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Mixed race in whole family

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Foster29 · 08/11/2023 09:36

Can anyone help
struggling big time with a 13 yr old girl I’ve had with me since beg of September
she is mixed race and whilst agreeing fi come to us a white family challenges me on race all the time.
make makes comments about white race thsr could make her sound racist.
she cont picks arguments or try’s to. She loves drama and will delight in it. she is extremely clever so knows exact what she is doing. She says she sees this as a place to stay not a home and the new school she’s has to start she refuses to make any friends.
it’s all so hard. I don’t want to give in and give notice because it will show rejection again to her and she’s been through so much - but im Not enjoying the placement and nothing is seeming to work.
does anyone have a mixed race black child in a white family or any tips for hormonal traumatised teens
ive asked for support from sw but there is not a lot in my area
thank you for reading

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salsmum · 05/12/2023 15:42

Firstly let me just say that I think foster parent/s and families do an amazing job that is certainly not for the faint hearted in some cases.
I was just thinking are you able to access a black hairdressers/nail bar etc... I'm sure they'll be ladies who will style her hair and also be able to give you tips on skincare etc... let her have corn rows and beads in her hair and compliment her on how wonderful it looks too. Maybe take her to a concert to see a live band/tribute band such as Bob Marley Legends I think once she sees that you are making a huge effort to embrace her black heritage the penny will drop for her I really hope so. Flowers

SomethingMustBeScaringThemAway · 05/12/2023 16:01

Cornrows and Bob Marley?

Seriously?

Seriously??

I’m doing ‘black’ all wrong …

scoobysnaxx · 05/12/2023 17:49

salsmum · 05/12/2023 15:42

Firstly let me just say that I think foster parent/s and families do an amazing job that is certainly not for the faint hearted in some cases.
I was just thinking are you able to access a black hairdressers/nail bar etc... I'm sure they'll be ladies who will style her hair and also be able to give you tips on skincare etc... let her have corn rows and beads in her hair and compliment her on how wonderful it looks too. Maybe take her to a concert to see a live band/tribute band such as Bob Marley Legends I think once she sees that you are making a huge effort to embrace her black heritage the penny will drop for her I really hope so. Flowers

Are you serious?!

There is so so much wrong with everything said here!

If you don't understand why, do some research.

Shocking!

Shawn302 · 07/09/2024 05:52

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