The Anxiety Club (continued) !

[mooseloose]

Hi girls, i have started a new thread for us all. The other was too long. Hope you all find it.

Hi all .

How are you today Potatocakes ?
How was your evening class and what was it ? well done for going along iv never thought of doing something like that .
Hows was the work ting to ?

Hope your feeling a bit better ...and DP calmed down a bit now ...

Bissa , MY DH is the same , tolerant to a degree then gave me a stiff talking to , ony last night he showed me something someone had written who is disabled and they are making the most of life and doing so much .
does make me think but not that easy ....well doesnt seem to be .and i do feel guilty about that to .. im so busy worrying about stuff or something that might happen im not making the most of life ..
How did i get like this ... i never used to be like this grrrrrrr more importantly how do i get out if it ...!!

My mouth ting has gone now ddont know what that was but glad gone , working today so will check back later .

Hope you have a god day ladies x

Morning Girls,

Sorry not been around for a few days! And really sorry to hear that mumof2000 and pcakes you are having a rough time! Mumof2000, can I just say you sound exactly like I sounded a few months ago, it might not feel like it now, but your anxiety will get better with time! I was never an axious person before I got like this and to think that something in the mind can change someones life so drastically is horrible!!! I used to be so angry all the time, cry, wonder why me, when am I going to get better, I just want my old life back. It can happen, but it takes lots and lots of time! Don;t get me wrong, its bloddy hard and I still have bad days where I barly want to leave the house, but i do and I always feel better for it!! As for DH's understanding. I just stopped talking about it after a while, not because he wasn;t understanding - he done his best - but I just found it so hard to say i'm not feeling well when I was a picture of health! I think thats the hardest part for other to understand unless they have been through it themselves!!

Anyway, just checking in to see how everyone is! I have been so busy lately anxiety barly had a look in Had a fab Halloween/Birthday party for DS2. Althoug I think he has turned into a horror over night! Honeslty can barly leave the room without him screaming after me!

Hope everyone is well!
Will post later if DS gives me a minute! x x x

Hi Yommy, glad ds2 had a good party. I hope he's not screaming too much, I remember what it's like having a little cling on!

Hope you are feeling better today potatocakes

Glad that your mouth is better mumof2000. I totally understand what you say about worrying about things that might happen and how that affects everyday life. I think you just have to keep on making yourself do things and then as you do more, and realise nothing bad has happened, then your confidence grows and you feel able to do more IYKWIM?

Hi to everyone else xx

morning all ..

Yoummy how are you ? Glad youe weekend went well and BD party went well for DS2

How did /do you cope with your anxiety ? feeling calmer today but know wont be long before i worry again ... not the right attitude i know ..

Potatocakes How are you doing ?

Blissa how are you ? thanks for advice , i must keep busy that is the key i think , was thinking ( this is going to sund so silly )of making a time table , and putting daily things on it i do or want to do , keeping me busy ....sounds perfect in theory not sure how it will panout in real day to day as im not the most organised now anyway was ust a thought ....

How is everyone els doing and any advice for keeping busy ?

Have a good day off to work now be back later xx

Hi All,

How are you all today??

Glad you are feeling calmer today mumof2000. To be honest i'm not really sure how I have coped and gotten to this stage, just like Blissa said I have taken one day at a time. It really depends on how much anxiety is affecting your life. For example, I used to be terrified to go to tesco as I was so sure I would have a panic, faint & look like a complete idiot so I started avoiding going. But I eventually made myself go and the more often I went the more often I would see that nothing bad was going to happen. Now I can go fine, but I sometimes get a bit paniced if the checkouts are too busy - that sort of thing! But I know if I just let it pass I will be okay! Distraction is def the best thing in world for anxiety and the busier you are the less likely you are to think about it. Over time you thinking will start getting more positive, rather than negative thinking IYKWIM?? Please keep asking if you want to know anything at all! Thats what we are all hear for - to get each other through!!! And a daily planner sounds great! I could do with one myself

How is everyone else today??

I have been down the craft shop today. I want to make scrap books for my two friends 30th which are both around christmas time, but I am finding it difficult to get stuff because its all christmas stuff they have in now . Thinking of even making my own christmas cards Would love to make scrapbooks professionally, but i'm not that good - yet .

Took the boys down the garden centre yesterday to see all the christmas stuff, still feel its a little to early but still love looking

My little cling on (love how you put that Blissa, please tell me it doesn;t last forever?!) is sleeping in the car, DH is in bed with man flu and DS1 is sitting watching Garfield, wonder how long the quiet will last?? Not long I'm betting! I really need to tidy up as this place is a mess - just for a change!

