The Anxiety Club (continued) !

[mooseloose]

Hi girls, i have started a new thread for us all. The other was too long. Hope you all find it.

Mornign Girls,

How are you all this morning?? Not sure how I am feeling today - tired!

Moose I think we are both going through the same - it always seems to be just when you think things are good that you have a set back! I hope you are feeling better today! {{{{{hugs}}}}}

Has anyone seen the advert fot the programme coming on tues night at 7.30 = Make me happier?? It's about anxiety sufferer. Might be worth a watch?! Not sure what to do today! Need to get a few things at Tesco (might make it today) the weather is lovely so might try to talk DS1 into going for a walk! lol!

Hope everyone else it okay!
x x x

well now I feel like a I am a terrible mother and social services are going to arrive at any minute.

Was called to see the headmaster this afternoon, I have been reported by another parent for leaving DS2 in the car. They called me at 2pm to ask me to go and see the head before pick up, so that sent me into a spin, I have been so panicky only to find out that the people I thought were my friends really aren't, they obvioulsy think alot less of me than thay make out.

I called Dh all upset and his support was to tell me that headmaster was right and I shouldn't ever leave DS2 in the car, even if it means I am late. great now he knows I am a shit parent as well. it is things like this that made me realise the boys would be better off without me, maybe I was right all along.

Oh Grey, don't be so hard on yourself. You are a lovely mum. Everyone at some time has popped to school/shop/postbox leaving a little one in car. The only difference is that someone told on you. You must have thought they were safe else you wouldn't have done it. I guess you know all the mums and the neighbourhood, and feel 'safe' and ok to do it. I have done it too.
I used to leave baby in car asleep on the drive.
How horrid that your friends would have told on you. That is really upsetting.
Don't beat yourself up- us mums have to stretch ourselves so may ways in different directions.
Hope you are okay x

Hi Bigmomma3 I would definately go to an anxiety group if there was one in my area. I used to go to one about 9 years ago and they were great, I always felt better after a long chat about things that other people thought were crazy

I have a good day finally after a particularly bad week, something my dh said really clicked in my head - instead of trying to fight my anxiety I should just let it wash over me and then question why i was feeling like it and then carry on with my day. It seems to have worked so far, so I am feeling more hopeful for more positive days

Greyskull, it doesn't make you a terrible mother, my mum always tells me that if you worry that you are terrible mother then clearly you are not, as bad mothers don't care at all. I am sorry that your dh was not supportive

Greyskull I am shocked. I cannot believe that someone would tell the head about you doing something that almost everyone has done. I'm presuming he was in the car just outside of the school? What did the head teacher say? Do you know who it was that told? I hope you are ok, you are certainly not a bad mum.

Hope you've had a better day moose?

That programme sounds interesting Yommy, remind me on Tuesday that it's on please! I hope you've had a good day, did you make it to Tesco?

I'm glad you have found something that is working for you potatocakes

Evening Ladies!

BTP total {shock} at someone telling on you!!! I leave DS's in the car a lot! If the are sleeping I always leave them in the car (driveway) and I have left DS2 sleeping once or twice as nursery run! How awful! I with the other girls - no way you are bad mum, you sound like a brilliant very caring mum! Don;t let anyone tell you otherwise!!! {{{{{hugs}}}}}

Potota - Glad glad you are finally having a good day. I have had a pretty good one too

Blissa - I will def remind you of the programme - would be very interesting to watch!!!

Moose - hope you had a better time at work??

Hope everyone enjoys the weekend! WIll check in tomorrow when I have more time to write!

Have a lovely evening all x x x

morning ladies,
am having an awful morning, breathing short and blood pumping, can't stop running yesterdays events through myhead, in the end last night DH said that he thought I was a good mummy and that meant alot, I have loads to do today but feeling kind of frozen with fear, I HAVE to make my mum a birthday cake for tomorrow and do buns and biscuits for the school cake stall but can't seem to get myself to moove, I am safe whilst I am sat here.

