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The Bluestocking Pub, where we continue to read about gerbils nobly and bravely working undercover in the Fen.

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AsWithGlad · 20/08/2026 15:44

Welcome to The Bluestocking, the best (perhaps only) online women's pub. Nothing in the food or drink can harm you, everything is served by a very enthusiastic crew of gerbils, who enjoy doing this, and any curious menfolk are welcome at the Staunch Ally down the road.

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AnonyMumAuDHD · 25/08/2026 18:45

Not seen @boiledbeetle for a few days? Where are ya?

Am still toying with applying to that Jesus College Research fellowship - and Boily’s encouragement. No flipping idea how you do one of those, but I guess I just wing it right? A £33k stipend would be amazing… no idea whether you pay tax on that or whether deductions are made for student loans. It’s a whole new world after 21 years at home!!

Magpiecomplex · 25/08/2026 18:56

AnonyMumAuDHD · 25/08/2026 18:45

Not seen @boiledbeetle for a few days? Where are ya?

Am still toying with applying to that Jesus College Research fellowship - and Boily’s encouragement. No flipping idea how you do one of those, but I guess I just wing it right? A £33k stipend would be amazing… no idea whether you pay tax on that or whether deductions are made for student loans. It’s a whole new world after 21 years at home!!

I don't think you do pay tax on a stipend, or at least I didn't on the one I had for my PhD. No idea about student loan payments though. My first degree was in the days of grants, and my second was paid for outright because I was lucky enough to be able to do that.

AnonyMumAuDHD · 25/08/2026 19:04

@Magpiecomplex Google isn’t clear. Suggests that post doc stipends might be considered the same as salary. I guess I’ll have to see when I am awarded one 🤣

Just kidding. Am going to google how to write the 500 word statement now… don’t want to bother Dir of Studies given she is worried about her own job atm, but maybe having a successful PhD candidate with an onward placement would be useful on her CV? Not sure if that is how it works? Academic CVs are a different animal to normal ones, aren’t they… will go and consult Dr Google and Prof ChatGTP

Magpiecomplex · 25/08/2026 19:08

AnonyMumAuDHD · 25/08/2026 19:04

@Magpiecomplex Google isn’t clear. Suggests that post doc stipends might be considered the same as salary. I guess I’ll have to see when I am awarded one 🤣

Just kidding. Am going to google how to write the 500 word statement now… don’t want to bother Dir of Studies given she is worried about her own job atm, but maybe having a successful PhD candidate with an onward placement would be useful on her CV? Not sure if that is how it works? Academic CVs are a different animal to normal ones, aren’t they… will go and consult Dr Google and Prof ChatGTP

Academic CVs are monstrous bloated beasts that go on for pages and pages! I have four different CVs - one for academia, one for industry, one for teaching, and a cut-down single paragraph one for funding bids. You do include numbers of PhDs supervised in an academic CV so yes, you would be enhancing hers.

AnonyMumAuDHD · 25/08/2026 19:11

On that basis, I might bother her tomorrow!

Just heard Dolly Parton has died 😢

Magpiecomplex · 25/08/2026 19:12

@AnonyMumAuDHD My PhD stipend was paid through the payroll system and I had to delete it from my tax returns because it went through the system like normal salary, that might be where Google's confusion lies.

EmpressaurusKitty · 25/08/2026 19:15

When I need a 6 digit or 4 digit PIN I use one of the landline numbers my family had when I was a child.

No idea why I still remember them all but I do, & it’s not like anyone’s going to guess them.

Swashbuckled · 25/08/2026 19:16

I liked (it all, obviously) this @MyrtleLion

“Swashbuckled took off the other boot and gave an account of the sail back, which took four sentences and included a squall off Portpatrick that anyone else would have made a chapter of.”

I feel so seeeeen!! 🤣❤️

Swashbuckled · 25/08/2026 19:17

EmpressaurusKitty · 25/08/2026 19:15

When I need a 6 digit or 4 digit PIN I use one of the landline numbers my family had when I was a child.

No idea why I still remember them all but I do, & it’s not like anyone’s going to guess them.

Me too!

