/2023 10:00
She sounds very ungrateful. Is this a placement you want to continue with?
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