BTPOG - Have you read Claire Weekes' books at all - all about self help for your nerves and accepting the fear rather than fighting it?? I found them (there are a few of them) extremely helpful (a lightbulb moment in fact). I should imagine you could borrow them from your library, that's what I did and will probably buy them myself now.
Also there is a guy called Jay Chase who has posted some extremely interesting videos on the internet that you can view for free about changing negative thoughts into positive and having self confidence. Web address below (sorry can never do a link)self-esteemassociates.com/thanks09.htmlI downloaded the videos and got a few emails from the site but they are totally free so have a look.HTH.

Hi Greyskull, how are you doing now? I'm glad that you have managed to talk to your dh, of course you're a good mummy. Sounds like you have a lot to do, but maybe keeping busy with the cakes will help.

I've just made a cake to keep my mind off things. Dp and I had a silly argument the other day and things are still strained between us. It feels worse as, before hand, we had been getting on really well, better than we had in ages, and I just want to go back to last weekend. It doesn't help that I have period pain and keep crying.

hi girls. Hope you made the cakes Grey?

I am still all breathy, and shaky, and have butterflies.

I don't know why. Maybe Grey is right, I feel ok, and take too much on. Again. I just hate my shaky hands - I thought I had closed the door on them. Feel cross.
x

Morning all ...
Sorry havent been around for a while ,had busy week .

How is everyone ?

Potatocakes - how did your session go with your counsellor go on Friday ?

Yoummymummy- Did you see that T.V program about make me happier ? was it any good .

Blissa - hows things with you ?

POGS-So sorry things not to good for you right now ..I Can not believe what has been going on for you , something most mummys have done on occasion ....you are not a bad mummy at all ....do you know who told the head master about it ? when do you have to se him/her ?

Glad your DH is supporting you and we are all mummys on here and no one here can believe whats happened and do not think bad of you at all ...(((hug))))

How is everyone els doing ?

Im Ok ish i bought a book called "overcoming Anxiety' for Dummy's one of thse yellow and black covered self help books you can get for just about everything ..

Its very good trying to take some advice and tips on coping with anxiety .
Got other issues this week with my Mum .

Bye for now xx

Evening all,

Are you all watching I'm a celeb???

How are you all, had a good weekend??

Moose, sorry you are feeling crappy again, have you been feeling better over the weekend??

Blissa, how are things with you and DP? I hope u a feeling better! I think sometimes argument play on your mind and things get said in the heat of the moment. There are times when I really can;t stand my DH, but the good times well outweight the bad! Hope you have had a good weekend!

Hey Mumof2000 - the programme hasn't been on yet, I will put a reminder on tues when its due to come on! Although I have realised that its on STV and may not be on ITV??. That books sounds good, I bought a few self help books a good while back they are currently collecting dust upstairs! lol!

I am just having 5 mins 'me' time before I head upstairs to bed. Shattered! Had a good day today! Made it to tesco n had to stand for ages to wait on my photos n started to feel a bit paniced - wanted to just leave, but stayed n got what i needed to get Need to go back again tomorrow n pic up some pics I got enlarged! lol! Glutten for punishment!

Hope everyone else is well!
x x x

evening ladies,
big stuff going on here, but need to talk it through with my psych tomorrow as I don't really understand it.
I hope you have all had a good weekend,

xx

so, here goes,
went to my parents house this weekend, and my mother has been kidnapped by aliens, and swapped with an understanding generous spirited woman.
she apologised for some of the things she has done that has upset me (without me prompting)
it was awesome to hear her talking with such honesty.
I have built up my walls and learned to be so cautious with her that this feels so wierd.
the advice I recieved this morning was to remember yesterday, and in the future I should try to gain the courage to say to her "mum, please don't let this be one of the conversations you regret once it is over"

I am really going to have to take baby steps I am not in a position to allow myself to get hurt again. But hey lets be positive, this could be the beginning.

Morning all ..

