My 13 year old Daughter has been raped by a 15 year old boy.

[TreeOfPain]

I just feel anger. But I know she wants me to be calm.

I feel anger.

I've had enough.

I've had enough of explaining.

I want my autistic daughter to not have to tell a policeman that an older boy ejaculated in her mouth, after forcing her to her knees.

Oh my good God, how horrible for you both.

I'm so sorry.

It's shit isn't it.

Same old same old.

I really thought the world had moved on a bit.

No.

Me Too. Everyone's Invited.

Nah.

Nothings changed.

I thought my rapes were historical. I really thought they were past. I thought we'd moved on.

We haven't.

Nothing's fucking changed.

My 13 year old daughter has been raped and the reaction is to write abuse on toilet doors at school.

I am so sorry. That’s truly horrific, and it sounds like the rape is being compounded by bullying.
I hope you and she are getting good support, and that school are dealing with this.
i hope you can find the strength to be what your daughter wants you to.

We do have good support @Cantchooseaname

Both individually and through professionals.

We're OK. Thank you..

Nothing changes though does it?

It grinds on.

I hate it. Nothing really changes. And I'm as privileged as they come.

And my family and friends are privileged as fuck.

It doesn't make any difference though.

It never does.

Not much that I can say.
Just so sorry to read about your daughter’s horrific experience.

I'm so very sorry.
What kind of support is available for your DD?

She thankfully was already in a really good therapeutic relationship with her counsellor.

So that's good.

I've got so much anger, I feel as though I'm adrift. I can't centre myself.

Sorry and angry for you and your daughter too. If there is a school connection I hope they act to support her fully and she does not have to encounter him again - whatever the outcome of the police action.

I sound as though it's me that's hurt. It's not.

I'm just angry.

I don't need help.

I didn't want this for my daughter. I wanted so much better. I thought things were better.

I'm so sorry. I have boys and am doing my best to raise them differently, to have empathy and respect women. Sad to say but I was relieved when I found out I was having boys and not a girl. I've been raped and abused and the thought of it happening to my child would have been too much to cope with. Of course I understand that it can happen to boys and men too but let's be real, we all know that statistics.
On a positive note though OP, she clearly has at least one parent that cares, deeply and a great therapist, so she is in good hands to help guide her through to the trauma.

@Bianca7777777 mainstream setting.

@galvanizethis yes. I have a son too. And a decent husband. I'm very open with both of my children. I really thought it would insulate them against the worst of the world if I was completely honest and open.

Turns out I was wrong.

I'm so sorry for your daughter. No one deserves to go through this. How is she holding up?
Channel this anger now into bringing down the fucker that did this.

I'm with you OP. One of the hard things is feeling the rage and having to be outwardly calm. Also wanting to tell the world what the fucker did, but needing to not do that to protect DD.

I was hurt by it. Doing that to my child was hurting a part of me too. But my hurt was secondary.

What happened to my DD wasn't rape but she was 6 and it was a her male swimming teacher. Did everything I could but I couldn't get him kicked out of swimming teaching (sly fucker did it under the water with parents around the pool, so who would believe her..?! Also was the funniest, nicest, friendliest teacher. Fucker!).

I found seeing a counsellor helped with the rage purely because I needed someone to offload to who wasn't connected with DD. Then I could be calm outside the sessions and really help DD as well as take the appropriate actions.

I'm glad your DD already has a good relationship with her counsellor and btw the fact you haven't dismissed what she's told you will help massively in her dealing with this. "Easier" than when a parent doesn't want to believe their child.

It's shit that we just can't stop the predatory behaviour of some males and it's our children who pay the price.

I am so sorry, OP, that you and your daughter have to face this. We thought we had protected our children, too, by being so open and honest, and when we found out what had happened to our DD, it was like our world just disintegrated. And the worst thing was the reaction of denial and recrimination from those responsible for protecting her.

@WibblyWobblyLane , do you know what? He's obviously a little rapist, but I actually think he's as much a victim of society as everyone involved in this.

I'm angry that my daughter has been subjected to what happened.

I'm angry that he didn't have a decent father to teach him. I'm angry that baseless young men are taught by Internet pornography.

I'm angry that the girls that were meant to be her friends have been drenched in patriarchy and reacted as they did.

I'm angry that nothing changes.

It's shit really isn't it?

@aweegc & @Unsureaboutwhattodo .

Thank you.

It's utterly depressing that so many mothers have had this experience. I send a big female space around you both.

How the fuck do you react only one way to this!? What did they do or think that could possibly make this not what it was.

Does you daughter no what happened to her wax wrong op? Fuck tbh I don't no which would be worse for the poor lass actually.

I’m so sorry OP. I’m sorry this has happened. I’m sorry boys and men feel entitled to shit like this. I’m sorry you’re having to go through it.