A "real man" treats a woman like a princess!

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If my husband "treated me like a princess" that would be the end of our marriage! I absolutely expect to be treated with respect, but not like some sort of fragile and needy person simply because I'm female!
Why do so many women feel the need to be "looked after" as if they are a child? To me, it screams subservience (but perhaps I am reading more into this than I should do?)

Why do you think princess equates to fragile and needy?

Why do so many women feel the need to be "looked after" as if they are a child?

Becuase they lacked that love in childhood so seek it from romantic partners. Men do this too.

@FloraBotticelli What I mean is...as in "Oh you can't possibly do x because you're a woman."
I do think men that act like this towards women perhaps feel insecure in their own skin - as in, if my woman can do everything, then what's my role?

I don't need to be looked after, but after a lifetime of no one doing it - my parents did the practical stuff, but they weren't great emotionally - I would actually quite like to feel loved and cherished and have my needs put first sometimes, or at least not totally ignored.

@EBearhug Totally understand what you mean and agree. I guess I mean more "Oh you can't do that because you're a woman" type scenario.

Well, I can't direct my piss up a wall, but apart from that, I have to do everything and I'm in a male-dominated job, so no one can say I can't do it because I'm a woman.

It does really depend on your interpretation of “Princess”
Weak, fragile, delicate ? No thanks
Respected as a woman equal to her “princess”? Sure

equal to her “prince” stupid auto complete

Well dont we have to define what we mean by princess in the first place?

@EBearhug You sound fab! I guess I just don't like the typical "gender roles" so often in marriage - the man as "The Provider", the Mrs title, taking his name... the list goes on.
I don't do any of those in my marriage - not that my husband would want me to - but yet he's labelled as a simp and I'm an awkward ball-breaker because we have a very equal marriage.

I mean as in "put on a pedestal".

well I would use the usual expression 'a man is not a plan' but women are desperate for it it seems then blame the man because they are not doing the checklist they have set up for them

@Renabrook Those women who make these "lists" regarding what their man should do for her/what she wants of him/what he has to give her... supposing the shoe was on the other foot?

Luckily we have a host of excellent princesses to pick from. Ain’t no one coddling Prince Anne the Olympic medal winner any time soon! I think her Navy serving husband thinks she is his better if not his equal.

@InterestQ You're right. When I say "princess" I mean women that literally want their men to provide for them, pamper them 24/7, always put the bins out because a woman definitely can't do that etc.

I don’t need to be looked after, and it’s not something I ever looked for in a partner, but I have a husband who loves to look after me.

It makes him happy and I’m inherently bone idle, so it works for us.

I'm happy to be treated that way, provided they realise I can do things for myself too!
It's better than the way many boys and men treat me!

Never trust a man who puts you on a pedestal or treats you like a princess.

If it is not a prelude to love bombing, at best he is idolising the image of you rather than you yourself. If you do not behave like a princess, I suspect it will burst his bubble. It is a sinister way to ensure compliance with his wishes.

@PorgyandBess I bet you're not really bone idle! Do you work, for example?
But if it makes your husband genuinely happy to do things for you (assuming you do really give back at least a bit) then why not? 😀

@blueshoes I totally get what you mean; it can so quickly turn into control.

apologies for the randomness but, I find it a bit creepy the 'stepford wives' lifestyle where a woman is not herself but only exists as an extension of a man, and people who have to be in a relationship or they cant cope, especially ones who can't work because their man does not want them too? Where are their brains?

no one is an island and we do need people around us if we are mentally well but the idea of having to have a man (or the other way) does not sound healthy

Some people have open marriages and it works for them but the idea of ignoring affairs because the man funds your lifestyle is not being a good role model for children

How many children go on to have issues themselves in relationships because of the environment they grow up in

I would never use the word 'princess', because it does sound like someone in a gilded cage.
Looking very pretty but not being allowed to have strong opinions or freely do normal stuff with normal people. And that you'd be observed and looked upon constantly by everyone.

I guess that's just my perception of the concept of princess. But then you could have a warrior princess who's strong and powerful and leads an army? It's just the modern imagery is more princess Di or Kate Mid than Boudicca?

@Renabrook I couldn't agree more with you.
A woman I once knew was aware her husband was having multiple affairs behind her back but accepted it because he was loaded and afforded her a nice lifestyle. He knew she wouldn't leave him so he repeatedly played away. She goes on the most luxurious holidays and has an absolutely stunning home wthout much effort on her part, but can she really be happy? Her kids also know about their father. What example is that setting them?

people are so desperate for a baby that TTC seems to be a sport these days, but then once the babies get over the cute phase it feels sometimes children have fulfilled their need to be an accessory so it just stops and all sensible thoughts to what is best for children they chose to have goes out the window

Unfortunately, turning a blind eye to affairs is not sufficient to keeping that cushy lifestyle.

Sooner or later, one of the affair partners (who will be hotter and younger) will want a piece of the action and it is divorce time. If the man is smart, he would have got the first wife to sign a pre-nup or not married her legally.

It is an exploding and risky strategy to go for a wealthy man for the lifestyle.

@blueshoes Unfortunately they've now been married a long time. I don't think he wants to "keep" the younger women - he just enjoys sex with them.
I suppose if they're both OK with it though then fair enough.