My 13 year old Daughter has been raped by a 15 year old boy.

[TreeOfPain]

I just feel anger. But I know she wants me to be calm.

I feel anger.

Your posts are disgraceful @Bianca7777777

your need to know “details” is repulsive.

You attitude, sadly probably shared by many in society, is a huge part of the problem and why conviction rates for rape are so low.

OP. I so sorry your daughter has suffered this awful trauma. Your anger is understandable and justified. I hope your daughter gets justice. And I hope her “friends” live with regret and shame for the rest of their days.

I’m so angry your daughter has gone through this.

Why are people wittering on about consent? A 13 year old CANNOT consent to sex. The legal age of consent is 16 so your comments are irrelevant.

So sorry OP. I hope your daughter gets justice and in time will heal from this as much as may be possible.

Sorry, I should have added that the legal age if consent in the UK is 16. It's 18 in other parts of the world.

Truly horrific so so sorry
where was the safeguarding in school for your vulnerable DD, why hadn’t anyone noticed where she had gone?
Dreadful that this was allowed to happen on school premises
Dreadful that nothing really changes

Don’t engage with @Bianca7777777 he is fishing for details To get off on.

Thank you, I can't @ everyone there.

But, thank you. I do appreciate all the supportive comments.

I think we'll be ok.

We're very bloody lucky that we have options.

Thank you.

Wanted to chime in and give a bit of hope. I'm an EMDR therapist and I specialise in sexual trauma. What has happened to your daughter is horrific and should never have taken place.

AND this type of trauma can be healed. She's in a good position with you as her supportive caring mother and single incident trauma processes relatively quickly with youngsters... she's going to be OK ❤

Massive hugs to you and your family at this time xxxx

Yeah I was thinking potential paedo troll you just don't know who the fuck anyone is on here

Thank you all so much.

You have all made me feel quite safe.

Thank you.

It's really very fucking nice to reach out to women and be caught.

Onwards.

@AgingBadly I agree. I think this is something that can be moved past.

EMDR is something I've recommended to a friend. So yes, I hear you!!

for your and your daughter, @TreeOfPain. I am so sorry this has happened.

Re other girls not grasping that what has happened is rape, this is disturbing. Turning on your daughter for being the victim of this is dreadful but as others have said, not new. I was listening to a very difficult but important Radio 4 series recently about historic sexual abuse at boarding schools in the UK. Most of the people interviewed were male and had been at boys' schools but there was one woman who was raped by a member of staff at a mixed school (?Aberlour, feeder school for Gordonstoun). All the other pupils knew what had happened (it was during a camping trip) and they all blamed her. She was 12, I think. Horrific.

My Mum was raped at around your daughters age, by a judges son who was 17. It went to court and he got off, then went around boasting about it.

I'm so so sorry for your daughter OP. There was a kid at my school who everyone knew you shouldn't leave a female alone with.

I can't believe that shit like this hasn't changed. I was hoping things had changed since my Mum and I had been at school but apparently not.

I feel your rage OP. I would be roaring as well and I would never let it go. I am so sorry what happened to your DD. I hope the shite and his parents face consequences.

I don't have children but I fear for my friends that have daughters.
I expect he's doing the same or even worse to his girlfriend.
I hope he gets kicked out of school for this at the very least.

to you and to your poor, brave daughter @TreeOfPain . There’s not much I can say to help, but you are heard.

I hope she and you are taken seriously as you should be, that you get justice , and that the times when you run into people who minimise or judge are few and far between. wishing you both much brighter times ahead.

@Squiff70

The age of consent is actually negates by the fact that both are under it. What isn’t negated is the non consensual element.

When y consensual it will still be a crime if both children are under the age of consent but if both are willing then it isnt. Think about it, if 2 15 year olds have consensual sex they’re not both going to be tried as sex offenders are they?

@TreeOfPain I'm sorry, that's just indescribably horrible. One thing I found that helped in an entirely different situation where I had bottled up anger that I couldn't release appropriately, was to take a trip to the local bottle bank and launch the bottles into the receptacle with as much force as I could muster. It wasn't as cathartic as properly smashing shit up would've been, but there was a definite sense of satisfaction on hearing the glass clatter and smash as it hit the bottom.

Ah yes @Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g

I'm aware of the public school bollockry.

Girls are always blamed for the fact that Men and boys can't control themselves sexually.

Plus ca change.

I am so sorry op. For you, your daughter and the fucking state of everything.

I hope you can all heal from this

I agree. I think this is something that can be moved past.

Remember this may take months or years which is going to be just as bad as the incident itself.

Being held against your will for 2 hours in itself is enough to make any child (or adult) traumatised.

I know you don’t want to out your DD on here but I can’t wait until the media/SM finds out about this as that’s usually when justice is served.

I think the adults who allowed a autistic 13 y/o to be left alone with a boy for 2 hours also need to be charged or lose their jobs.

@dunBle I LOVE throwing bottles into the ether!!

If this was forced all the way is there any chance another girl or boy depending on the toliets could have seen him taking her in there?

OP.. I too am here to catch you and listen and believe you and your DD... I'm horrified by what has happened to her but she is so very lucky that you are her Mum... X