MarieIVanArkleStinks · Today 16:28
"You're explaining to me, a rape victim with diagnosed cPTSD - from the position of having never yourself had this less-than-enviable experience - what being a rape victim with PTSD feels like? This feels pretty near the definition of mansplaining to me. You have a weird sense of humour, I'll give you that."
What a bizarre response. I'm not explaining anything to you personally. I know nothing of your history.
From your claims you have no knowledge of what it is to be falsely accused and lose your career and reputation, the latter forever, or to be imprisoned on a false claim either.
And you don't speak for all women either. Stop pretending you do. Go onto a conservative site and see how other women think, those silly women with 'internalised misogyny' and listen to them 'mansplain' the world.
"I can assure you, being raped is no picnic. I wouldn't wish it on anyone."
I didn't imagine it was. However, having your life seriously upset by a false accusation is no picnic either. All I am trying to do is show that false accusations cannot be dismissed as nothing as has been done here (Adam explicitly said that they no lasting effect on a man), especially if they involve a prison term.
It is ridiculous to dismiss one bad thing as nothing because you don't think it's as bad as another thing you've suffered. To say that diabetes is nothing because you've had cancer doesn't make diabetes a fun disease to live with.
"to deduce that the aftermath of rape is just as bad for for the poor ole men. Let's moot a novel concept. How about men just, you know, stop raping us?"
What the hell are you talking about?
It's worth remembering that rape isn't just something men do to women. Men are raped by other men. Women are raped by other women. Children are raped by adults as well as other children. There are female paedophiles who use objects to penetrate children. Female rapists in prison do the same. There might be a lot more male rapists but there are a large number of male victims as well.
If a man is raped then the aftermath is very bad for the 'poor ole man'. If he was falsely accused it will be terrible for him as well. If he was the rapist no-one cares about how he's feeling. He deserves whatever he gets.
This particular case involves a woman who made accusations of violence and sexual assault which have been judged to be false and malicious by a jury. So its effect on the man who was defamed is of some importance.
"The direct comparison was between victims of rape (I don't necessarily discount men from this BTW) diagnosed with PTSD, and men who have been wrongly abused of rape. According to this PP, it's equally as awful for the second group as those who have actually been victims of a particularly repulsive crime."
I think being sent to prison for a number of years on the basis of a false accusation would be as traumatic for many as a rape. In can bring it's own danger of violence and rape as well as other traumas. I have no knowledge how often this happens but we do know it does happen. There are famous documented cases of it and not just releases based on a technicality.
You cannot generalise about people to the degree you are doing. For some people the loss of their career would mean the loss of the meaning of their life. For others it would be something relatively minor. For others being physically violated would absolutely destroy them. Some get over an attack much better than others.