Better go check my boy.
Will check in later x x x

hello. Am back. Had a lovely peaceful holiday - it was just so relaxing - I read a book and a half - amazing!
But had trouble on way home with ds asthma! So anyway we ended up in a&e on the way home, and were there until midnight while they sorted him.
He is feeling better today, but he did worry me. I came back from hosp and lay in bed all trembly- horrible. That was just how I used to be all of the time. But I lay there giving myself instructions 'relax your legs/knees/arms' etc etc.
Am okay now- but i was worried i had lapsed.
phew.
Hope you all okay x

Morning Girls,

How are you all today??

Moose, so glad to hear you had a wonderful holiday Poor DS, glad he is better too - no wonder you were worried! My DH has bad athsma and every time he gets the cold it goes straight to his chest! Not nice!

I am having a day in the house today! DH is away back to aberdeen for a course today so I have no car (still not brave enought to face PT) MIL is picking up DS1 from nursery to bring him home so just me and the moaning cling on this morning

Hope everyone else is good! Did anyone see any good fire works last night?? We had a few in the garden, but going to local display on Sat night! My DS's were not impressed last night and the first thing DS1 said this morning was "all the fire works have stopped, i don;t like the ones at the park" meaning he doesn;t want to go see them on Sat so we might be leaving early!! lol!

x x x

Hello everyone, I hope you are having a good friday.

I went to see a new doctor at the surgery today, who made me feel really lousy - he said that I should think of my anxiety as the same as having a heart murmur and that people with that have to take medication for the rest of their life so I should get used to the idea that I would have to take antidepressants for the rest of my life - he said that I had something wrong with the neurotransmitters in my brain that were making me feel like this. And that I shouldn't put off taking the medication as that was just wasting time... part of me felt really down about the thought that that might be true, but the rest of me is really angry that he would say something like that... I have beaten anxiety before and I can do it again, i just need to try and convince myself of that :D

We saw some fantastic fireworks last night, we went to the Guildford show - my ds was fascinated and managed to stay awake way past his bedtime to see them

Hi girls

Good to see you back moose . Glad you had a good time away. How is ds now? Must have been very scarey for you all. Glad you've managed to relax a bit, well done for keeping it under control.

Doesn't last forever Yommy, he won't you around when he's 15. Is dh's man flu better today? We went to the local fireworks display last night and ds screamed his head off and wouldn't look at them until dp took him inside to watch from the window- then he was fine! Me and the girls enjoyed it

Hope you're ok mumof2000. I think a time table sounds good. I have a note pad with the jobs I have to do each day written in. It's something I took from the Fly thread (although seriously lapsed now), but it helps keep me and the house organised!

Oh potatocakes, I'm sorry the dr has made you feel lousy. FWIW I don't agree with him, I think you can definately learn to control anxiety/ depression. Even if people do take medication for it, they can stop and live their lives without them. I think he should have listen to what you want and tried to help you find ways of managing it without the pills. Some drs think that a pill is always the answer, but that isn't always so. As you've said, you've beaten anxiety before, you can again

Evening Girls,

lol, Blissa, roll on 15 years time! Glad you had a nice time at the fireworks! Poor DS He will grow to love them!

Potatocakes really [shock} at ur Doctor! I totally believe that anxiety can be beater without AD's although they are really helpful for some people other can manage without them! If you ahve beaten it once you can def do it again! You'lll have our support all the way! {{{{{hugs}}}}}

DS2 is in bed sound asleep, DS1 is still hanging around

Hope you are all having a nice relaxing evening!!!

x x x

Hi Yommy,

I have eaten a whole bag of kettle chips, half a bottle of wine and am looking at playmobile I want to play with get the dcs for christmas!

Hope you've had a good day x

Hi potato - I have beaten mine without pills - taken a year almost though, and some very bad days - I shook for weeks and weeks constantly. But i am proud of myself for it. I used running rather than medication - and it suited me. You have to be good to yourself and try to have a bit of time out= something I am very bad at - I never sit still for 5 minutes...

hi to everyone else x

Blis I love love love Kettle chips - they are my favorite camping nibble!

evening strangers,
just popping in to see you all, hope you are all having a lovely weekend.

things bouncing up and down here but had a lovely breakthrough yesterday.
I woke up at 7am and from then to when I went to bed at 10.15 I felt NO anxiety at all, no panics, no racing heart, just calm.
Had an extra child for the day so my friend could go to work and it was great.

today is a bit more normal with anxiety and stuff but Hey yesterday was the first day like that for about 18 months

Hi Grey- that's fab for you. It's so nice isn't it. It will go, honestly it will. It just takes time.It's about a year since mine was really bad and I am okay now.
I stayed at work an extra half hour Fri, and it made me feel shaky - it caught me out because I feel quite robust now!