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 25/08/2026 19:27

The first one of our home phone numbers that I remember was an exchange name and 3 numbers - Cleehillstone XXX. I still remember that number half a century on, but can I remember dh’s current mobile number? Of course not. 🧑🏻‍🦳

DeanElderberry · 25/08/2026 19:32

sob

The Bluestocking Pub, where we continue to read about gerbils nobly and bravely working undercover in the Fen.
DeanElderberry · 25/08/2026 19:33

They're about to belt out 'Nine to Five'

MyrtleLion · 25/08/2026 19:35

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 25/08/2026 19:27

The first one of our home phone numbers that I remember was an exchange name and 3 numbers - Cleehillstone XXX. I still remember that number half a century on, but can I remember dh’s current mobile number? Of course not. 🧑🏻‍🦳

Edited

It was a brilliant way of telling my brother the password to a document I sent him. Over the phone I said our old home number, including the dialling code. Substitute letters as obvious.

He opened it in five seconds flat.

AnonyMumAuDHD · 25/08/2026 19:35

DeanElderberry · 25/08/2026 19:33

They're about to belt out 'Nine to Five'

That’s what MrAnony said. I think we may have weeks of it, but she was such an incredibly warm, positive and genuinely lovely woman I will take it. The world is a little darker without her in it.

PastaAllaNorma · 25/08/2026 19:45

DeanElderberry · 25/08/2026 19:32

sob

I was coming in to ask to gerbils to do something to in honour of Her Dollyness.

What an amazing woman. ❤️

MyrtleLion · 25/08/2026 19:46

The wake began before anyone thought to call it that, which is usually how these things start at the Bluestocking.

Grog was first through the door of the function room, carrying the good candlesticks, the ones normally kept in the Tunnocks vault for occasions nobody could quite define as an emergency but that felt like one anyway. She set them either side of the record player without a word and stood back, paws folded, the way she stands when she is about to conduct something she considers sacred.

Ginger arrived already crying, one hand full of rhinestones she’d apparently been keeping for exactly this kind of moment, and pressed them into the tablecloth in rough constellations. Nobody asked where the rhinestones had been living until now. It seemed, suddenly, like the wrong question.

Gimlet was behind the bar within minutes, working through a cocktail she refused to name until it was finished, gold and clouded and smelling faintly of peaches, and when she finally poured the first glass she didn’t toast so much as set it down hard enough that the whole room understood the gesture. Nobody’s stomach has ever once complained at the Bluestocking, so the second and third glasses went the same way, and the fourth, and by the fifth round the grief had started doing what grief always does here, turning sideways into something closer to a celebration nobody planned and everybody needed.

Gauge stood at the edges doing what Gauge does when she can’t fix a thing, which was rearranging the chocolate fountain into something more architecturally serious, checking its temper twice, three times, as though precision might hold the room together where sentiment alone could not.

Genial kept trying to say something comforting and kept dissolving into tears halfway through, which somehow made it more comforting, not less. Gossip had already produced a story, fully formed, about the time Dolly supposedly slipped into the pub disguised as a tourist and beat every gerbil at darts without once breaking character, and nobody corrected her, because it felt more true than most things that actually happened.

Gratuity moved along the tables with a jar, not for money this time but for anyone who wanted to leave a coin “for the road, for Dollywood, for wherever the road goes now,” and by the second lap the jar was heavier than it had any right to be.

Clara the capybara had been building since the news broke. By the time the wake was properly underway she’d finished a structure in the corner: part stage, part chapel, part rollercoaster, with a hand-lettered sign that just said SHE BUILT IT HERSELF AND KEPT THE DEED, which is the kind of thing that gets you cheered and then gets everyone crying again inside the same breath.

Rosie sat in the middle of it all letting gerbils lean against her fur one after another, which is its own kind of eulogy.

Colin, in what the pub’s constitutional scholars are already calling a significant development, sat upright through the entire wake without once attempting to leave the room, which several older gerbils described as the most respect Colin has shown to anything since the Spitfire Incident.

