Married Ms!

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I feel like I'm literally the only one!
Anybody else out there? ❤️

Secondary.

Teachers in our primary were addressed by the first names.

I've used and since I was about 15, before and after marriage.

I am not surprised working in a school you have difficulties - kids aren't known for subtlety and for them it's miss or Mrs generally. I have always been Ms through two marriages and while I do correct people occasionally when filling in forms or whatever at work women are assumed to be Ms unless stated otherwise! I do work in a female dominated profession.

I am and always have been Miss/Ms Myname. I changed nothing when I married, 27 years ago.

Ms Myname - married nearly 30 years. Friends /relatives frequently use Mrs Hisname. I do eye roll.

Married Ms Myname for 21 yrs here, it's never been a problem really. Sometimes people get it wrong but it's never a pointed judgement.

I’m another Ms Maidenname.

When I got back from my honeymoon, a supplier I was working with said he thought my wedding hadn’t gone ahead because I hadn’t changed my name. He thought it was more likely I’d been ditched/stood him up at the altar. That was only 10 years ago too. Mind-blowing.

Me, I hate Mrs.

I’ve always been a Ms and didn’t change when I got married. I’ve never wanted to be a Mrs, to my young ears growing up it sounded really old and frumpy. Now it just sounds alien to me. I’ve never had an issue, I don’t think anyone has ever questioned it.

I had a teacher in the 90s who was a Ms. We all found it really cool, especially as she wore spangly skirts and didn’t shave her armpits!

Another married ms my maiden name. Like @YellowHairband I rarely use the title so don't think about the ms bit much at all. My surname gets used most at work where I have to say marital status rarely comes up and thinking about it most of my married female colleagues use their maiden names (not sure if they have changed names in other parts of their lives tho). This is a bit different to my contacts outside work where sadly I am the only married one of my friends who kept their maiden name. I do sympathise with the wish to have same surname as your kids (sometimes wish I do), it's just a shame that this always defaults to the man's (my DH was not at all bothered I didn't take his name but kids getting his surname was a totally non-negotiable and I didn't fight it). Like others I do get cards to Mrs hissurname, mainly from friends who don't know I think.

I just never changed so most of my ID is still Miss - even although I'm on my second marriage. If I'm filling in a form I'll tick Ms.

DH's family still write cards to Mrs DH name, but to balance that, my friends/contacts assume he's Mr Jolly. 😁

I’m a married Ms with my maiden name. 👋 my FIL absolutely despises it. 😂

I bloody hate that. My friend does it, too. I mean, come on. Actually, it makes me really mad!!

I'm a married Ms original surname, although I've a doctorate, I rarely use Dr in my personal life. Neither have I an engagement ring or wedding ring as I view them as symbols of chatel. Our kids have a double-barrelled surname.
It's usual in my circle to be Ms own surname.

Divorced Ms - never changed my name and always been a Ms.

Married 30 years. Kept my name and have always been Ms

Me too. I also get the cards to Mr and Mrs husband’s name. But I don’t actually mind that. It’s just what older people do.

23 years married and happily a Ms. Kept my maiden name too. Retired teacher-the kids called me all sorts; Ms, Mrs, Miss and I couldn't have cared less! 🤣

Which is outrageous when you think about it - you were the one carrying said children and birthing them!

Same here ms mysurname but I'd rather go by my first name and it doesn't rely bother me what title people use. When I have to make a choice I use ms though.

I'm a married Ms maiden name. Second marriage and have kept the Ms throughout both. I have had a long term battle with the NHS to get them to stop addressing me as Mrs though 🤣

@BeechLeaves "Me too. I also get the cards to Mr and Mrs husband’s name. But I don’t actually mind that. It’s just what older people do."

What, all those "older" women who in the 1960s and 1970s fought for the rights and freedoms we have today?

I didn’t take my husbands name so use ms, I’ll be Dr in a few years, I’ll take that title as people in my job use Dr but never Ms or Mrs.

Married for 23 years and a Ms Myname. Never an issue although at work I’m only ever called by my first name. I can’t get too excited about Xmas cards (invariably wrongly addressed by ancient rellies).

I've always been Ms and didn't change my name when I got married either.
The Ms has never been a problem, but it took my mother about a decade to accept that I hadn't changed my name. My children's school will not acknowledge it at all. I sign off emails 'My Name' and the reply comes addressed to 'Mrs Husbandsname' every single time.