Jolo changing her name. After getting married

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Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck got married at the weekend and Jennifer has now changed her name to Jennifer Affleck. Just Why? I'm surprised to be honest. Especially as she's so famous etc.

I agree. I've no idea why any woman changes her name.

Because she wanted to, and that's ok.

You don't have to understand. It's her choice to change it.

It’s her choice. She’ll still be famous with a different name.

I think it odd that anyone would change their name just because they got married but accept that I'm in a minority and that for some people it's important. It's a shame it isn't men changing theirs as often as it is women.

I don't think she's changing it professionally. She's changed her name with her previous marriages too, and still been J.Lo publicly.

Hate this sniping, so many women change their names, it's not exactly a new idea. Then again I find it slightly dismaying when a woman (usually unmarried) is the odd one out in her family and the kids and dad share a name. But there's no perfect answer that everyone agrees on (cue posts telling me what the One Right Answer About Surnames is...).

Its up to her isn't it?

I wouldnt personally do it but I wouldnt want the choice removed for others.

As with anything like this the answer to men having all the power and telling or implying what women should do is not for women to tell other women what to do

'I've no idea why any woman changes her name'

Very much agree. When it's a woman who is famous the world over and known by HER OWN NAME, it's bloody depressing

That said, I doubt she will be changing it professionally. Still a bloody daft thing to do though

It’s a bit pathetic.

J-Af doesn’t have the same ring.

Shouldn't we be encouraging choice, rather than just enforcing a new 'normal'?

I hate the surname thing. DH has an Irish surname, so the kids have male and female versions of it. I kept mine (even if I'd changed it, it still wouldn't be the same as DD's). So between four of us, we have three surnames. It's a mess. I'd love if we matched.

In fairness what complete strangers on the Internet think about having to come up with some other name mash up, isn't really something she should be concerning herself with. Amd I'm.sure she's rich enough to not care

I’m more disappointed she’s married an alcoholic waste of space.

Having been there, I would stake my house on the fact this will NOT end well for J-Lo.

Surely it's her choice, and hers alone. If she's not being coerced into doing it, and she genuinely wants to, that's good enough for me.

I agree with the PP who said choice is what we're aiming for. Women's permission to do things, own things, say things, or denial of those rights, has been policed for far too long. Don't let us turn into what we are trying to get away from.

50 something here getting married for the first time next year. I've decided I want to change my name. I will leave the name I share with my childhood abuser. Being estranged from birth family since my twenties, I am happy to share my future husband's name. He is my family.

I suggest you stop being so bloody judgey. Nobody is demanding you do it.

I agree that women should choose what they want to do about changing their names. I also understand wanting to have a shared family name when there are children involved.

However, we don’t have equal numbers of men changing their names to their wives’ surnames do we? It’s the default that the woman has to change her name, not the man, and that’s what bothers me about this. Sure, change your surname if you want to but it’s still a sexist tradition where men’s surnames are valued over women’s and I wish more women would just stop and think whether that’s something they want to be part of.

How many couples can’t honestly say that they weighed up which surname they preferred out of the two and then went with that one? Very few I bet.

Anyone else read the title and expected it to be about Jolyon Maugham?

Who is Jolo?

J-Af doesn’t have the same ring.

J As Fuck

It’s only gonna be for couple of years.

Her marriages do not last.

I'm sorry that should have been jlo. My stupid phone! I wish mumsnet had an edit button sometimes!

I'm always a little disappointed when I hear a woman is changing her name on marriage. There is no reason for it in 2022.

Everyone who does it sets a climate of it being the "normal" "right" thing to do etc though. Congratulations on your marriage! You could change your name at any time though to have got rid of the (understandably) hated name.

Thanks @Just4today. However, I have thought very carefully about what I want to do and I've made a choice that is right for me - and I think its a completely understandable choice to anyone with an ounce of compassion. To suggest I should make a different choice because... some greater feminist cause - or that I should have changed my name earlier (to something entirely random presumably?) shows such a casual lack of empathy or insight, its frankly offensive.

I don't think the right to choose should be taken away from women. However men have the same choice and it would be good if a few more of them exercised it.

As others have said, it won't be professionally.

Did you know that Amber Heard took Johnny's last name? I didn't until the divorce saga, where she's listed as Amber Laura Depp in the papers.

JLo will always be JLo.