POGS- Sounds a very good start with your mum and very positive ,hope it continues for you .
What happened with the Head Master thing ? is everything ok now ?

Yoummymummy_ well done for staying in Tescos and working through your panic , i have those sometimes and i have to have a chat with myself take deep breaths and get through it .
Were you pleased wit the enlargment ?

Im ok , got a tough day tomorrow going to tackle my mum , try talk some sense to her not easy with an Alcoholic in denial ... im so worried about her and feel very responsable for her somehow .. shouldnt that be the other way round !!..
Very long story so wont boar you anymore .

Hope everyone els ok ?
xx

Hi everyone

I hope you are all having a good day so far.

I am not feeling great again, I seem to feel good for a few days but then just go downhill My counselling has finished too so I am feeling a little thrown out on my own.

I think I might get hold of a book by that lady you mentioned Bigmomma3 from the library

Hi ladies

It's great to hear sounding more positive Greyskull. I'm so pleased you were able to talk with your mum. I hope things continue to get better

Dp and I have managed to sort things out thanks Yommy. I totally get what you say about loving them one day and not being able to stand them the next! We're getting into Celebrity- what does Katie Price look like?! I think it's such a shame what she's done to herself and I don't think she should be in there. Cannot believe that Kim is 67 , she's doing well!

Must have been the day for wobbling in Tesco yesterday as I had the same thing. Had to get a big shop and a present as ds went to party last night. I felt jittery before I went in and then had picked up a few bits and my heart started racing, lightheadedness, breathless, just awful and like I had to get out. I didn't want to leave as I would have been cross with myself so I stood concentrating on some Christmas napkins and gave myself a talking to.

Anyway, I managed to get round and home ok but still felt funny all day. I think I had got myself wound up about the party ds went to. It was a soft play centre that I hadn't been to about half an hours drive away. I had to follow my friend there and I had taken another little girl with us. The drive stressed me out, but hey we got there, they all had a good time, and we got home ok.

Feel much better today, tonight I have been roped into helping out at dd1s Brownies- oh joy!

I hope you're ok moose.

Good luck with your mum tomorrow mumof2000.

Sorry you're not feeling to good potatocakes, I hope your day gets better

xxx

Afternoon All,

Hope you are all having a good one! Was up and out this morning so a quiet afternoon in the house. DS2 has a nasty cold and was up a lot last night! We slept in thismorning and I kept DS1 off of nursery . Hate keeping him off but we would have been to late for it to be worth taking him over! Terrible!!!!

BTP, So glad you feel like you are making some progress with your mum! I hope it continues as you sounds so much happier for it !!!

Hey potato, hasyour day gotten any better?? I feel sometimesthat the mornings are worse when you are thinking about theday ahead, but as the day goes on u feel more relaxed?? The books Bigmamma recommended sound good might see if I can get them too!

Mumof2000, Hope tomorrow goes well for you! Are you going to speak to your mum about her drinking?? That must be pretty hard for you to watch your mum go through that?! My family seem to have a few aictive personalitites (drink & drugs) Watched my Granda go down hill for years, its not nice. {{{{{hugs}}}}

Blissa, Glad you enjoyed the party lasr night afte what sounds like a stressful day! Good luck with helping out a screaming brownie pack tonight, lol! So Glad you and DP have sorted things out!

Bigmamma - any luck with the anxiety group yet??

Don;t forget that programme is on tonight if anyone can get STV?? Not sure if its on ITV, but it looks good! Its called 'make me happier'!.

Weather up here today it a total mixed bag - still freezing though! Looking forward to my bed tonight! lol! Long way off!

Will pop on later if I get the chance x x x

Blissa good on you for getting round tesco, it is really a big thing that you have done, I have been asked to help with ds's beavers but I just can't at the moment, it is such a shame the group is likely to close after christmas if no-one comes forward.

Hi everyone else, I hope you have all had a good day, nearly bed time

still absorbing the new mother stuff, I am really pleased about it yet still cautious.
thinking about y'all...
Night x

Thanks Greyskull, I am glad that I managed to get round, I would have been really peed off with myself if I'd given up. Hope you are ok today.

