Married Ms!

[Hellodarknessmyfriend]

I feel like I'm literally the only one!
Anybody else out there? ❤️

Yep, married Ms here!

Ms here. And maiden name.
Mrs doesn't compute...

Ms since I was 14 and have never changed it.

The majority of female teachers at DC’s’ schools were Ms. (S London)

I have been a Ms for the last 40 years. I refuse to answer to Mrs

Me too, before and after, and kept my name. Strangely some people think Ms = divorced.

I've been a Ms since I was 17 and I'm 53 now,been married 25 years.

Married Ms with my own surname here. My ILs never got used to it and for years sent birthday/Christmas cheques with Mrs my first name but husband’s surname. I don’t have an account in that name so could never cash them.

I’ve used it since secondary school.

If I knew you were married but didn't know your title (uncommon) I'd assume Mrs but would be happy to be corrected x

@BoudiccaOfSuburbia Primary?

IDK why we can't copy the French in that respect,

I’m married six years and am still Ms Myname. No issues from the in-laws as MIL (78yo) kept her name after marriage and used Ms for as long as she could remember. Her example was definitely a major influence on my decision and she was uncharacteristically chuffed when I told her so. The only one who addresses stuff incorrectly is my FIL’s sister but tbh I can’t get annoyed at it as I don’t know if anyone’s ever put her straight!

I often get stuff addressed to Mrs through work (often old school legal firms who I guess think it’s somehow more respectful to assume you’ve snagged a husband) but more and more correspondence comes to me and my female colleagues using Ms.

I think it’s brilliant that you’re setting an example to girls and showing them that marrying doesn’t mean you “have to” change your name. You

I am a Ms ( kept own surname )
Married in 1998

I know what you mean about being the odd one out
I only know one other that’s a Ms ( own surname )and none from my kids schools.

But if anyone calls out Mrs dh name I just carry on walking. I am not my MIL!

I’m a Ms and kept my name. My mother addresses all correspondence to Mrs His Name. I just ignore it, as I’ll not change her doing it.

Ms before during and after. Much simpler.

I’ve just picked up on your username OP, I was listening to that today whilst working 😊
such a beautiful song!

That would be a return to sender - not known at this address from me.

Ms + my original surname. MIL refuses to acknowledge my surname- cards are addressed on the envelope to "The birthday girl" or "V&T". I'm not sure what Pandora's Box she thinks she'll open if she speaks or writes my surname.

I'm a Ms (second marriage) and still using maiden name.

In my social circle Ms is the more common title. We are born Ms and will die Ms unless we earn a doctorate or other title.

the only people I know that actually cling to the Miss/Mrs convention IRL are teachers. That may explain why you feel isolated OP.

Me. Always have been, don’t think I’ve ever had anyone comment.

Always been Ms Original Surname here no matter marital status. Very common where I live and the circles I move in so doesn’t raise an eyebrow with anyone. Very much pro-choice on this one. Call yourself whatever you want!

Always been Ms, from long before I got married, and since.
anonhop The whole point of Ms is that it does not reveal whether or not a woman is married - so better to assume Ms than Mrs surely?

Ms Mysurname here too, but I'm in a part of the country where it's not so common; most of the other married women I know are Mrs Hissurname. When I lived in the south east and moved in slightly different circles, it was the norm for women to keep their own names.

I don't take umbrage at people getting it wrong (I don't think they do it deliberately) and just gently correct them with "I prefer Ms and I kept my surname."

Snap, OP. I'm a married Ms Primary School Teacher too. I have a little slide show that I share with students at the start of every new school year that explains how to pronounce my name and why I'm Ms.