The feeling when it (anxiety) goes reminded me of when I was pregnant and feeling really sick. One afternoon it just dawns on you that you hadn't felt sick all day!

Keep on being good to yourself x

Hi Ladies have been really busy this last week well not too busy as more being ill and DD2 was ill too with this bloody cold then it was DD2's birthday on friday so made a cake and just had an open house as DH is still away and my parents are away too, but she had a good day and got lots of presents.
Has anyone else had this cold? Its got me in a bit of a state tbh, I have had it now for about a week and a half and its went to my chest (have asthma) so have been thinking its all sorts I even got myself in such a tizz that I phoned nhs 24 as I was having pains in my back and they sent out the doc he says its just viral and to ride it out (which I kind of thought) I hate it when DH is away these things always happen.
Good news is my living room looks lovely (had it decorated lat week).
potatocakes sorry you are feeling like this but it WILL get better you have beaten it once and will do so again, I really dont think your Dr meant to make you feel like this I just think there is such a stigma about mental illness as no one can see it such as a broken leg but it is a chemical imbalance in the brain and the medication we get prescribed is there to help to correct it and some people need the meds but it need'nt be long term I think he was in his way trying to make you feel better but it didnt work out like that. I do think he should have listened to you more though to see how you would like to manage it.
blissa totally agree with you and the doing more and your confidence growing My DH was very supportive with me but I think he was a bit too supportive kind of like wrapping me in cotton wool IYKWIM at the start and when I had my first CBT session the psychologist said to me I had to tell him to let me do things on my own, well after that he def did but having spoken to him lately (I asked him what it was like for him when I was really bad) he said it was really hard work and he felt like he had lost the old me I also asked him if he loved me as much as he did but he said of course he did and he wouldnt have married me if he didnt. Saying that if I am having a bad day he does give me a talking to!
yommy glad your DS had a lovely halloween party.
mooseloose glad you had a lovely holiday and glad your DS is ok now.
mumof2000 thats good your mouth thing is gone and that you are going to keep busy but can I suggest one thing to put in your time table, some time for yourself you should put in something you really enjoy doing and make sure you do it, something I learned at CBT I was burning myself out keeping busy so I didnt have panic attacks cant think of what I started off doing think it was a bath at nightwhen DD1 went to bed
grey Thats great about your anxiety free day may there be lots more

Evening ladies

Good to see you Greyskull, and good to hear you had an anxiety free day on Friday- let it be the first of many.

Hope your cold clears up soon ellielou, I'm glad the dr came out to you and reassured you. Sounds like dd2 had a lovely birthday, how old was she?

I am sat here absolutely stuffed after eating a rather yummy (even if I do say so myself) roast dinner. I have been eating far too much crap lately and my jeans felt tight this morning so I am going to start cutting back as from tomorrow- I am no good at diets, but I have to do something!

Have had a pretty lazy day, which was lovely. The dcs are watching The Aristocats before they go off to bed so dp and I can watch X Factor in peace- those twins must go tonight surely?!

Thank you everyone for being so supportive, it has really helped

I didn't cook a dinner today as ds was playing footie. We had pasta! Pasta on a Sunday - I ask you!!! Well I will cook a Sunday dinner tomorrow.
ds15 was sat watching Aristocats earlier smiling away!You think they are all grown up and then they do that

evening all,
feeling really anxty this evening, havn't had a bad day, no real reason I can put my finger on, have had one big panic and the rest just seems to be a bonstant.
I know a part of it is that I am not really in control of what I am doing this week, feel like I haven't got enough hours to do the things I need to do. I also have to see my mother this coming weekend for her birthday, I am worrying about it already.

sorry for whinge... will retreat back to my corner

Oh Greyskull, don't be sorry, come out of your corner . What is worrying you about your mothers visit?

I just typed out a huge long reply, but you know reading it back, it just makes me look paranoid.
It makes all my hair stand on end with fear, I feel sick thinking about it.

Oh love

Do you not have a very good relationship (probably a silly question!) with her? Did it help to get it all out, even if you don't want to post it here?

we have a superficial relationship, she is a really good grandmother and the boys love her to bits, but really the deeper I get into my therapy the more destructive I realise she has been in my life.