Dd1 is off school with a sore throat. The weather is absolutely terrible- so windy.

Hope everyone is ok xx

Evening Girls,

How are you all?? I am good - have had a pretty mucg anxiety free day!

Just thought I would pop in for a wee catch up as the boys were in bed! DS1 keep coming down I am really going to have to get him to start going to bed by himself! Its my own fault - any tips??? lol!

Blissa - you are like me I hate not going throug with things! If I had just felt tescp the other day I would have been kicking myself! I would have taking it a s set back!

Watched that programme last night about panic attacks, was pretty dispointing to be honest. Never learned anything I didn;t already know!

Right better go n get this boy to bed! Argh! He is so tired!

Hope everyone else is okay x x x

Evening Ladies,

How has everyone been, where have you all been hiding?? lol!

Had a bot of a panic today Pretty gutted about it. Was just in the near by pertrol station (M&S store too) picking up something for lunch! It was pretty busy and as I was standing in the queue it just came over me! It was horrible, just wanted to run. Could feel me heart pounding, hand shacking, and felt a little faint. Worst I have felt for ages! Just wanted to run, but it was pretty busy and I would have mad a fool out of myself . I just stayed, but was so glad to get out. I was okay the minute I left thought! Argh! Why do we have anxiety! lol! Pain in the butt!

Anyway, enough of my moaning! DS had PJ party today at nursery for childern in need! He was so happy going to nursery in his PJ, had a big grin on his face! Took him to McD's for his lunch after!

Had friends down this afternoon and got y cousin over tonight for a few drinks! Happy Days!

Hope evryone is okay, busy and happy with no need to come on here

x x x

Morning all ..

Yoummy hope you had a nice time with your cousin and it helped put the anxiety in petrol station behind you , iv had that happen , a few months ago went to watch school play and was rushing for a seat (alone) got one and was fine then a while into play came over all clammy and felt wizzy and heart racing , thought i would have to leave but did breathing and had a chat with myself and worked through it ... it is strange were it comes from though is'nt it you can be fine one min and then it happens .
I bet your DS did like to be in PJs ..bless , forgot was CIN yesterday oops ..

IV been ok ish having a bit of anx and trying not to let bad thoughts take over another health worry
went to dentist for check up with DC and mine was due , al ok but hes taken x-rays of my teeth says to check decay ,me being me is thinking maybe hes checking for something els , as you know my fear of MC etc ....he examined my mouth said all was ok i think ,kids were messing about so had trouble listening and keeping them in check to ... now mind running all bad thoughts in head and im trying not to let thing s spiral ....
i cant see any patches in mouth or ulcers now and jaw seems fine so hope im just over reacting .....
plus iv just started some exercise this week which iv enjoyed , but now i keep getting pain behind my knee where it bends and then shoting pains sometimes up the front of my leg ... worse when in exercising in LBT class , worried i may have DVT going on as i have visable veins there where i get the pain ....really put a dampner on my class last night as was worried what it could be ... ad as usual im thinking the worst ..
havent had chat with mum yet either as her partner just had eye op done and came out of hospital yesterday so i may go and see her tomorrow to chat about how im feeling ... got to catch her in right mood to ...not easy ..

Period due to so this not helping with anxiety also as im worse always around this time .

Sorry for rant ... but i need to talk about it as going round and round in my head ...
havent had chance to read my anx book much either ..must make time ....

How is every one els ?

Thanks for listeing

Luv to all xxxx

Hi, glad things seem clearer Grey - that's great news.
I've been better this week. Went to pilates Tues night, and I felt much calmer on Wed, sort of still inside is the best way I can describe it, and that was really nice. I have been ok since then.
Have been watching the jungle too, but soooooooo fed up of katie Price. It has turned into the 'katie Price Show' now - noone else is getting a look in. Wish she had stayed at home. Do you think she is putting on a nice act, or is actually nice?