Feminism: chat
TreeOfPain · 12/07/2022 04:30
I really thought the world had moved on a bit.
No.
Me Too. Everyone's Invited.
Nah.
Nothings changed.
I thought my rapes were historical. I really thought they were past. I thought we'd moved on.
We haven't.
Nothing's fucking changed.
My 13 year old daughter has been raped and the reaction is to write abuse on toilet doors at school.
Cantchooseaname · 12/07/2022 04:34
I am so sorry. That’s truly horrific, and it sounds like the rape is being compounded by bullying.
I hope you and she are getting good support, and that school are dealing with this.
i hope you can find the strength to be what your daughter wants you to.
TreeOfPain · 12/07/2022 04:49
We do have good support @Cantchooseaname
Both individually and through professionals.
We're OK. Thank you..
Nothing changes though does it?
It grinds on.
I hate it. Nothing really changes. And I'm as privileged as they come.
And my family and friends are privileged as fuck.
It doesn't make any difference though.
It never does.
Bianca7777777 · 12/07/2022 05:27
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galvanizethis · 12/07/2022 05:30
I'm so sorry. I have boys and am doing my best to raise them differently, to have empathy and respect women. Sad to say but I was relieved when I found out I was having boys and not a girl. I've been raped and abused and the thought of it happening to my child would have been too much to cope with. Of course I understand that it can happen to boys and men too but let's be real, we all know that statistics.
On a positive note though OP, she clearly has at least one parent that cares, deeply and a great therapist, so she is in good hands to help guide her through to the trauma.
TreeOfPain · 12/07/2022 05:41
@Bianca7777777 mainstream setting.
@galvanizethis yes. I have a son too. And a decent husband. I'm very open with both of my children. I really thought it would insulate them against the worst of the world if I was completely honest and open.
Turns out I was wrong.
aweegc · 12/07/2022 05:48
I'm with you OP. One of the hard things is feeling the rage and having to be outwardly calm. Also wanting to tell the world what the fucker did, but needing to not do that to protect DD.
I was hurt by it. Doing that to my child was hurting a part of me too. But my hurt was secondary.
What happened to my DD wasn't rape but she was 6 and it was a her male swimming teacher. Did everything I could but I couldn't get him kicked out of swimming teaching (sly fucker did it under the water with parents around the pool, so who would believe her..?! Also was the funniest, nicest, friendliest teacher. Fucker!).
I found seeing a counsellor helped with the rage purely because I needed someone to offload to who wasn't connected with DD. Then I could be calm outside the sessions and really help DD as well as take the appropriate actions.
I'm glad your DD already has a good relationship with her counsellor and btw the fact you haven't dismissed what she's told you will help massively in her dealing with this. "Easier" than when a parent doesn't want to believe their child.
It's shit that we just can't stop the predatory behaviour of some males and it's our children who pay the price.
Unsureaboutwhattodo · 12/07/2022 05:50
I am so sorry, OP, that you and your daughter have to face this. We thought we had protected our children, too, by being so open and honest, and when we found out what had happened to our DD, it was like our world just disintegrated. And the worst thing was the reaction of denial and recrimination from those responsible for protecting her.
TreeOfPain · 12/07/2022 05:58
@WibblyWobblyLane , do you know what? He's obviously a little rapist, but I actually think he's as much a victim of society as everyone involved in this.
I'm angry that my daughter has been subjected to what happened.
I'm angry that he didn't have a decent father to teach him. I'm angry that baseless young men are taught by Internet pornography.
I'm angry that the girls that were meant to be her friends have been drenched in patriarchy and reacted as they did.
I'm angry that nothing changes.
It's shit really isn't it?
Bianca7777777 · 12/07/2022 06:13
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kateandme · 12/07/2022 06:16
TreeOfPain · 12/07/2022 05:58
@WibblyWobblyLane , do you know what? He's obviously a little rapist, but I actually think he's as much a victim of society as everyone involved in this.
I'm angry that my daughter has been subjected to what happened.
I'm angry that he didn't have a decent father to teach him. I'm angry that baseless young men are taught by Internet pornography.
I'm angry that the girls that were meant to be her friends have been drenched in patriarchy and reacted as they did.
I'm angry that nothing changes.
It's shit really isn't it?
How the fuck do you react only one way to this!? What did they do or think that could possibly make this not what it was.
Does you daughter no what happened to her wax wrong op? Fuck tbh I don't no which would be worse for the poor lass actually.
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