I am fed up of being made to feel like a bad mother...

[fedupofgoody2shoes]

on MN. Most of the time I oove it but recently there have been far too many gasps and rolling eyes (well if we could see each others eyes that is).

Yes - I breastfed and will do again
I use disposable nappies
I used a mixture of homemade food and jars when weaning
I have a freezer with readymeals in it as well as home made meals
My kids have crisps and biscuits

I will never use washable nappies (I have a life)
I will never breastfeed and my bottle fed kids are healthier than some kids I know who were breastfed until they were 2.5. My kids have no allergies at all and that includes ezcema, asthma etc.

Please - give us mums who choose alternative ways a break and stop all this goody 2 shoes attitude with people. there is no need to look down your noses. Not everyone has time to spend washing nappies and cooking all day. Some of us have full time jobs, school runs, house to keep, dancing and swimming lessons, and some people don't take to breastfeeding. If powder milk was so bad they wouldn't sell it!

Please stop making people feel so judged (not all of MN is like this but there are a select few!)

...lovingly fashioned from organic wheat by ethnic Kurds on the cusp of Iftar ( breaking the fast)

That do ya???

is that a general sigh hmc?

At which post, HMC?

As it's you, MD, yes

It's not a personally directed sigh!

I just feel that an important point has been lost in this thread, but am sighing because I haven't the energy to revisit it / articulate it

Oh good

Menstrual blood finger painting credentials still intact.

Phew....

Ew, MD!

HMC...go on, try!

yes go on hmc
can I start a thread entitled - lentil weaver or burger off the pegger? - which are you?
canIcanIcanI??

Dare you, HC, double dare you

I might do actually because I am going off line for a bit....

No I'm not going to attempt it - I'm boring myself with it so won't spread the ennui

Yeah why don't you buffy, it might prove interesting

Actually I do sometimes start a "Help I'm feeling shitty thread". For example these last few days I've not been feeling great myself and I'm pretty sure that has come across on Mumsnet. But lucky no-one seems to have taken particular offence so far.....

It's perfectly ok to raise your hand and say that you've had a bad day and need a bit of sympathy. Might be better than starting other threads just to vent.

You're right, Rhubarb. Fortunately LGJ has started me a nice wallowy thread

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Can't we have another grape stealing thread? I missed the last one and I feel I have a lot to contribute, in particular the importance of making sure the grapes you steal for your child are organic ones.

you could start one franny.

Tis done

I have a feeling I shouldn't be prolonging this rancourous thread but what the hell...

Pruni, I still maintain no-one can make anyone feel bad. We are responsible for our own feelings.

Yes, there are certain subjects which can be painful for some women. (Birthing. Breastfeeding.) IME these subjects are treated with great care and respect, particularly by those who've been fortunate or successful in these areas.

Subjects like food or nappies are different. These are matters of personal choice and if people are happy with their choices then surely there should be no problem.

I am happy with my choice to use washable nappies and cook from fresh. I'm also happy with my choice to leave the kids in the car when I pay for petrol or nip into shops...for example. Some people, it seems, think I'm mad to take such a terrible risk. Their opinion doesn't make me feel bad and if it did I'd change and choose a different path.

Whatever my choice I would never call those people 'sanctimonious', 'smug' or 'self-righteous'. Unless, perhaps, I was sub-conciously unhappy with my own choices.

Sadly though, from your posts, spidermama, it is obvious that you do have some sort of chip on your shoulder (organic of course ). I don't know why - if you truly are happy with your choices. Are the woven nappies and lentils conpensating for some other parenting skills that you feel you are lacking, I wonder?

I do hope though that you're aren't implying that I am unhappy about my lifestyle choices. I suppose I agree with you in one respect - if I thought I was wrong then I would change my ways. Feel free to consider me a bit smug about my choices though. My kids are turning out to be fab :-))

You're wrong logic.
SM is one of the least hung up people on MN.

And you're rather ill mannered as well.

Logic, were you the OP?

what???!!

that is simply untrue, logic.

I'll say it again - apart from the ocasional breastfeeding row and smoking, I have never seen anyone on mn say anything about what anyone else should be doing.

if anyone should feel got at on mn it is us smokers. I'm a smoker. so why don't I feel like I am "made to feel a bad mum"?

hp - that was my thought too, but i was too polite to ask.

LOL SP - because you haven't seen me post about smoking, obv