Married Ms!

[Hellodarknessmyfriend]

I feel like I'm literally the only one!
Anybody else out there? ❤️

I took Ms in my youth, then Dr once it was appropriate. Never been, and never will be , Mrs. I have kept my family name too, but carry the sadness that my name doesn't honour the women who carried me.

Same.

I kept my own name when I got married. The MIL sends cards for all occasions to Mr and Mrs His Name. And if it's just for me, I get a card addressed to Mrs His name. Makes me raging!

My children are double barrelled and MIL ALWAYS sends cards to master child His Name only. Next time I am very tempted to send them back with a note saying 'not known at this address'.

WHY do in-laws do this? So do mine, and they know fine well what my name is. And the day they ever address me as 'Dr' will be the day hell freezes over.

These people should really get a grip, get with the times, and get some manners. So unnecessarily rude.

My children are double barrelled and MIL ALWAYS sends cards to master child His Name only. Next time I am very tempted to send them back with a note saying 'not known at this address'.

The day my child forcefully corrected this was a happy day 😀

Nope - married since 1992. Was Ms then and have stayed so.

When I was in the States, female teachers were addressed as Ma'am. Much more respectful as it's of equal status with the male 'Sir'.

Me too.

Do it. I have since day 1.

Ms Original name here, and married for 17 years. But at school I (and every other woman) get called Miss. In a strange way I like that, as it's a distinction between my work life and my own life.

I lot of women I know use both names (Ireland too). Ms X for work, Mrs Y for kids activities/schools. Some women like having the same name as their kids (at least sometimes) or they just find it more straightforward that way.

Can be achieved by giving the kids their name.

It doesn’t matter really.
I am Mrs My Name, and DH is Mr My Name

Most people don't seem to do that here if the parents are together, though the children have both surnames often enough (more usual if parents aren't married though).

No longer married, but he changed his name to mine, and have used Ms since the 80’s.

Kinda the point. Women do all the work then give the children their father’s surname.

My married neighbours each kept their own name but gave their two children a third, different name (doctors, so title wasn't an issue).

One of them had a very simple name (albeit long) and the other had a very long, complicated foreign name (even worse than mine ), so double-barrelling wasn't an option.

The name their children has is only 2 syllables, is nice and simple and apparently has a connection to both families, so is a good compromise

Agh! I’ve never got why it’s married, single or dodgy feminist for the women and just bloke for the blokes. Why aren’t they described by whether they are married, single or dodgy whatever?
really annoys me!

Ms doesn't imply dodgy feminist (whatever that is).
It's the default term of address in business now, surely?

I wish we’d thought of this
I didn’t even know you could do it.

Ive now realised a combination of our two surnames would have sounded so much better than either of our individual surnames
Kicking myself now 🤯

To be fair there are still an alarming amount of people that think when you marry your husbands name is then legally yours, and that you can no longer use your birth surname.

you can call a child whatever you want. You can still do it by deed poll if you want.

like I said upthread, all these women who change their names on marriage because they don’t like their surname, and couldn’t wait to be rid- why not do it at 18 (or earlier if parents will allow) by deed poll, rather than waiting for marriage. Funnily enough, I bet their brothers don’t take their wives names 🤔

If you take your marriage certificate to the bank you can cash it then. Very irritating!

I'm a Ms too. I rarely get called ms. I get Mrs ex name from the school as dd has ex name. And I get miss my name if they know we have different surnames as it's assumed I wasn't married to ex. Im forever correcting people and they do t remember. My sons name has an unusual spelling of a common name and school and all sorts of official paperwork constantly spells it the wrong way. People are just lazy.

Jealous of all the Drs on this thread i would love to be Dr my name!!

I've been Ms since I was 18.. I'm now in my 50s, married for 30 years. Still Ms.
When we got married we picked a new name for our family name.

Me! Why should I be defined by my marital status. Men aren't

Ms when both single and married and have never worn my wedding ring- always viewed it as a sign of ownership not love and partnership.