Someone put the record on. Nobody danced properly. Everyone danced anyway, badly, on purpose, the way you dance when the point isn’t the dancing.
Glacier arrived last, an hour after everyone else, moving at her usual untouchable pace, and placed a single seed on the makeshift stage without comment. Given what that seed was worth on the current underground exchange, several gerbils had to sit down.

By midnight the toasts had stopped being toasts and become something closer to testimony. Someone always found their way back to the same point: not just the songs, though the songs were reason enough, but the woman who wrote them herself and then made absolutely sure she was the one who owned them. A woman who builds an empire and keeps every brick of it in her own name is not a small thing to grieve, not in a pub built by women and animals who understand exactly how rarely that gets to happen.

The wake didn’t end so much as thin out, gerbil by gerbil, until it was just Grog and the candlesticks and the last of the gold cocktail, and the quiet that comes after a room has said everything it needed to say.

https://myrtlelion.substack.com/p/the-wake-for-dolly-parton

The Bluestocking Pub, where we continue to read about gerbils nobly and bravely working undercover in the Fen.
PastaAllaNorma · 25/08/2026 19:46

AnonyMumAuDHD · 25/08/2026 19:35

That’s what MrAnony said. I think we may have weeks of it, but she was such an incredibly warm, positive and genuinely lovely woman I will take it. The world is a little darker without her in it.

And she taught the children of Rotherham to read through her kindness

Boiledbeetle · 25/08/2026 19:48

DeanElderberry · 25/08/2026 19:32

sob

I'm gutted.

The Bluestocking Pub, where we continue to read about gerbils nobly and bravely working undercover in the Fen.
AnonyMumAuDHD · 25/08/2026 19:52

PastaAllaNorma · 25/08/2026 19:46

And she taught the children of Rotherham to read through her kindness

I had no idea - just googled it. Inspired to set up the Imagination programme in honour of her father who couldn’t read or write. That is a woman who changed the world in her own way. What a legend.

MarieDeGournay · 25/08/2026 19:59

DeanElderberry · 25/08/2026 19:32

sob

Dolly Parton was incomparable.
One of her albums - I think it was the one called 'Little Sparrow' - showed that she was more than the huge C&W/crossover star, but that she was also a direct link to the musical tradition of Appalachia.

Jane Fonda, who co- starred in the film 9 to 5, said that Dolly had taken her and Lily Tomlin to her home in East Tennessee, and the further they went into the mountains, the more Dolly stopped being the famous Dolly and became a woman of the mountains, calling in to little houses and shacks along the way to visit old friends and sing old Appalachian folk songs with them.
It sounded like magic.

Like JKR, Dolly used her fame and her money for good causes - scholarships, free books for children, donations for medical research - she donated $1m towards the development of the Covid vaccine.

She was an amazing woman. RIP.

Deano,do you think the gerbils and capys could do justice to I Will Always Love You, rather than 9 to 5? More in keeping with the mood... 😢

AngleofRepose · 25/08/2026 20:00

@MyrtleLion just a quick pit stop to say thanks for the new chapters and Dolly's wake. Really moving. I feel strangely very sad. She seemed like a genuinely Good Person, and I wish I'd seen her perform. Always meant to, but never got around to it.

DeanElderberry · 25/08/2026 20:04

I'm sure they could do justice to anything, but they think she wrote 9 to 5 for them, poor exploited creatures that they are.

I'll have to re-watch the episodes of the Orville where she becomes an inspiration on a new world.

MarieDeGournay · 25/08/2026 20:05

Such a moving wake for Dolly, beautiful thank you Myrtle.
I'm glad Rosie was there to give hugs - 'A woman who builds an empire and keeps every brick of it in her own name is not a small thing to grieve'💝

AnonyMumAuDHD · 25/08/2026 20:07

Usually watch the Dog House on Ch4 tonight (in tandem with DH in the flat in London, where he takes a punt on which couple cave and take one home)… but my heart is aching too much for Dolly. Can’t bear to watch it tonight as I will be a snotty tear stained mess by the end of it.

Though that sometimes happens anyway.

AnonyMumAuDHD · 25/08/2026 20:11

@Boiledbeetle Missed you, mate.

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